Ukuze afundise umuntu, umzali ngamunye ocabanga ukhetha indlela yakhe. Abanye bakhetha "ukufakaza" ingane encane kubo bonke, abanye - ngokuphambene nalokho bakhetha "umkhonto wezimbongolo". Okulungile nokuthi ukukhuliswa komndeni wakho kuzokuletha izibusiso ezinkulu - isikhathi sizoxoxa. Namuhla sizokutshela ngendlela yaseTibet yokukhulisa izingane. Kithina, abaseYurophu, amazwe aseMpumalanga kubonakala sengathi ayinto engaqondakaliyo futhi ekhuthazayo, futhi abantu abasempumalanga bahlale behlotshaniswa nokuvimbela nokuhlakanipha. E-Tibet, lapho isisekelo senkolo yiBuddhism, ukukhuliswa kwezingane kuyahluke kakhulu kulokho esikusebenzisayo.
Isisekelo semfundo ye-Tibetan yezingane yiyona engamukeleki ekuhlazisweni nasekujezisweni komuntu. Ngempela, isizathu esiwukuthi abantu abadala bayishaya izingane ukuthi izingane azikwazi ukuzinikela. Indlela yaseTibet yokukhulisa izingane ihlukanisa yonke inkathi yobuntwana nokudala ibe "izinhlelo ezineminyaka emihlanu".
Uhlelo Lokuqala Lwezinyanga Ezinhlanu: kusukela ekuzalweni kuya kwezinhlanu
Ngokufika kwengane, umntwana uthola inganekwane. Ukufinyelela emfundweni kuze kube yiminyaka emihlanu kungafaniswa nokukhuliswa kwezingane eJapane . Izingane zivunyelwe ukwenza konke: akekho ohlukumeza noma yini, uyazijezisa, akukho lutho olwenqatshelwe izingane. Ngokusho kwemfundo yaseTibet ngalesi sikhathi, abantwana banesithakazelo empilweni nasenqeni. Ingane ayikakali okwakhiwa kwamaketanga amaningi amancane futhi iqonde ukuthi kungaba yini umphumela walesi senzo noma isenzo. Isibonelo, ingane encane engaphansi kweminyaka emihlanu ngeke ikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele uthole imali yokuthenga into ethile. Uma ingane ifuna ukwenza into enobungozi noma iziphatha ngendlela engafanele, uyalulekwa ukuba aphazamise, noma enze ubuso obusabisayo, ukuze ingane ibone ukuthi kuyingozi.
Uhlelo Lwesibili Lweminyaka Eyisithupha: kusukela eminyakeni emihlanu ukuya kweyishumi
Ngemuva kokugubha usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa lwesihlanu, umntwana ovela inganekwane uhamba ngqo ebugqilini. Kwakuyi-sikhathi lapho ukukhuliswa kweTibetan kweluleka ukuphatha ingane "njengesigqila", ukumisela imisebenzi nokufuna ukugcwaliseka kwabo okungenamthetho. Kule minyaka yobudala, izingane zithuthukisa ngokushesha ikhono labo lokucabanga nokucabanga, ngakho kufanele zilayishwe ngangokunokwenzeka. Kuhle ukuhlanganyela izingane ngomculo, ukudansa, ukudweba, ukubandakanya emsebenzini womzimba nxazonke zendlu, ukucela ukuhlinzeka bonke usizo olungenzeka kubazali ekwenzeni imisebenzi yansuku zonke. Umsebenzi oyinhloko walesi sikhathi ukufundisa ingane ukuba iqonde abanye, ukubikezela ukusabela kwabantu ezenzweni zakhe nokubiza isimo sengqondo esihle. Kungenzeka ukujezisa ingane, kodwa hhayi ngokomzimba, "ukulalela" nokubonisa isihawu kuvinjelwe ngokweqile ukuze ungahlakuleli i-infantilism.
Uhlelo lwesithathu lweminyaka emihlanu: iminyaka eyi-10 kuya ku-15
Lapho ingane ifinyelela eminyakeni eyishumi ubudala, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukuxhumana naye "ngokulingana okulinganayo", okungukuthi, ukubonisana okuningi kuzo zonke izinkinga, ukuxoxa nganoma yiziphi izenzo, izenzo. Uma ufuna ukubeka umqondo wakho kumuntu osemusha, kufanele uyenze ngendlela ye "velvet igantshi": amathiphu, iseluleko, kodwa akukho ukubeka icala. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ukuzimela nokuzimela kokucabanga kukhula ngokushesha. Uma ungathandi okuthile ekuziphatheni noma ezenzweni zomntwana, zama ukukhomba lokhu ngokungaqondile, ugweme ukuvinjelwa. Ungazami ukusiphazamisa ingane. Ngoba kungenzeka
Isikhathi sokugcina: kusukela eminyakeni engu-15
Ngokombono waseTibet wokukhuliswa kwezingane emva kweminyaka eyi-15 yezingane, sekuphuzile kakhulu ukufundisa, futhi abazali bangavuna kuphela izithelo zomzamo wabo kanye nokusebenza kwabo. Izihlakaniphi zaseTibet zithi uma ungahloniphi ingane ngemuva kweminyaka engu-15, uzobe eshiya abazali bakhe kuze kube phakade ngesikhathi sokuqala.
Mhlawumbe le ndlela yemfundo ayikwazi ukusetshenziselwa ngokugcwele emqondweni wethu, kodwa kusekhona isabelo esihle seqiniso kuyo.