Isimo sokuphila esibucayi akusilo lutho. Abantu babhekene nezinkinga ezihlobene nobudala, ngesikhathi sokuthandana nomuntu othandekayo, lapho bakha khona, nakwezinye izici ezihlukahlukene zokuphila. I-psychology yezimo ezibucayi ichaza isimo esibucayi njengesimo esikhethekile lapho kungasakwazi khona ukusebenza ngaphakathi kohlaka lwesimo saso sokuziphatha, evumelana nokufanisa umuntu. Lo mqondo wenkinga usetshenziselwa ukwelashwa kwengqondo, lapho kusho isimo sengqondo esikhethekile, esibonakala ngokwesaba, ukucindezeleka, imizwa yokungavikeleki nezinye izinhlobo zezimo ezibucayi.
Indlela yokunqoba le nkinga?
Kunezindlela zokuzisiza wena, ongayisebenzisa uma ucabanga ukuthi usizo lobuchwepheshe esimweni sakho esibucayi aludingeki kuwe okwamanje:
- Kuyafaneleka ukukhuluma ngalokho okwenzekile nomngane othembekile, ungahlali kuwe;
- uma isihloko sibucayi kakhulu futhi ungafuni ukuxoxa ngaso, bhala yonke into ephepheni bese uyidabula;
- phumula njengoba uthanda - ugeza, buka i-movie, ukhale;
- phumula umphefumulo wakho: ucabange indawo lapho ukhululekile khona (epaki, elwandle noma ehlathini), wamukele ukuthula kwalendawo; uma ungayazi indawo enjalo, cabanga ngakho;
- Yidla kancane ushokoledi omuncu, amantongomane amantongomane, ubhanana noma isinkwa sonke sikakolweni (lawa angama-antidepressants).
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi isimo sakho sinzima futhi izindlela ezinjalo azikusizi, lokhu kusho into eyodwa kuphela: udinga usizo lwezingqondo ezimweni ezibucayi.
Usizo lwezokwelapha ezimweni ezibucayi
Kunoma yimuphi umuzi ungathola umtholampilo olungele ukunikeza izinsizakalo ezinjalo futhi kukusize uphinde uphile. Kubalulekile ukuthi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ngokushesha sikubeke kuye. Uyothola izindlela zokwelapha zanamuhla:
- ukwelashwa komzimba (izindlela zokuxazulula izinkinga ngokusebenzisa izinzwa zomzimba);
- psychodrama kanye nokwelashwa kwe-gestalt (okuhlangenwe nakho okuphilayo futhi, ukuqwashisa okuhlangenwe nakho okusha);
- i-symbololdama kanye nokwelashwa ngokomzimba (okusekelwe ekucabangeni okusebenzayo);
- ukwelapha ubuciko (ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokusebenzisa ubuciko);
- ukukhukhumeza nokuphefumula kwe-holotropic (ukuphefumula okuphumelelayo ukufaka ukungena ngaphansi kwe-subconscious).
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungathembela ochwepheshe. Ngemuva kokuthola isimo esibucayi, isazi sezengqondo sizokwazi ukunquma indlela okudingeka uhambe ngayo ukuze unqobe lesi simo futhi uzonikeza izincomo zendlela yokulungisa ukuziphatha kwakho esimweni esibucayi.