Wonke umuntu empilweni yakhe kwakudingeka akhathazeke. Abaningi bazizwa benomsindo. Kusukela ekubukeni kwezinto eziphilayo, kungachazwa njengobunzima endaweni ye-thoracic, ukwakheka kwe-coma emqaleni, nomuzwa wokuthi usuzokhala. Ngendlela, isikhumba esakhiwe emphinjeni sifakazela ukungaboni amagama, ngesizathu esisodwa noma esinye. Ngokushesha ziba ingxoxo yenkulumo yangaphakathi nomhlukumezi, engqondweni yakho upheqa konke okushiwo umhlukumezi. Ngemuva kwalokho, wonke amandla akho angaphakathi abonakala emile ngokufika kwayo yonke inkhulumomphendvulwano esibhubhisa ngaphakathi.
Singabhekana kanjani nokuhlambalaza?
Umzwelo wokuvakashelwa lapho, ngokwesibonelo, umuntu osondelene nawe enza into ayengenakulindela kusuka kuyo. Ngokumangalisa, kodwa ukufutheka kwenzeka lapho, okudalwe nguwe, isithombe esqondweni yakho asihambisani nezenzakalo zangempela. Khona-ke, lapho ungalindele ngokungazi lutho isenzo esivela kumuntu, ufaka amathemba akho, futhi akazange abafanele, futhi lokhu kuhlamba kuvela.
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi imizwa yokufutheka ayibangelwa yizimo ezikuzungezile, kodwa ngokuphendula kwakho ngokomzwelo kulokho okwenzekayo. Ngakho-ke, ukuze unqobe ukuhlambalaza, kudingeka wazi ukuthi wena:
- Akekho okukhokhela noma yini. Akusizi ngalutho ukubeka noma yikuphi ithemba kulowo muntu ngaphandle kokumtshela ngakho.
- Umuntu ngokwakhe udala injabulo ekuphileni kwakhe. Ngomsebenzi wakho kuphela ongayifinyelela okukunikeza induduzo, ukuvumelana.
- Hlela imigomo yakho yokuphila kanye nezidingo zakho ngokuzimela.
Uma kwenzeke ukuthi asizange sikwazi ukulahla ukwephula umthetho, sizocabangela ubuchwepheshe ukuthi singanqoba kanjani lokhu kuhlambalaza:
- Ngakho-ke, ukuqala, zicabange njengomncane, uzizwe ungenalutho nokuhlukumeza.
- Yamukela ukuthi ubuthakathaka kulezi zimo futhi uzizwe ulaka.
- Thola ukuthi yini okulindeleke kumuntu othize ayizange ilandelwe.
- Linganisa okwenzekile ohlangothini. Qaphela ukuthi wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuzikhethela nenkululeko.
- Buza osebenza naye ngokukhululekile ukwenza lokho okulindele kuye.
Indlela yokubhekana nemizwa yentukuthelo?
- Yabelana ngephepha lokho okulindele kumvelo wakho. Cabanga ngendlela ofuna ukuphathwa ngayo, njll. Uma kunokwenzeka, cela laba bantu ukuthi izifiso zakho kanye nezilindelo zakho zenzani kubo.
- Yenza uhlu lwesibili. Kulo, tshela ukuthi abantu abakuzungezile balindele kuwe. Kungase kube khona isizathu sokuziphatha kwakho.
- Hlola lolu hlu. Qonda ukuthi amathemba akho ahambisana kanjani nokulindela kwabanye.
Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuvumela ukuhlambalaza kungene empilweni yakho, wena, ngaleyo ndlela, wandisa impilo yakho, futhi lokhu akuholeli kunoma yini enhle.