Impendulo yombuzo wokuthi uthando luhlala kanjani ebuhlotsheni, izibalo azikho ithemba - eminyakeni engaba ngu-3 kuphela, emva kwalokho ama-45% wezimbili awela eceleni. Kodwa-ke, imibono emisha ibonakala njalo, ichaza ukuthi uthando luni, kanye nobude obunquma.
Uthando luhlala isikhathi esingakanani emshadweni?
Kusukela ekubukeni kwezinto eziphilayo, uthando luwumphumela we-"cocktail" we-hormonal efika egazini, okudala ukudideka kwemicabango, ukulala , ukulala , isimo sokujabula kanye nezinye izimpawu zalesi sizwa. Lesi simo sothando olunzima sithatha isikhathi esifushane - kuze kube izinyanga eziyisithupha. Futhi uma abathandekayo emva kwalesi sikhathi bahlala ndawonye, izinqubo ezihlukene ngokuphelele zengqondo zifakiwe.
Ngokuvamile, umbuzo wokuthi uthando luhlala kangakanani, uzama ukuphendula ngengqondo. Ochwepheshe bahlukanisa izigaba eziningana zothando, ezilandelana ngokulandelana:
- uthando, uthando - lesi sigaba sithatha ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kuya emasontweni amaningana, sibonakala ukukhathazeka ngemicabango ngento yokufisa, ukungakwazi ukucabanga ngenye into (isibonelo esaziwayo sobuthongo olunjalo - i-Romeo ne-Juliet);
- Uthando olunemibandela luyisigaba eside, oluhlala ezinyangeni eziningana kuya eminyakeni eyi-1.5-2, olubonakala ngokubonakala kwemizwa, lapho lo mthandi elindele ukuthi into enesithakazelo iyohambisana nezifiso zakhe;
- ukuguquka ekuthandeni - lesi sigaba sithatha iminyaka engu-1-2, ebonakala ngokunciphisa ekutheni ukukhathazeka kanye nesifiso sokuhlangana ndawonye ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukwethemba, ukwethula, isifiso sokwehliswa siqala ukuqinisa ebuhlotsheni;
- uthando - lesi sigaba singahlala iminyaka eminingi, uma ukuqonda okuhambisanayo, inhlonipho nobungane kubusa phakathi kwabathandekayo, ubudlelwane obukhona ngalesi sigaba abusekelwe kuma-hormone, kodwa ngokunamathiselwe nokugcinwa kwesithakazelo socansi.
Uthando luhlala isikhathi eside kangakanani?
Uthando ekude alukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi umuzwa ovamile, kodwa ngokuvamile uhlala isikhathi eside kunomndeni ojwayelekile. Abantu abathola uthando kude bangahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili:
- "Fanatki" - kaningi leli qembu lihlanganisa amantombazane abanesithakazelo sezindaba zomphakathi;
- abathandekayo, abahlala ndawonye ngokweqile, kodwa ukuhlangana ngezikhathi ezithile - kulesi simo izimbhangqwana eziningi zanamuhla ziwa, okumele zaneliswe umshado "wamabanga" noma ubuhlobo obuseduze.
Uthando luka "fanatok" aludluli isikhathi eside ngenxa yokuthi akunakwenzeka ukudumazeka ngothando, ngoba abahlangani naye. Ubuhlobo obunjalo buyingxenye ethile yokwelashwa, futhi ungawaqeda kuphela ngokuthanda umuntu ovamile.
Ukuhlala ngokuzithandela abathandi banamathuba aphezulu phezu kwemibhangqwana evamile - abafungi ngenxa yezinkinga zansuku zonke, umhlangano ngamunye ufana neholide. Yingakho ubuhlobo obunjalo buhlala buqinile. Kodwa-ke, kulokhu, kwakukhona "imfucumfucu" - uma lo mbhangqwana uqala ukuhlala ndawonye unomphela, izingxabano eziphakathi kwazo ziyoba lubi kakhulu kunezezimbhangqwana ezivamile,
Uthando luhlala isikhathi esingakanani ngemuva kokuhlukanisa?
Ngokwezibalo, ngemva kweminyaka engu-10 yomshado, imibhangqwana engaba ngu-70% ihlukana. Futhi hhayi njalo bobabili bobabili ngesikhathi esifanayo bafuna ukuhlukanisa, okusho ukuthi omunye womshado uqhubeka ethanda. Lezi zihluthulelo zothando zingadla iminyaka, ngoba umshado kulokhu kuyinkqubo engaphelele. Ngezinqubo ezingapheli, noma i-gestalt, izazi zengqondo zisebenza, zisiza ukuqeda lesi simo esibucayi, kanye nezici zesisebenzi - ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, njll. Ngemva kokuthola usizo lomuntu osebenza ngengqondo, umuntu angasusa uthando olungalungile ngemuva kokuhlukanisa futhi aqale impilo entsha, futhi, ngokushesha kwenzeke, kube ngcono.