Isikhala somuntu ibanga lapho umuntu angakwazi ukuxhumana kahle nabanye abantu. Ukuphulwa kwemingcele yesikhala somuntu siqu kubonakala ngokungaqondakali njengobonakaliso bokuhlukumezeka, ngakho akujabulisi ukuba umuntu abe esixukwini (ibhasi ngesikhathi sokuphumula). Lapho bejwayele ukuxhumana nabo, amancane amabanga angaba phakathi kwabo. Kodwa yini engasondelana kakhulu kunebudlelwane bomshado, yimuphi uhlobo lokuhlasela kwesithuba somuntu siqu esingayisho kulokhu?
Isikhala somuntu siqu ebuhlotsheni kuyadingeka?
Emshadweni, imingcele yesikhala somuntu siqu ihlukumezekile, abanye abaqondi ukuthi kungani umyeni (umyeni) kudingeka abe nesikhathi kuphela, indawo lapho ungaba yedwa nawe. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, izidingo ziqala ukutshela mayelana nomzuzu wokungabikho ekhaya, ukuhlola amafoni, i-imeyili yomuntu siqu kanye nokuphikisana okuhlobene nokucindezelwa okunjalo. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ebuhlotsheni obucasulayo hhayi kuphela ukuhlasela isikhala somuntu siqu, kodwa futhi ukwephula imingcele yenkampani yolwazi. Lezi zimingcele kufanele zihlonishwe, ngoba bobabili abashadile banelungelo lokungasese, futhi ukulahlekelwa ngokuphelele kwenkululeko kuzobonakala kubuhlungu kakhulu futhi, ekugcineni, kuholele ekuqhekekeni.
Ngokubheka imingcele yesikhala somzimba, sisho ukungahambi kahle kwetafula lokusebenza, izinto eziqondene nomuntu siqu, ukuhlonipha imikhuba yesiqingatha sethu sesibili, uhlobo lobumnene kanye nezici zomzimba zenyama (akusizi ngalutho ukufuna "i-owl" yomsebenzi obullili ekuseni). Kuqembu lesibili lezinto okumelwe lihlale lingenakuvikelwa, ungabandakanya ukuzilibazisa, ithuba lokuxhumana nabangani nokuziqhenya kokuziqhenya. Ngakho-ke, umfazi, efuna umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukudoba futhi ayeke ukubuka ibhola nabangani, ngokungahloniphi kuhlasela isikhala somuntu siqu, esingenakwenzeka kodwa sibangele ukulahlwa okubukhali.
I-Psychology ithi imingcele yesikhala somuntu siqu kufanele ihlonishwe kunoma yikuphi. Ungacabangi ukuthi lezi zimingcele zingahlukanisa abashade nomunye futhi zibhubhise umndeni. Lokhu akunjalo, ngokuphambene nalokho, isimo sengqondo esenhlonipho (hhayi ukudideka nokunganandaba) nezidingo zomunye nomunye sizokwenza umndeni uqine. Uma uzama ukugcwalisa impilo yakho yomlingani wakho, khona-ke uyomane "uyambambe" ngothando lwakho. Ungathanda ukunikeza umbiko kunoma yikuphi ezinyathelo zakho, uzizwa ukuthi uphathwa njengengane engenzi lutho?
Yini enquma ubukhulu bendawo yesikhala somuntu siqu?
Ukwenza ubuhlobo buvumelane, kubalulekile ukunquma imingcele yesikhala sakho somlingani. Kuzo zonke abantu, zihlukile, futhi zixhomeke ezicini eziningi. Izikhathi ezibaluleke kakhulu ezithinta usayizi wendawo yesikhala somuntu siqu, singabiza okulandelayo.
- Uhlobo lomlingiswa. Ama-introverts adinga ubumfihlo obuningi, ukwephulwa okuncane kakhulu kwemingcele yesikhala sabo siqu kungaholela ekuphenduleni okunamandla ngisho nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa. I-Extraverts ayinayo imingcele ecacile yesikhala sabo futhi ayiqondi ukuthi kungani abanye benqaba ukuwavumela kuwo wonke ama-nooks omphefumulo.
- Indawo yokuhlala kanye nobuzwe. Izakhamuzi zemizi emikhulu kusukela ekuzalweni azikho isikhala esikhulu somuntu siqu, ngakho-ke ukuthungathwa komuntu okweqile kungabakhathazi kakhulu njengabakhileyo esifundazweni.
- Ukuzethemba ngokwakho. Ngaphansi komuntu othembekile ngamakhono akhe, nakakhulu
Isikhala somuntu siqu esidinga sona, futhi kunamandla odongeni owakhelwe nguye. - Amasiko omndeni. Uma umuntu ejwayele ukuthi izincwadi, izingxoxo zocingo akuyona imfihlo kunoma yiluphi ilungu lomndeni, bese ziqala ukwakha ubuhlobo bazo, kuzodinga ukuvuleka okufanayo kumlingani wakho.
- Uma uqonda ukuthi imibono yakho nomlingani wakho mayelana nesikhala somuntu siqu ayihambisani, khona-ke kuyadingeka ingxoxo ezolile futhi enhle. Udinga ukuchaza ukuthi kungani ezinye izinto zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kanti ezinye azikhathaleli futhi ngokuqonda ukuphatha isifiso somlingani wakho.