Ngomuntu ngamunye, ukuzethemba kungumgomo obalulekile ovumela umuntu ukuba akhe ngendlela efanele. Futhi ekukhuleni, ukubaluleka kwayo akukwazi ukuxoshwa! Uma ukuzethemba komuntu osemusha kuyanele, amathuba akhe okuphila okuphumelelayo akhula. Kusho ukuthini "okwanele"? Lapho ingane ikwazi ukuhlola ngamakhono akhe ngokuqondile, iyaqaphela indawo ayithatha eqenjini nasemphakathini wonke. Akumangalisi ukuthi kubazali, izinga lokuzihlola ngobuntu bezingane zabo ezisencane lidlala indima ebalulekile, ngoba ukunakekela ikusasa layo kuwumsebenzi oyinhloko. Kodwa-ke, akubona wonke umuntu oqonda futhi oqonda indlela yokukhulisa indodana noma indodakazi ukuze ukuzethemba kuwanele.
Isikole esiphakeme
Masiqaphele masinyane, ukuthi kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila ukuziqhathanisa kwezingane kuyinaphutha! Kodwa ekhula, ingane iqonda ukuthi yini ebaluleke kunazo zonke kubazali, futhi umhlaba wonke wenzelwe yena kuphela. Ngakho-ke ukwakheka kokuzihlonipha ngokweqile. Ngaphambi kokukhula esikoleni, kusondela okwanele, ngoba izinyane libhekene nezinto ezingokoqobo zezwe elizungezile: akuyona ingane eyodwa emhlabeni, futhi uyayithanda ezinye izingane. Kuphela esikoleni esiphakathi esikoleni kukhona isidingo sokulungiswa kanye nokubunjwa kokuzihlonipha kwabaselula, njengabanye kuvele kuvele, kanti kwabanye kubhidliza.
Kusukela esemncane, ukwakheka kokuzihlonipha kwengane kwakuthonywe ikakhulu ngabazali, othisha enkulisa, othisha. Esikhathini esiphakathi esikoleni, ontanga baya phambili. Lapha kakade amamaki amahle ayingxenye ayidlala - kubafundi esikoleni kanye nabangane izimfanelo zomuntu siqu (ikhono lokuxhumana, ukuvikela isikhundla, ukuba abangane, njll) kubaluleke kakhulu.
Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abantu abadala kufanele basize le ntsha ukuthi iphathe izifiso zayo, imizwa, imizwelo, igcizelele izici ezinhle futhi ilahle izinto ezimbi. Ukugxila kuphela ekusebenzeni kwezemfundo akuyona inketho. Esikhathini esiphakathi esikoleni, ukuzihlonipha kwentombazane kungaba yindlala, futhi okuyiqiniso ukuthi kukhona ingozi yokudlula. Ngokuphathelene nokwehlisa ukuzethemba komholi wezingane nentsha kakhulu phakathi kokukhishwa kwentsha. Kokubili okukhethwa kukho kokuqala nesesibili kuyisignali ukuthi izinyathelo eziphuthumayo kufanele zithathwe. Abazali kudingeka ba:
- usizo nokusekelwa;
- ithemba;
- ubulungiswa;
- Inhlonipho;
- ukungabi khona kokulawula okuphelele;
- inzalo ezenzweni zokuzilibazisa zentsha.
Isikole esiphakeme
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi izinga lokuziqhenya nokuzihlonipha umfundi wesikoleni esiphakeme kuba umphumela wobudlelwano noontanga. Uma ingane ingumholi ngokwemvelo noma ukukhishwa, akudingekile ukuba kulindeleke ukuthi ingane ikwazi ukuzethemba. Amaphilisi ezinkampani angakwazi ukuguqula ukuhluleka kwabo kanye nokufakela ukungena kwizintandokazi, ukubeka isibonelo kwabanye. Lokhu kuphakamisa endaweni ephakeme, futhi eqinisweni, ngokushesha noma kamuva kuwela ngeke kugwenywe! Ngaphambi kokuba ingane isetshenziswe ukuthi ukuzitshela kancane ngeke kumlimaze. Abazali kufanele baqonde ukuthi ukudunyiswa okungavumelekile kuyindlela eqondile yokwenza i-narcissism.
Endabeni yokuzihlonipha okuphansi, okwakhiwa enganeni ethandwayo lomndeni, othandana nabo ekilasini, uthando olungathandeki, ukuzishaya ngokweqile, ukunganaki, izinto ziyinkimbinkimbi. Ngeshwa, yizingane ezivame ukucabanga ngokushiya ekhaya ngisho nokuzibulala . Intombazane idinga ukunakekelwa okukhulu, uthando, inhlonipho. Ngisho noma efanelwe ukugxekwa, kufanele ubaleke kuso. Kodwa kuzo zonke izimfanelo nezenzo ezinhle, kubalulekile ukugcizelela ukuthi ingane iyayiqonda ukuthi ifanelwe udumo nenhlonipho.
Ukufundisa umuntu ozizethembayo akulula, kodwa abazali abanothando bangakwenza konke!