Ngaki kaningi, lapho sibheka emuva, siyabona ukuthi usizi lomuntu siqu luye lwabhekana nenye yalezi zenzakalo ukuthi, emva kweminyaka, kubonakala sengathi sishaywa ngisho nokushaywa. Omunye wabo usekhulile njengezwe: amadoda abuyela emuva.
Washiya, futhi ngomzuzwana ukuthukuthela kwamenza enzondo. Khona-ke, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, yonke into yayibukeka kuhle kuphela, kepha emphefumulweni wami kwakhanya ukukhanya okungaqondakali kwesifiso sokuziphindiselela. Kamuva, futhi inzondo yadlula, kwaba nobuhlungu futhi bekulangazelela othandekayo. Okubi sekunyamalekile enkumbulweni, futhi kubonakala sengathi izikhathi ezinjalo ezimangalisayo njengokuthi, ngeke ziphinde zibe khona. Uqala ukuzibeka icala futhi uqhubeke ulindele, mhlawumbe ngoba nje wawulindele ukulinda. Amadoda avela empilweni yakho awadluli uvivinyo "njengoye." Futhi ungavumeli injabulo ekuphileni kwakho, mhlawumbe ngokucophelela. Mhlawumbe uzama ukuyibuyisela, kepha ayikahle ngempumelelo.
Futhi ekugcineni unomuzwa wokuthi ukuphila kuqala ukuletha injabulo. Uqala ukugqugquzela imibono yabantu abangabazi, usakaze amaphiko akho. Uhlangana nomuntu omusha. Uzwa amanothi ajwayelekile othando enhliziyweni yakho. Futhi ngokuzumayo uvela ...
Kungani amadoda abuyela emuva, futhi kungani ingqondo yabo yokwenza kwengqondo ukuze bakhethe isikhashana esingenakwenzeka kulokhu? Njengale ngoma: "Ngizoyeka ukulinda, futhi uzofika ... ngokuzumayo."
Kungani amadoda ebuyela njalo?
Kulungile, ake siqale ngalokho okungahlali njalo. Kodwa kaningi. Okokuqala udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani abantu besiphosa, futhi kuphela - kungani babuya.
Mhlawumbe ubuhlobo bakho buya endaweni lapho eyeka ukuzizwa efana nendoda. Indlela ayenayo ngawe ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Awusayikubonga (futhi mhlawumbe usuvele ucasulayo) umqondo wakhe wokuhlekisa, uyambona njengengxenye efanele ekuphileni kwakho. Awuzami ukubukeka sengathi uvele ushiye ubuhle be-salon. Futhi nansi ohleka ngamahlaya akhe, lowo ohlale ejabule futhi ehlelekile kahle. Indoda izimisele, uzizwa edingekayo, ethandwa. Futhi ushiya lapho ejabule khona, lapho ukuphila kungavunyelwe khona amahlazo nokuphila kwansuku zonke.
Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile amadoda abuya kuleli cala. Njengomthetho, ngokushesha nje kuphela ekupheleni kwesikhathi se-bouquet-candy ngesithando esisha. Lapho ethola ukuthi amahlaya akhe ayasabeki, futhi amahlazo ayenzeka kaningi. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ngoba sivame ukukhetha uhlobo oluthile lwabantu, oluhambisana nokubuka kwethu kwezwe. Futhi lowo oqala ukuqala ukukukhumbula, futhi izinkumbulo zakhe zivame ukudwetshwa ngamathoni afudumele. Khona-ke, ngokujula, le ndoda ivame ukubuyela emndenini.
Kuziphi ezinye izimo amadoda ethu abuya? Ake sicabangele lesi sibonelo.
Mhlawumbe uzilethe e-altare lomndeni. Ngithwele umyeni wami njengomntwana omncane. Ngikhohliwe ngami. Ezimweni ezinjalo, le ndoda inesilingo esikhulu futhi iziphatha njengomntwana omncane. Thatha okungagunyaziwe. Ukuzulazula ukukhathazeka, ngokubona kwabo, abanakekeli be-hyper-careers. Futhi umyeni washiya. Ngoba uzimele. Akudingeki ukuthi, bangaki amadoda abuya kule simo. Yiqiniso, ngokushesha nje lapho bezwa ukuthi abanayo imfudumalo eyaneleyo nokunakekelwa. Owesifazane omncane uzonikeza ukunakekelwa okungaka ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Okokuqala, ingane ishiye
Kwenzekani-ke ukuthi indoda igcwele amandla noma uthando. Wawuyisibonelo somfazi ongcono kunazo zonke emhlabeni, futhi manje usuhlale emgodini ophukile. Ingabe amadoda avame ukubuyela kubafazi abahle? Yebo. Kodwa, ngeshwa, umbono wabo ngezinye izikhathi umvimbela. Abaningi baqala ukuhlazisa umkakhe, bezama ukufakazela umhlaba wonke kanye naye ukuthi kukhona amandla amaningi namandla kuye. Ngifanele ngithathe umuntu onjalo, uma ebuya emndenini, kufike kuwe ...