Ubuciko bokuziphatha obunobuthi hhayi nje kuphela ukuvala abantu, kodwa futhi kumnikazi wabo. Emva kwakho konke, uma uhlamvu lomuntu siqu luletha izinkinga ngokulandelana, khona-ke kunzima ukuzithandayo. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukuzithemba kuyawa futhi kusekhona izinkinga zasolwandle. Kulesi simo, kunzima ukuthola indlela enengqondo yokuphuma, indlela yokulungisa uhlamvu olubi. Akulula kakhulu, kodwa ngokuzithiba okuvamile kungenzeka.
Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izimfanelo zesimo esibi futhi okufanele zilungiswe?
Ukuzihlonipha okungenakuzwakalayo, i-narcissism
Ukuzithanda kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ungayibonakali. Ukuzithandela kufana nezembatho zangaphansi: kufanele kube yi-chic, kodwa akekho owubekayo ekubonisweni. Uma uzicabangela obala ukuthi uhlakaniphe kunabanye futhi uvumele ukuzwakala, maduzane ngeke kube khona oshiywe kumbuthano wakho. Kungenzeka yini ukulungisa uhlamvu olubi? Kulula. Nsuku zonke, zitshele ukuthi wonke umuntu unelungelo lokubona nokuhlonipha kwakho.
Ukukhwabanisa, ukushesha okusheshayo, i-hysteria
Ukungakwazi ukulawula imizwelo yomuntu siqu kanye nomkhuba wokuphuma kwabanye abantu yisici esibi kunawo wonke. Kungenxa yalokho ukuthi imindeni ihlukana, futhi izingane zikhula ngengqondo ewonakele. Ukuze uzilawule, ungase ufunde ngokwengqondo ku-10, uphuze ingilazi yamanzi ngaphambi kokuqhubeka ukhuluma noma uthathe isikhashana. Funda ukuhlakaza imizwelo kwenye indawo: bhalisela i-gym noma ugijime.
Umkhuba wokuqamba amanga, izimo ezixubile, hhayi ukuvuma amaphutha akho
Eluhlu lwezimfanelo zobuntu obubi, amanga azohlala ekhona ezindaweni ezihamba phambili. Kungani abantu beqamba amanga? Ukuze kubonakale kungcono, ukufihla amaphutha abo, ukuze ungatholi isijeziso esifanele. Ngokuvamile, amanga ukubonakaliswa kwesibindi sokulingana. Funda ukuthatha umthwalo wemisebenzi yezenzo zakho, amagama nokuziphatha, futhi isidingo sokuqamba amanga sizohamba ngokwawo. Uma amagama akho engathembeki, khona-ke ayinalutho. Futhi uma usho njalo amazwi angenalutho - ke ungumuntu ongenalutho.
Isikhathi sokukhala, ukucasula, ukukhononda
Uma unomkhuba wokukhuluma ngezinto ezimbi ngaso sonke isikhathi, khona-ke usuke uthukuthele kabi. Eqinisweni, kunzima ukuhlala eduze nomuntu owenza kuphela, ukuthi ubona izinkinga nezithiyo kuzo zonke izinto, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka nganoma yini. Siza: faka ekudleni kwebhanana, ushokoledi omunyu, amantongomane, ama-citrus - le mikhiqizo iqukethe i-serotonin, i-hormone yenjabulo. Thatha lo mthetho kunoma yisiphi isimo esinzima ukuthola okungenani izintathu ezintathu - futhi impilo izoshintsha!
Kunezici eziningi ezinhle nezimbi zomlingiswa - zikhethele wena kuphela okuzokusiza ukuba ube umuntu ojabule, olula!