Amadoda ahleka njalo ngesifiso samantombazane sokuthola isikhulu, kodwa bona ngokwabo bathanda ukucabangela izimfanelo nemithetho yowesifazane wangempela, ukuphupha ukuthi unkosikazi omuhle kangakanani, umthandi ohlakaniphile nomama onakekelayo. Yiqiniso, kulokhu, ukukhuluma ngento engokoqobo yokuthola okuvela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi zomfazi kususwa ngokucophelela.
Owesifazane wangempela, uthanda ukuthini?
Ubani ofanelwe isikhundla esiphakeme kangaka: unina wezingane eziyisikhombisa, owesifazane ophumelelayo webhizinisi noma ophumelele emincintiswaneni yobuhle? Noma mhlawumbe ngalokhu kufanele ufeze imiphumela evelele emidlalweni, noma uvikele udokotela ku-physics yenukliya? Uma ulalela amadoda ngamunye, khona-ke owesifazane wangempela kufanele ahlanganise zonke lezi zimpawu. Eqinisweni, lokhu akukwenzeka, ngakho-ke lezi zidingo kufanele zibuyekezwe, ngenxa yalokho kuneziminganiso ezimbili eziyisisekelo kuphela: i-borsch nesithombe esihle.
Futhi njengoba abameleli bobulili obuqinile bengakwazi ukutshela ngokucacile ukuthi ungubani owesifazane wangempela, kufanele uzibeke ngokuzimela imithetho yezibuntu ezinjalo ezivelele. Abomama besifazane nabo abahlale bekulungele ukuhumusha lo mqondo oyinkimbinkimbi ngokuhlakanipha. Abanye babika ukuthi owesifazane wangempela uziphatha njengendlovukazi, ngakho-ke bobabili bobabili bagxiliwe, futhi zonke izinkomba zenziwa ngesicelo esisodwa somqondo endaweni yonke. Abanye bakhuluma nge-fleur yokukhanga okungenasisindo, okuyinto ngisho nokulula okungaba khona.
Kuvela ukuthi izimfanelo ezithile owesifazane wangempela okufanele abe nazo emvelweni akakho, futhi noma ngubani onjalo angakwazi ukugqoka isihloko esinjalo, kodwa kuphela indoda yakhe ethandekayo ingamvuza. Ngoba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi u-Emancipated Lady uhlala kanjani, wonke umuntu ufuna ukufudumala. Kodwa ukuze uzithole, kuzomele uzame kanzima ukuze ube umlingani ohle kumlingani wakho, wonke umuntu ofuna ukumisa njengesibonelo. Futhi-ke kunombuzo ozwakalayo ngokukhula komsebenzi. Ukukhathazeka ukuthi ukuthola isimo sowesifazane wangempela, akudingeki neze ukuba unqobe izindawo eziphakeme zebhizinisi lezinkampani. Nakhu abacebisi basomama besifazane abakhuluma ngesidingo sokucabanga ngezidingo zabo siqu. Kukhona isifiso sokubandakanyeka kuphela emndenini, ube owesifazane wangempela futhi udale ukuziqhenya, ungakhohlwa ukuhlala unentshisekelo (hhayi nje ngamagama ngokomzimba) kumyeni wakhe. Futhi uma kungenzeka ukuzibonela kubonakala ngokusebenzisa ukuphelela okuphelele, khona-ke funda ubuciko bokulinganisana emkhatsini womndeni nomsebenzi, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa umthamo wesifazane sakho sangempela.