Wonke owesifazane wayekade efuna wonke umuntu amhloniphe. Wayefuna ukubekwa njengesibonelo kwabanye, ngakho-ke wayekhona, uma kungenjalo kwabaningi, khona-ke kumuntu, umthombo wokuphefumlelwa. Abanye abakwazi ukuhlala usuku ngaphandle kokunakekelwa okujwayelekile, futhi omunye umuntu angathanda okungenani usuku olulodwa ukuba abe ngumlingisi oyinhloko empilweni yakhe yokuphila.
Njengomthetho, ukuthandwa kuvela kulabo bantu abangabonakali ngumphakathi okwesibili. Ukuphazamiseka kokuphila - abanye bathola udumo ngokushesha, njengabanye ekuqaleni, kanti abanye balwela ukuphuma esixukwini, kodwa akusizi ngalutho.
Ungaba kanjani othandwa kakhulu?
- Yehlisa umbono wokuthandwa. Uma ulwela ukuqonda ngokungafani ne-interlocutor yakho, futhi abanye ngokujwayelekile, awukwazi ukubona ukuthi ubukeka kanjani ngokuvela ngaphandle. Uziphatha ngendlela engavamile, okusho ukuthi ufihle ngaphansi kwe-mask. Ngeke siphikisana iqiniso lokuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo kuzoba nemiphumela emihle kwabanye abantu, kodwa uma ubala ngombono wesikhathi eside, ngokushesha noma kamuva lokhu kuziphatha ngeke kukulethele impumelelo.
- Ungazami ukuba nabantu abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Khumbula ukuthi ikhwalithi esemqoka, hhayi ubuningi. Qaphela abantu abanozwela abenza ngokwazi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukwethembeka. Kufanele ubone umlingani womphefumulo kulaba bantu.
- Hlola kuwe emakhaleni, ukuthi kusuka emahloni akho ungaqeda kuphela uma ushiya indawo yenduduzo.
- Uma kunesidingo, ungagxeki noma ubeke imibono kwabanye. Gxila empilweni yakho, imigomo embonweni wokuthi ungathanda ukuthandwa kanjani.
- Cabanga njalo ngabanye, hhayi ngokwakho. Phakathi nengxoxo, uma ukhuluma ngezimpumelelo zakho nezithakazelo ngaphandle kokungaphezi, ungalindeli ukuthi umxhumanisi uzofuna ukubhekana nawe esikhathini esizayo.
- Yehlisa isisindo sobuzenzisi. Yiba ngokwakho. Ungazami ukujabulisa umuntu, ukulahlekelwa iqiniso lemvelo yakho.
- Nciphise ukuvelela kwe-ego yakho. Phakathi nengxoxo, umuntu akufanele akhulume izintambo zakhe, impumelelo. Ungaphishekeli udumo nokuzibiza.
- Buyekeza kabusha umbono wakho wezwe, impilo yakho. Lahla ukukhathazeka .
- Funda ukulalela abantu abaseduze. Bafana nawe, ngezinye izikhathi bafuna ukukhuluma.
Indlela yokuthandwa phakathi kwalabafana?
Amantombazane amaningi, ngisho nasekujuleni kwezinhliziyo zabo, kodwa ayefuna ukubeka phambili phakathi kwabameleli bobulili obuhlukile. Sizozama ukuhumusha lokhu ngokoqobo ngosizo lwamacebiso alandelayo:
- ukuzijabulisa . Uma uthanda ukukhulumisana, ovulekile ekukhulumisaneni, uzobe uqaphela ngokwengeziwe ukuheha phakathi kwalabafana. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi ukuzibandakanya akufanele sikhule ibe inkulumo;
- kaningi uzama izithombe ezintsha. Abaningi bayathukuthelelwa ngokuzikhohlisa;
- ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungathandwa kanjani phakathi kwabantu, khumbula ukuthi, ukuze angasho, ulalele inkulumo yakhe ngokuthokoza;
- phambi kwakhe akubonisi ukuthi unesizungu;
- Yiqiniso, isithelo esivinjelwe sihle. Kodwa bukela umdlalo wakho ekufinyeleleni kokuxhumana, ungafaki induku.
- khumbula njalo ubukazi bakho. Buka ubuhle bakho.
Ungathanda ukuthandwa kanjani edolobheni?
- Joyina inhlangano yokuzithandela. Yasebenza.
- Yiba umlobi wendawo.
- Dlala ku-band band ethandwa kakhulu yendawo.
- Yiba ngumama wezingane eziningi. Mayelana nawe ubhala emaphephandabeni, futhi ngokuqinisekile ukuthandwa akudluli.
- Qhubeka ushicilela izithombe zakho ku-intanethi.
Ungathanda ukuthandwa kanjani emhlabeni?
- unike cishe sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala ekuthuthukiseni amakhono athile;
- setha umgomo othize wena;
- inani eliphelele lemizamo yakho libheke ekufinyeleleni okufunayo;
- zama ukuqala ukuthandwa edolobheni lakho, khona-ke ezweni lakini, futhi kamuva uzama ukunqoba i-Olympus.
Indlela yokuthandwa yinkampani?
- Ziqaphele wena.
- Zama izitayela zezingubo.
- Buka ulimi lomzimba wakho.
- Yiba umphefumulo wenkampani: uphuze, udansa, uhlaya, usize abanye.
- Yenza amaqembu.
- Yiba umuntu othakazelisayo.
- Yeka ukucabanga ngendlela yokuba intombazane ethandwayo. Khumbula ukuthi into esemqoka akufanele ukwesabe noma yini entsha. Yehlisa zonke izinkathazo nezinkimbinkimbi.
Ungakhohlwa ukuba umuntu onenhliziyo enhle ohlale ekwazi ukusiza umngane wakho futhi maduzane uzoqala ukuheha abantu abafanayo empilweni yakho.