Ngamunye wethu ubhekana nezikhathi ezinjalo lapho kubonakala sengathi empilweni sekukhona iqembu elimnyama futhi ngeke liphume indlela. Kulo mzuzwana, sibhekene nokucindezeleka, ukunganakwa nokudangala. Kubonakala sengathi umhlaba wonke usuke usuka kithi, futhi asidingi muntu ngezinkinga zethu. Kunezizathu eziningana zale mizwa: ukuhluleka kokuvimbela, izinkinga ezidabukisayo, ezenzeka ngokuzumayo noma ukukhathala okungapheli. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, isibhakabhaka asinamafu. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sithole isimo sengqondo esihle.
Ungaba kanjani umuntu omuhle?
Sizokutshela izimfihlo ezimbi - zonke izinkinga zethu azikho izenzakalo ezejwayelekile ezingabonakali ngesikhathi esizayo empilweni yethu. Izinkinga zabo zenza kube isimo sethu sengqondo kubo. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uthole isimo sengqondo sengqondo esihle, udinga ukuqeda amandla angalungile. Ngokomthetho wokukhangwa, sithola lokho esikucabanga ngakho. Ngakho-ke ungamangali uma, isibonelo, ubheka isikhwama, uthi: "Anginayo imali" futhi le mali ayifuni ukuvela. Wena ngokwakho wanikeza umyalo wokuthi abangekho. Zama kunalokho ukusho kaningi ukuthi unakho konke futhi ujabule. Ngakho-ke, yini okudingeka uyenze kuqala:
- Yeka ukukhononda ngokuphila. Uma ujwayele ukubona impilo emidwebo egciniwe, khona-ke lapho ubhekene nokucindezeleka okulandelayo kokubhala phansi ephepheni lezo zinkinga nezinkinga zempilo ongathanda ukuziqeda kuze kube phakade. Khona-ke, usebenzisa amapensela anemibala, udwebe isithombe salokho ongathanda ukukususa (lowo muntu akakho lapha). Kungaba yimuphi umumo noma uhlaka. Yisho ngokuzwakalayo: "Ngiyakususa imizwelo emibi ehlobene nami ekuphileni kwami nalokhu." Khona-ke leli qabunga kufanele liqothulwe futhi likhishwe endlini kanye nodoti;
- funda ukuqeda intukuthelo yakho. Ungayilahla ngesikhathi sokuvivinya umzimba, ukugijima noma ukubhukuda. Into eyinhloko ukuthi, intukuthelo yakho eqinile, inamandla kufanele ibe umthwalo ngokomzimba;
- funda ukuphumula nokuphumula ngesikhathi. Yonke imizwelo emibi iholela ekuvinjweni kwemisipha namalungu. Yenza umzimba wakho nsuku zonke. Ungakwazi ukweluleka nsuku zonke, noma nje ululalele uchungechunge phansi. Lokhu kuzoholela esimweni esihle sempilo kanye nesimo sengqondo esihle.
Yini esinika isimo sengqondo esihle ekuphileni? Ukuzibophezela nokungazithembi, njengombuso, awuzukufeza noma yini ekuphileni. Sekuyisikhathi eside kuboniswa ukuthi umuntu udonsela kuye amandla azinikela wona. Njengesibuko, izinhlelo zethu zemizwelo yethu ikusasa lethu. Kukhona inkulumo enhle - "impilo yomuntu, yilokho acabanga ngakho". Ngakho-ke, konke okwenzekayo empilweni yethu kungumphumela wemicabango yethu. Ngakho-ke, uma uzibuza ukuthi ungazilungisa kanjani, zilungele ukuyeka indlela endala yokucabanga bese uqala ukuhlala ngokuhlukile.
Indlela yokuxhuma ku-positive?
Kunezindlela eziningana zokuba umuntu omuhle. Okokuqala kuzo iziqinisekiso. Ngokuvamile ngangokunokwenzeka, zitshele imishwana emihle, yokuqinisekisa impilo, uzilungiselele imizwelo emihle. Cabanga ngalokho ongathanda ukukwenza esikhathini esizayo esiseduzane, uhlele lesi sihloko inkulumo enekhono futhi uyiphindise kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka.
Enye indlela ukubuka. Cabanga ngomgomo wakho noma isifiso sakho njengeqiniso esivele segcwaliseka. Uzophila kanjani, futhi yini ezoshintsha empilweni yakho, uma lokho okuphuphayo ngakho kuzogcwaliseka? Njengoba ngokusemandleni ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ngokuningiliziwe udwebe lo mzuzu ojabulisayo, futhi uzogcwaliseka. Futhi okukhethwa kukho okuhle kakhulu ukuzibekela ngokwakhayo ikhadi elifisa. Dala i-collage ngesimo sezindonga zephephandaba, lapho ubeka khona izithombe noma ukuchofoza umagazini wezinhloso zakho, izifiso nezifiso. Faka ikhadi lesifiso endaweni evelele ukuze izifiso zakho zihlale zibonakala futhi zikukhumbuze lokho okufunayo.
Futhi ekugcineni, landela amathiphu ambalwa alula ukuthi ungaba kanjani umuntu ongcono kakhulu:
- bazise wonke umzuzu wokuphila kwakho. Abantu abaningi ngokusheshisa okuphakade, ukucindezeleka kanye nezinzwa aziboni lezo zithokozo nezinyathelo ezikhona nsuku zonke ekuphileni kwethu. Funda ukumisa okwesikhashana, ukujabulela ubuhle bezwe elikuzungezile;
- njalo ngangokunokwenzeka ukuxhumana nabanye. Ungavali ngokwakho. Ukuzitholela ukuzitholela akuholeli kunoma yini enye ngaphandle kokucindezeleka;
- Thola ukulala ngokwanele. Kuye kwafakazelwa isikhathi eside ukuthi isibonakaliso sokuqala senhliziyo enhle impilo yakho. Amahora angu-7-8 obuthongo obunempilo akwanele ukuba uvuke emoyeni ophelele;
- Ungaphishekeli inzuzo. Njengoba wazi, awukwazi ukuthola yonke imali. Funda ukujabula ngalokho,
lokho okukhona kakade futhi uzojabula; - bahlanganyele emasikweni angokwenyama. Njengoba sekushiwo kakade, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kuyindlela enhle yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka nokunganaki. Imisebenzi yezemidlalo isebenza ebuchosheni bethu kanye nezidakamizwa zokucindezeleka. Yenza ukuzivocavoca ekuseni futhi inhlalakahle yakho kanye nemizwa yakho izoba ngcono.
Futhi zama ukuhlola uhlangothi oluhle kukho konke. Khumbula - zonke izinkinga ziyisivimbelo kuphela endleleni eya enjabulweni. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuguqula isimo - shintsha isimo sengqondo kuso, futhi maduzane uzobona ukuthi amandla aqobo ngokwayo akhangwa kuwe. Zithanda wena kuleli zwe, futhi izwe lizokubuyisela kabusha!