Izici zokuxhumana phakathi kwentsha kanye nabantu abadala
Umdala osemusha ugcwele ukungqubuzana nokuphazamiseka. Ukushintsha kwemizwa, ukwesaba, ukuziqhenya ngokwengeziwe, ukubonakala kwabo nokuqonda kwabo abanye, ukuzwelana, isifiso sokuba "njengabo bonke abanye" futhi hhayi ngokumangalisayo ukuthi kuhlangene nokuzidla, ukuhlukumezeka, isifiso sokuphikisa imithetho esungulwe kanye nezikhalazo, ziphuma esixukwini. Ngalesi sikhathi, zonke izimiso zokuziphatha nokubukwa empilweni zibuyiselwa kabusha, futhi ngisho nezingane ezingalaleli nezisibonelo kakhulu ezingabhekana nazo zingaguqukela ezinganeni ezingenakubekezeleleka nezingalawuleki. Abazali abaningi babhekana nobunzima ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuthi bangaxhumana kanjani nentombazane enzima, futhi kwezinye zezimanga ezimbi kakhulu, izingxabano ezaqala ngaleso sikhathi ziqhubeka futhi ziqhubeka iminyaka eminingi, zihlukanisa umndeni futhi zilahla amalungu ayo ithuba lokuba nokuthula nokuvumelana. Izinsana zinamahloni futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo zihlaziye (ikakhulukazi zibonisa), futhi phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ukukhulumisana emndenini kuvame ukuqina. Ake sicabangele indlela yokufundisa intsha ukuba ikhulume ngayo.
Indlela yokuxhumana nendodana yentsha?
- Hlonipha imibono nemibono yakhe.
- Ungazami ukuyilawula kukho konke.
- Yigcine ngomzamo wokubheka okuhle. Indodana yakho ifunda ukwakha ubuhlobo namantombazane kanye nomsebenzi wakho ukusiza ngalokhu. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ubheke izintombi zakhe noma ubeke amazwana ngokubonakala nokuziphatha kwawo wonke amantombazane akhe ajwayelekile. Msize nje azizwe eqiniseka kakhulu.
- Makhethi akhethe abangane bakhe. Uma ubona ukuthi wawela ngaphansi kwethonya lenkampani engathandeki, ungamtsheli ukuthi umphikisana naye ngendlela ehlelekile, ungavumi ukubona abangane - lokhu kuzofaka kuphela ukuphikisana nokuhlukana kwengane kuwe. Ukuvinjelwa uzothola into eyodwa kuphela - indodana izofihla kuwe "abangane ababi" namakilasi. Vumelana, akunakwenzeka ukuthi yilokho okulwela.
Indlela yokuxhumana nendodakazi yentsha?
- Ungamvimbeli ukuba agqoke futhi apende ngendlela afunayo. Usize kangcono ukuthi afunde ukuthi angakhetha kanjani izingubo nokuzilungisa. Izingane ezisencane zivame ukuhlolisisa ukubukeka kwazo nomsebenzi wakho ukusiza indodakazi yakho ukuba yamukele futhi ithande wena.
- Lalela umbono wakhe, ungawamukeli imibono noma iziphakamiso zakhe ngaphandle kokucabanga okufanele.
- Gwema ukulawula okuqinile - isithelo esivinjelwe sinomsoco, futhi intsha ijwayele ukwenza konke ngokungahambisani nemiyalo.
- Gwema izahlulelo ezingalungile ("bheka ubuhlungu", "wenza konke okuphikisana nathi", "uziphatha ngokuyihlazo"). Veza imicabango yakho "Mina-izahlulelo" ("Ngiyakhathazeka kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwakho," "ake ngisize," "Ngikhathazekile").
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho iyini ubulili, khumbula, ungumuntu ozimele futhi unelungelo lokuhlala. Nika le ntsha ithuba lokuphila kwakhe, ukwenza izinqumo nokuzizwa ekhulile. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele "uvumele izinto zihambe ngokwakho" futhi uvumele indodana noma indodakazi yakho ukuba yenze noma yini. Hlonipha futhi ufundise okuhle hhayi ngezimfundiso zokuziphatha, kodwa ngesibonelo sakho. Uma uvumile okuthile, gcina izwi lakho. Awukwazi ukuvimbela lokho ovumelene ngakho izolo, ngoba nje ukhathele noma ungaphandle kwezihlobo.
Vumela intsha ukuthi ihlele impilo yayo, ungabeki umsebenzi wakhe, ukuzilibazisa, indlela yokuphila. Yiba nesithakazelo kumntanakho, uchithe isikhathi naye, thola ukuzilibazisa okuvamile noma ukuzijabulisa. Vumela indodana yakho ikusize ukhethe inqubo, futhi ake indodakazi yakho ikutshele mayelana nentsha yentsha - intsha ithanda "ukufundisa", ibasiza bazizwe beqiniseka ngokwengeziwe. Tshela izingane mayelana nobuntwana bakho nokuthi ungumfana osemusha. Funda ukulalela nokuzwa, ngoba lokho okucabangayo kuyisimo esincane, emehlweni entsha ingaba yinto ebaluleke kunazo zonke hhayi ukukhanya. Zama ukuxhumana nentsha engeyona ingane, kodwa njengomuntu omdala olingana naye. Lezi zeluleko ezilula kuzokusiza ukuthi ugcine ubuhlobo obuvamile emndenini futhi uzogwema izinkinga eziningi.