Uma sicabanga ngokuphila komuntu ngombono wezinto eziningi ezinemizwa emihle neyibi, khona-ke inani lezokugcina lizobusa. Kwenzeka ngoba imizwa emibi iyadingeka ukuze umuntu aqondise umuntu ngendlela efanele, kodwa hhayi ukuyilawula. Kodwa, ngokuvamile, empilweni kukhona ukuhlanekezela. Abantu bavame ukuthatha imizwelo emibi, okuholela emiphumeleni eyingozi, kokubili kumuntu wonke kanye nemvelo yakhe.
Ezimweni eziningi, imizwelo emihle futhi emibi ibangelwa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kulula ukuzwa izinto ezimbi, ukucasuka ngenxa yamanye amancane, ngaleyo ndlela kuphazamise isimo sengqondo esimnandi okwesibili. Kakhulu kunzima kakhulu, ekubeni usesimweni esicindezelekile, thola isizathu sokumomotheka okuqotho. Ngokumangalisa, kodwa kunamandla ngokwemvelo, abantu. Laba bantu bayakwazi, phakathi kokungalungi, ukuthola izici ezinhle, ngaleyo ndlela bakhanga abantu abanethemba ekuphileni kwabo.
Ukuqeda imizwelo emibi kungase kubonakale ekuqaleni uhlobo oluyinkimbinkimbi. Phela, i-negative, njenge-swamp, ingadla, ibhubhise umuntu. Awuvumeli umuntu ukuba ahlole ngokulingana okwenzekayo futhi athole indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma esimweni esinzima.
Ukusebenza ngemicabango emibi kuhlobene nemisebenzi yezikhungo zengqondo nezomzwelo. Ukuphulwa komsebenzi wabo kuholela ekubukeni kwezimpendulo zabantu ezingalungile kunoma yini. Okokuqala, ake sizame ukuqonda uhlelo lapho imizwa emibi ithuthukiswa khona.
- Isithombe - singaba izimo ezihlukile, izimo, noma umuntu ogxila kuye.
- Ukuhlola kungumhlaba wengqondo yakho ukuchaza ukuthi yiyiphi into yangaphandle, lapho ukunakwa kwakho kugxila khona. Isekelwe kokwazi ukuthi uqoqa kulo lonke impilo yakho.
- Ukusabela kungumphumela wokuhlola futhi kuthatha isenzo osenza ngaphandle noma ngaphakathi ukuze uphendule.
Njengoba ukuhlolwa kwakho kungalungile, khona-ke ukuphendula kukhishwa okuhambisanayo. Isikhungo sobuhlakani senza ukuhlolwa, futhi isikhungo somzwelo - ukusabela. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungasusa kanjani imizwelo emibi, kufanele uzame ukushintsha ukuhlola kwakho okwenzekayo, okuyinto evame ukukudala ukusabela okubi, imizwelo emibi.
Ukuze ushintshe ukuhlola kwakho, udinga ukusebenza nsuku zonke ukuze wakhe umqondo omuhle. Njengoba wazi, ingqondo yomuntu, ukuqaphela kuyindlela engenziwa kabusha ngokusizwa ngemibono efanele.
Indlela yokubhekana nemizwelo emibi?
- Okuphelele. Yibani ngokuphelele ngenkinga yakho. Noma kunjalo, kungase kuzwakale kungaqondakali, kepha lapho kwenzeka khona imizwelo emibi, qalisa ukuwagcizelela, ubenze emaphethelweni endlovu. Zama ukuletha lesi simo ngendlela yokuthi wena ngokwakho uzoba yiqhinga. Ngemva kwesikhashana uzokuqonda ukuthi ukungabi namaqhinga nokuphukumeza ukucasuka futhi uthole imizwelo emibi.
- Ukucindezeleka kwengqondo. Kuyaziwa ukuthi ukungaqondi kahle, izimo zokuphikisana nezindaba ezimbi emvelweni wakho kuyithinta kabi impilo yakho, imizwelo yakho. Njalo ekuseni, phindaphinda ukuqinisekiswa okufana nalokhu: "Ngiphumelele," "Ngingakwenza noma yini." Ngokushesha uzokuqonda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwa yakho emibi. Zinike isimilo esihle nsuku zonke.
- Ukufaka esikhundleni. Shintsha izinto ezimbi ezikuthinta ngezindlela ezinhle. Phonsa imicabango engafanele, qonda ukuthi nguwe
ukubhubhisa, ukubuyisela esikhundleni sabo ngokuhle. Qaphela ukuthi umuntu angashintsha impilo yakhe ngosizo lwemicabango. - Ukuxhumana nemvelo. Thatha isikhathi sokuphumula. Okungenani ngesonto, zizungezwe ukuthula, imvelo. Thatha isikhathi sakho, ngokwakho "Mina".
Ngakho, impilo yakho izogcwala injabulo nokuvumelana, uma uqaphela ukuthi akunangqondo ukuzwa imizwelo emibi. Kodwa, uma kwenzeka ukuthi kubonakala sengathi bazoqhuma, baphume emoyeni omusha, baphule izitsha noma batsha umcamelo. Ungazigcini wena futhi zama ukugxila kokuthile okuhle.