Wonke umuntu angaba nesifiso sokushintsha okwedlule. Mhlawumbe, uma ezinye izimo zihlukile, noma ngabe sasiyinqaba yesinqumo, ngabe senze ukhetho oluhlukile, bese ukuphila kwahluke ngokuphelele.
Ngingashintsha okwedlule?
Sifuna ukushintsha ezinye izenzo, noma izenzakalo ezilethe ubuhlungu. Kunzima ukuqaphela ukuthi okudlule akukwazi ukuguqulwa. Kukhona umuzwa wokungabi namandla, kodwa akukhona konke okungenathemba. Yeka ukuthi kuyamangalisa kanjani futhi kuyinqaba kungase kuzwakale, kodwa okwedlule kuncike kithi.
Ungashintsha kanjani ngempela okwedlule?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ezenzakalweni ezenzeka ngaphambili. Lezi zenzakalo zizothola incazelo ehluke ngokuphelele, futhi ngenxa yalokho, umthelela walezi zenzakalo kuzoshintsha. Ngokuyisisekelo, yilokhu esikufunayo ukuguqula okwedlule, ngoba izinkumbulo ezinzima kakhulu zivimbela ukuba siphile ngokugcwele okwamanje.
Kukhona indlela yokushintsha okudlule ukunciphisa ubuhlungu, ukudlulisa ukuzisola nokudabuka, nokunciphisa ukuhlupheka. Kudingeka ushintshe isimo sengqondo kulokho okwenzekile kakade. Yebo, izimo ngeke zinyamalale esikhathini esedlule, kodwa zingashintshwa zibe amaqiniso nje avela ekuphileni okwakukhona, kodwa ezingenakulila futhi zibangele ubuhlungu.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi asazi ukuthi impilo yayiyokwakhiwa kanjani, uma kwakungakaze kube khona umcimbi lapho sifuna ukushintsha ngazo zonke izindlela. Mhlawumbe yilokho isimo esasifundiswa, noma sanikeza amandla ekuthuthukisweni , sibe yisifundo sokuphila kwangempela. Konke okwenzeka kithi kunesimo esithile esiqondile, futhi yisikhathi kuphela esizosisiza ukuba siqaphele. Akumangalisi ukuthi: "Ngeke kube khona injabulo, kodwa insizakalo yabasiza."
Ukuze uziqonde futhi ushintshe isimo sakho sengqondo esikhathini esidlule, futhi ngenxa yalokho, okwedlule uqobo, ungakwazi, uma ukhulula, ngoba uyaziwa ukuthi lowo ohlala esikhathini esidlule angeke aphile ngokugcwele esikhathini esizayo.