Kunezindlela eziningi zokufeza umgomo wakho: ungakwazi ukukhohlisa, ukukholisa, ungaqhubeka, futhi ungafunda ukuthi ungasebenzisa kanjani abantu , bese bezokwenza konke okukufunayo esitsheni sesiliva, futhi bakholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi lokhu kuyisinqumo sabo. Futhi lezi akuzona izindaba ezinhle, ingqondo ye-manipulation yabantu ivula amathemba amakhulu ngempela. Okunye okuwukuthi akubona bonke abamele insizakalo yalolu lwazi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, kodwa nokho impendulo ikhona ebusweni - ubudlelwane namadoda.
I-Psychology yokuphatha indoda
Ngokuvamile, wonke owesifazane ujwayele ukuqonda indlela yokuphatha indoda , abantu abathile kuphela basebenzise le nqubo esikhundleni sokwehlukana, ngokwesibonelo, benqaba "ukungena emzimbeni", bezama ukuxoxisana okuthile. Indlela ayiyona ephumelela kakhulu, isebenza kuphela isikhathi sokuba nobuhlobo besikhathi eside. Yiqiniso, uyaziphendulela ngamaphesenti angama-99 ekuqaleni kokuzijwayeza kwakhe, "ukuwa kwe-citadel" okusheshayo kakhulu, "bambalwa abantu okufanele balale. Kodwa ukuhlakanipha kwabantu ngendlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu ngesisu kunembile kakhulu kunabanye, ngokuqinisekile uqaphele ukuthi ngemva kokudla okudliwayo okumnandi umuntu uzwela futhi uqonda ngokuhlukile.
Psychology yokuphathwa kwabantu
Lolu hlobo lokuxhaphaza luhilela ukusebenzisa kahle imishwana yephethini engasiza ekufezeni umgomo. Isibonelo, ukukhuthaza umuntu ukuba enze lokho okufunayo, ingabe imisho "Ngiyakwazi ukuthi ngenxa yami uzokwenza noma yini," "konke kuzoba kuhle, ungacabangi ngalutho," "wena ngokwakho uyayifuna." Kodwa wonke umuntu omele isigamu esiphezulu kudingeka afune indlela yakhe, umuntu udinga ukudunyiswa, futhi othile unomdlandla kangangokuthi kulula ukuthola lokho okufunayo kuye, "emthatha ngokubuthakathaka." Indoda yakho ngokwayo izokusiza ngokusizakala kwakho, ufunde ukuthi imiphi imizwelo ebangela ukuhlasela kwakhe
Uma izinketho ezingenhla zingahambisani nawe, zama enye indlela yokuxhaphaza, fihla umgomo wakho oyinhloko ngaphansi kwe-chain of oda ezincane. Kunzima kwabaningi ukuthatha umsebenzi womhlaba wonke ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa kuyoba lula ukuwufeza kancane kancane. Mane ungabonakali masinyane ukukhohlisa kwakho, bese-ke indoda izoqonda ukuthi unqume ukumshaya, futhi ulahlekelwa yilowo omelela ubulili obuqinile engathandanga. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi umlingani wakho angaphinde akusebenze, futhi emandleni akho ukwenza lokhu "umdlalo we-chess" ujabulise ngempela.