I-Nytik - yilokho ngempela ukuxilongwa okungaqondakali okuzwakalayo, okuyinto abantu abazibeka yona, abazimisele ukukhala emgodleni nokukhononda ngokuphila. Ngokuvamile le mbambano inzima kakhulu kumuntu, ngoba ukubona impilo ebumnyameni omnyama futhi uqaphele umonakalo nganoma yisiphi isenzakalo, ukuhlala futhi iqiniso akuyona neze injabulo. Ngenhlanhla, abantu bavame ukubona isono esinjalo futhi bafuna ukuwuqeda.
Abantu-whiners: bangubani?
Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ngabe u-whiner noma cha, zama ukuphendula ngobuqotho imibuzo elandelayo, eyokusiza ngokuqinisekile ukuthi unqume.
- Uma unesimo sengqondo esibi, ingabe uvame ukukulimaza nabanye?
- Uma ungatholi ngokwanele ukulala, uzokucasuka futhi uzokubonisa?
- Awazi ukuthi ungakunqanda kanjani imizwa yakho emibi?
- Kunoma yimuphi umgqomo wobusi, ungathola kalula i-fly in the amafutha?
- Uyabona ukuthi uvame ukukhononda ngokuphila?
- Ingabe abangane bakho bavame ukulalela izikhalazo zakho?
- Ingabe uhle kakhulu futhi uhlale unesizathu sokucasuka?
Uma okungenani imibuzo engu-2-3 uphendule ngemvume, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi u-whiner. Ngokufanayo, ukuphendula imibuzo efanayo, ungahlola abanye abantu.
Ngokuvamile amantombazane akhononda ukuthi isoka labo (umyeni) liwu-whiner. Kodwa-ke, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngaphambi kokuthi uthi "uzonda inhlanhla," kudingeke uziqaphele wena: uma lesi sici sikuthinta kanjalo, noma ngabe unayo, futhi awuboni, noma uyigcine. Izinga elibi ongazithandi kwabanye lihlale lihlotshaniswa nobuntu bakho.
Ungamisa kanjani ukuba i-whiner?
Uma umuntu engama-whiner enezwi elincane, lihlaselwa ngokuqinile emphakathini, futhi ngokuvamile isigamu esiphezulu sabantu sichitha umkhuba onjalo kuphela emndenini wakhe noma othandekayo. Kodwa le-girl-whiner - into ejwayelekile kakhulu, abaningi abazami ngisho nokulwa nayo, nakuba kufanele. Cabanga ngezindlela zokwenza lokhu:
- Thatha umbuso kunoma yisiphi isimo ukuthola ubuncane be-pluses amathathu.
- Ungabelani okwahlangenwe nakho kwakho nanoma ubani onyantisayo, beka umjikelezo wabangani ongakhuluma nabo ngabanye.
- Gcina idayari bese ubhala phansi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho lapho nsuku zonke.
- Ngena phakathi kwezemidlalo - kusiza ukukhipha umphumela omubi.
- Njalo uma ufuna ukukhononda ngokuphila, bheka isithombe sakho esingaphumeleli, lapho uhamba khona umlomo.
Ukuyeka ukuba i-whiner ngosuku olulodwa akunakwenzeka. Kuzodingeka uchithe okungenani amasonto amabili ngalokhu, okudingeka ukuthi uqaphe ukuziphatha kwakho nsuku zonke.