Uyazi ukuthi ungenza kanjani ingane yakho ingajabuli? Indlela eqinisekisayo akumele imphike noma yini. Yiqiniso, le ndlela iyindlela elula kakhulu, futhi abazali abaningi bayayikhetha, baxoshe izizathu zokugcina konke kuzodlula. Nokho, ingane isheshe isetshenziswe "okuhle" futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi izifiso zakhe zikhula kuphela. Abaningi babo ungase ukwanelise, kodwa kuzofika isikhathi lapho kufanele usho ukuthi cha khona-ke into ezoqala ngalolo busuku, olubizwa ngokuthi ukuvumela. Ngeshwa, kulesi simo, ngokuvamile akuzona izingane okufanele zibekwe icala, kodwa abazali bazo. Ngakho yini inkululeko nokuvumela?
Ukungenasikhala kuveza ukuvunywa
Namhlanje amacala okuvumela ukuphilisa emiphilweni yethu anele. Njengomthetho, abantu abajwayele ukuphila okunjalo "mahhala" bazibiza bona "onkulunkulu" futhi bakholelwa ukuthi akufanele bajeziswe, ngoba kuthiwa bakhululekile. Kunezizathu ezimbili eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani abantu beziphatha ngale ndlela:
- Ukungabi nokuhlakanipha.
- I-radicalism eyaziwayo.
Ngezinye izikhathi inkululeko iqondwa njengokuvumela, kodwa empeleni akulungile. Uma ucabanga echibini, inkululeko yindawo yayo, kodwa ukuvunywa kuyisisekelo. Bahlukene kangaka kangangokuthi abakwazi ukuqhathaniswa. Ukuvunywa kwemvelo kudala ukuqhuma kanye namaqabunga ngokwayo ukubhujiswa, okuvame ukulungiswa. Kufanele yini sixoxe ngombuzo othi: "Yini engavumelekile ukuholela?"
Ekuphileni kwawo wonke umuntu kuza isikhathi lapho kudingeka khona ukucacisa umkhawulo wakhe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukusungula imithetho yakho bese uhlala nabo ngaphandle kokuqaphela imithetho ejwayelekile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa imigomo engayikufisa hhayi kuphela kuwe, kodwa emphakathini wonke. Futhi-ke unembeza wakho uzoba uphawu lokuthembeka nokuthembeka.