Ukwakhiwa kwechungechunge lomphakathi kuhlanganisa ukuvela kwemithwalo yemithwalo yemithetho emine eyandiswa ngokuvela kwezingane. Ukushiywa kwamalungelo omzali kababa kanye / noma umama, izizathu nezizathu zokuthi kuboniswe ezingeni likahulumeni, ungenye ye-subspecies yayo. Lesi silinganiso siyisipesheli futhi sodwa, futhi umgomo wayo ukuvikela amalungelo abantwana bethu. Kunabo bonke abantu abasemgwaqweni bayazi ukuthi yini enqatshelwe amalungelo omzali. Futhi ukuphuthuma kwalenkinga kukhula, ngoba izingane, ngeshwa, ziyanda "ithuluzi" lokubamba iqhaza ngezinga lesahlukaniso lesahlukaniso. Ngandlela-thile, lokhu kuvame ukubhekana nabantu abakhulu nabacebile.
Izizathu
Zonke izimo kanye nezizathu ezifaka ukulahlwa kwamalungelo omzali zichazwe emisebenzini evamile (eyona eyinhloko i-Code Family). Kumele kuqaphele ukuthi lokhu kungabangelwa ukuziphatha okungemthetho komzali, nangokungasebenzi kwakhe.
Uhlu, olubeka zonke izinhlobo zezenzo zokuziphatha ezingekho emthethweni nokuziphatha okuyisisekelo sokunqotshwa kwamalungelo omzali, kufaka phakathi izingxenye eziyisithupha:
- Ukugwema (okufaka phakathi okungalungile) ekufezeni imisebenzi yomzali . Abazali abakuboni ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuba banakekele njalo ukukhuliswa ngendlela efanele kwezingane, ukuthuthukiswa kwabo, impilo yabo kanye nokuqeqesha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lesi sijeziso silandela futhi kungabikho ukuhlinzekwa okwanele kwengane ngezinzuzo zomndeni kanye nezinto ezibonakalayo ngaphandle kwezizathu ezizwakalayo. Uma abashade sebevele behlukanisile, futhi omunye wabo kufanele akhokhwe ukusekelwa kwabantwana, ngakho ukungakhokhi kwabo kuyisisekelo sokunqotshwa kwamalungelo omzali.
- Ukwenqaba ingane ekhaya lokubeletha noma esinye isikhungo sezokwelapha, sezemfundo noma sezwe. Kodwa kulokhu, izizathu zeqiniso zihlale zicatshangelwa. Uma i-crumb ine-pathologies engokwenyama futhi (noma) yengqondo futhi isesikhungweni sokuvikelwa komphakathi, asikho isizathu sokunqotshwa amalungelo omzali.
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwamalungelo. Uma umama nobaba basebenzisa amalungelo abo ngokuphathelene nezintshisekelo zengane, kumele bachithe lawa malungelo. Kuqondene nokudala izinto ezivimbela imfundo, isikhuthazo ekufezeni ubufebe, ukulutha izidakamizwa, ukuphuza utshwala, ukuphanga, ukucela nokunye okunjalo.
- Ukutholakala kombiko wezokwelapha mayelana nokugula komzali ngokulutha noma ukuphuza utshwala. Leli gama lokunqotshwa kwamalungelo livamile kakhulu. Umuntu omncane akakwazi ukuthuthukisa ngokugcwele uma kudala isidalwa esingenempilo emndenini, ngoba isikhathi esiningi uphoqeleka ukuba asihlinzekele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, esimweni sokudakwa, abantu abanjalo bavame ukuletha ingozi yangempela ezinganeni zabo.
- Ukwelapha kabi nokuhlukunyezwa. Ukushaywa, ukusongelwa okuqhubekayo, ukucindezelwa kokuziphatha, ukuzama ukuhlukumezeka ngokocansi, ukuxhashazwa, ukuthobeka nokuhlambalaza - konke lokhu kuzokunciphisa
imbangela yamalungelo omzali. Isijeziso esifanayo silandela uma usebenzisa inqubo yemfundo imithetho engamukeleki eyonakalisa ukuthuthukiswa okwanele kwengane. Futhi ngisho nalokhu umthetho awunqunyelwe: ezinye izenzo ziholela ekuqalisweni kwecala lobugebengu kulabo bazali! - Ukwenza ubugebengu obungenhloso (ehleliwe) eqondiswa impilo noma impilo yomunye umlingane noma ingane. Lokhu akubandakanyi ukubulawa nokushaywa kuphela, kodwa nokuhlukunyezwa, ukuletha ingane ngenhloso yokuzibulala kanye nezinye izenzo ezingekho emthethweni.
Izizathu zokulahla abazali ngamalungelo abo zimbi kakhulu, ngakho-ke isinqumo sesijeziso esinjalo singathathwa kuphela yiziphathimandla ezifanele futhi emva kokuhlola ngokucophelela zonke izici zesimo.