Kwenzeka ukuthi ujwayelane nomuntu, ukubonakala kwakhe akubonakali, kodwa ukhangwa kuye kangangokuba ufuna ukuxhumana naye ngokuphindaphindiwe. Abantu abanjalo banesipho esikhethekile sokumisa abantu abakuzungezile isihawu esingenakuqondakala. Lesi simo asibiza ngokuthi enye ngaphandle kwekhanda lomuntu ngamunye.
Umqondo we-charisma uhunyushwa kusuka esiGrekini, ngokuthi "umusa owanikwa nguNkulunkulu," uphawu olunjalo lwabakhethiweyo. Yingakho kuyathakazelisa kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthuthukisa ubuchopho futhi uma kunjalo, ungayenza kanjani. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi le mfanelo iyingqayizivele, futhi akunakwenzeka ukuyithola ngenkathi yokuphila. Kodwa-ke, kukhona nabasekeli beqiniso lokuthi wonke umuntu unesiqalo esibucayi, okusho ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwesibindi kuyisenzo sokusebenza, nakuba kungelula, kodwa ngempela.
Ake sihle ibhizinisi!
Usizi luzosizwa yizincomo ezinjalo:
- Zithande futhi uzihloniphe ngokwakho, kholelwa ekutheni uhlukile. Kodwa ekwenzeni kanjalo, bukela umzila phakathi kokuzithanda kanye nobugovu.
- Yiba nomuntu othakazelisayo, uvame ukungena ekukhanyeni, uqeqeshe amakhono akho okuxhumana, ungesabi ukujwayela abantu abasha.
- Khombisa ukuphila okusebenzayo, njalo wenze okuthile, ngoba kulula ngaso sonke isikhathi umuntu onentshiseko ukusekela ingxoxo, kuyathakazelisa kwabanye.
- Thatha impilo ngokuzethemba, vuka ekuseni ngesimo esihle, ujabulele nsuku zonke owake waphila, smile kaningi.
- Hlonipha abantu abaseduze nawe, funda hhayi ukulalela kuphela, kodwa futhi ukuzwa. Buza imibuzo mayelana ne-interlocutor, ubonise isithakazelo ebuntwini bakhe.
- Buka indlela yakho yokuxhumana, i-gesticulate encane, ukunyakaza okuningi ekuhambeni.
- I-Charisma yezwi nayo iyingxenye ebalulekile yemfihlo ye-charisma. Veza imicabango yakho, unganqikazi, ngokucacile, ngokucacile, kodwa uhlale uthula ukuze ulalele futhi uzwe ukuthi ukhuluma ngani.
Yini indoda ekhangayo ebonakalayo?
Ukuze uqaphele kalula insizwa enesiyaluyalu esixukwini, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izici ezikhethekile ezithathwe yi-charisma yesilisa. Sicela wazi ukuthi le ndoda:
- Ukuzisiza lapho uxazulula izinkinga akufuni usizo kwabanye.
- I-Galantine, inhlonipho, ibukeka emehlweni, ayibonakaliswa ngokuziphatha kabi, ukuziphatha okunonya nokuziphatha okunzima.
- Ngokuvamile, uthanda umbala omnyama izingubo. Uma ugqoka ithayi, ke phakathi nengxoxo uyayidonsa. Uma kungekho tie, bese uphonsa isitho.
- Ulala embhedeni, kodwa uvuka ekuseni kakhulu. Ihola indlela yokuphila esebenzayo futhi enempilo.
Abantu abanesihawu, banamandla phezu kwabanye. Lokhu kuyisici somholi, kuyasiza, kokubili emsebenzini kanye nokuphila komuntu siqu, ngakho-ke ungayinaki ukuthuthukiswa kwayo futhi lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba ufinyelele impumelelo kunoma iyiphi insimu.