Owesifazane namuhla uzama ukuba yonke indawo futhi njalo kuqala. Ukulinganisa okuphelele, ukucwenga, ikhabethe, ukuhleleka okuphelele endlini, ukuthuthuka okusheshayo emkhakheni wezemisebenzi, impilo yomuntu siqu iphumelele - akuyona yonke into eyenziwa yilo wesifazane wanamuhla. Futhi lokhu akukubi, kodwa kuncomeka kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, njengoba wazi, konke kulungile ekulinganiseni. Ukunciphisa ngokweqile, ukuzishisa nokuzama njalo ukuthola umphumela omuhle esikubiza ngokuthi ukuphelela. Lokho, ekuboneni kokuqala, umsebenzi ohloniphekile ungabangela wonke umuntu ukuba ahlaselwe ukwesaba, futhi lokho nakho kuholela ekudleni okukhulu, ukucindezeleka. Ngokuqinisekile, isifo sabesifazane besigaba sama-21 singukuphelela, ngakho-ke kudingekile ukuba siqonde ukuthi singalwa kanjani.
Okokuqala, ake sibheke incazelo yegama lokuphelela ekuziphatheni kwengqondo. Kusukela ekubukeni kwesayensi, ngaphansi kwe-pefectionism kuyaqondwa isifiso esibukhali sokuhlonipha, esingathinta kokubili ubuntu bomuntu kanye nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi. Kukhona ukuphelela okuphilile nokuphilisa. Ngomuntu onempilo uyakwazi ukubona injabulo encane kuphela, ukunakwa kwakhe kugxile emakhono abo kanye nezindlela zokufeza imigomo yabo. Ngokubeka imigomo ephakeme futhi kunqobe indlela yokuzifeza, umuntu uthola injabulo. Ukuphelela okuphelele kwempilo kusho ukuthi umuntu uzibekela izinhloso ezingenakulinganiswa futhi akahambisani nabo ngenxa yokufisa nokuzijabulisa, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukwehluleka. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuphishekela ukuhleleka kuphenduka ukuzithokozisa.
Isifiso sokwenza okuhle sivelaphi?
Izimbangela zokuphelela okunjalo okungapheli kahle zivame ukubekwe ebuntwaneni ngabazali. Mhlawumbe bakubonise ukuziphatha kwabo ukuthi uma ungabonakali umphumela omuhle kunento ethile, khona-ke udumise futhi unake amehlo awuboni. Yile ndlela indlela yokuzihlonipha ngayo nokwesaba ukuzwa sengathi ulahlekile. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi lapho umuntu esemdala akekho odingayo umphumela omuhle, kodwa uyayidinga wena-ukuze uzenzele ukuzethemba, ukuzibonakalisa ukuthi ufanele okuthile.
Indlela yokubhekana nokuphelelisa?
Uma uqaphele ukuthi ukuzama impilo engcono akuzange kukulethele isikhathi eside, lapho ukwelashwa ukuphelela okuyiseluleko esincane kodwa esiwusizo kuzokusiza:
- Funda ukubeka phambili, ukuhlukanisa imigomo ngokubaluleka, futhi usakaze imizamo yakho ngendlela ephumelela kakhulu.
- Zinike ilungelo lokungahlale uphelele kunoma yini, ngoba wonke umuntu unemigomo yakhe yobuhle futhi ngeke ujabule wonke umuntu.
- Ukuze ugcine isimo sakho somzimba nesokomzwelo kubalulekile ukufunda ukuphumula, umsebenzi ohlukile nokuphumula.
- Uma kunokwenzeka, kuphakanyiswa ukuthatha amakhefu futhi emva kwesikhathi ubheke umsebenzi osuvele usubonile ngokubukeka okusha. Mhlawumbe akukubi njengoba ucabanga ekuqaleni.
- Zinike ilungelo lamanye amaphutha nokugxeka ekhelini lakho, ngoba ukugxekwa kusho intshisekelo emsebenzini wakho nenkolelo yokuthi ungcono.
- Kancane ngangokunokwenzeka uziqhathanise nabanye futhi ungazithembi ngokuhluleka, uthathe njengenhlobo ethile yokuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufunda ukuzidumisa, ukubona kuwe hhayi kuphela amaphutha, kodwa futhi nobuhle futhi uvame ukuzikhumbuza.
- Okokugcina, thola umsebenzi ngomphefumulo, ngenxa yenjabulo, hhayi umphumela.
Ngokuvamile kubonakala ngathi abaphelelisi bezimiso zokuphumelela, bajabule kakhulu futhi banenjabulo kunathi. Kodwa-ke, laba ngabantu abahlale benganelisekile ngokwabo, bahlale bengakhululekile futhi abazi kahle impilo engokomoya. Ukuze ekugcineni ulahle ukuphelela, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi izwe ngeke lifinyelele ukuphelela, ngakho akufanele ufune kuye futhi wena ngokwakho akunakwenzeka.