Ingabe ubiza ikholi yakho njalo lapho esebenza bese uqala ukukhathazeka uma engaphenduli ucingo? Futhi ngezinye izikhathi angaphenduli noma alahle, futhi ngisho nasezincingo izinombolo ezingavamile zivele. Mhlawumbe unomunye futhi uyashintsha, uma umlinda nsuku zonke ngaphandle kokuthola indawo? Ukuhleleka kokungathengi akunakuqedwa ngokuphelele, kepha omunye kufanele ahlole ukuthi "ucebile", mhlawumbe ucindezela kakhulu kumuntu wakho?
Kungani ulawula?
Wonke umuntu, ngisho nowesifazane onamandla kunazo zonke uyaqonda ukuthi ukulawula okuphelele - indlela ayiphutha ngokuyisisekelo, kodwa lokhu ngeke kumvimbele ekulandeleni isinyathelo ngasinye somuntu wakhe. Kuvela kuphi lesi sifiso? Izazi zengqondo zithi zivela engxenyeni yezingxenye ezimbili - umhawu nokukhathalela. Kodwa kungani abesifazane abathile bengenzi isinyathelo sokuhambisa umlingani wabo, kuyilapho abanye bephendula ngesineke ngokuntuleka kwezingcingo zakhe ngosuku lokusebenza? Ingabe azikhangi neze noma azikhathaleli indoda? Eqinisweni, lesi simo sengqondo akusona isibonakaliso sokungakhathaleli, nje kuphela ukuthi laba besifazane bafuna ukubona umlingani eduze komunye nomunye, hhayi inceku. Nakuba, mhlawumbe, abesifazane abadlala indima yama-puppeteers, abazi nje ukuthi baziphathe kanjani ngokuhlukile, ngoba bebelokhu belawulwa ngokuqinile kusukela ebuntwaneni.
Ukunakekelwa kuphenduka kanjani ukulawula?
Abaningi bangasho ukuthi abazange bacabange ukulawula indoda yabo, bavele bakhathazeke kakhulu ngaye futhi bafuna ukuthi konke kulungile. Kodwa ukhathalela ngokweqile akusikho konke umuntu akudingayo, ngakho-ke. Uyamvikela, wenze lokho acabanga ukuthi kuyoba ngcono, umtshele njalo ukuthi kufanele akwenze, shayela ukuthola ukuthi imiyalo yakho igcwalisiwe. Futhi iphutha ukuthi awucabangi ngisho nokuba nesithakazelo ezifisweni zakhe, ngokweqile ukubeka intando yakhe phezu kwakhe. Okuzokwenzeka ngokulandelayo, akunzima ukubikezela - lo mlingani uzosho ukuthi "ukhulu kakhulu empilweni yakhe" futhi uzohamba efuna lowo ongamthinteli ngokunakekelwa kwakhe. Yiqiniso, kukhona amadoda avumela ngokuzithandela ukwelashwa okunjalo, ngokuvamile laba ngamama omama, abajwayele ukunakekelwa komzali wabo. Umuntu onjalo udinga ukuthola umuntu ozoxazulula zonke izinkinga zakhe, futhi wena ngokwakho unikeza leli thuba. Ekugcineni, uyobe ejwayele ukuba ngaphansi kwezithende zakho, ukuthi uzolahlekelwa amandla okwenza okungenani izinqumo ezithile ezizimele, okuzobe usho ngakho. Ngakho-ke kuze kube yilapho engenzeki, zidonsa ndawonye bese unikeza othandekayo wakho inkululeko encane, lokhu ngeke kumenze afune ukuphunyuka.
Lahla i-spy mania
Khumbula, ukunakekelwa kwangempela ngeke kuboniswe ngesifiso sokuhlala unakekele ukushayela. Phuma umkhuba wokubiza othandekayo wakho njalo ihora futhi uhlele ukuhlolwa okuningiliziwe, noma ukukhathazeka, noma, nakakhulu, uthole noma yikuphi amadivaysi okumisa ukuzwa yonke ingxoxo. Uzoba nesikhathi sokukhuluma ekhaya, ake uphefumula ngokukhululekile, futhi uzikhathalele, esikhundleni sokuchitha isikhathi nemali engenamsebenzi empeleni izingxoxo. Uma othandekayo ethembise ukuthi uzobuya emsebenzini ngesikhathi esithile futhi ephuzile imizuzu engu-5, ungambizi futhi ubuze ukuthi kungani isikhathi eside kangaka. Futhi ushiye umkhuba wokuphazamisa imihlangano yakhe nabangani ngezingcingo zakhe-nikeza umuntu ithuba lokuphumula. Ngokuvamile, sebenzisa ifoni uma kudingeka ngempela,
Olunye umsebenzi ozithandayo wabesifazane abaningi ufunda ama-sms, ukubuka othintana nabo efonini, ukuhlola amaphakheji, ukulandelela amaphrofayela kumanethiwekhi omphakathi , njll. Lokhu kuziphatha kungachazwa (kodwa kungavunyelwe) kuphela uma kukhona ukusola okungokoqobo kokuhlukumezeka, ngenxa yokuthi ufisa ukwazi ngoxhumana naye, ungenzi lokhu. Yebo, kufanele wazi ngabangane bakhe nozakwabo, kodwa mnike ithuba lokutshela konke mayelana nakho konke, ungadlali isisebenzi seGestapo. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungenzi izinqumo kumuntu wakho, thintana naye (empeleni, hhayi "uphawu"), futhi ungacasuli uma imibono yakho ihlukana.