Ngokuvamile ingane eneminyaka engu-2 igxuma ama-hysterics. Uma abazali beqaphela ukukhwabanisa nokuhlambalaza kwengane eminyakeni emibili, khona-ke ngokuvamile kaningi isizathu salokhu kuziphatha kuyisidingo sokunakwa okwengeziwe kubazali.
Ama Caprices ezinganeni eminyakeni emibili angabonakaliswa kulokhu okulandelayo:
- inkani;
- ukulila isikhathi eside;
- egibele phansi, kaningi ezindaweni ezikhona lapho kukhona khona izilaleli ezengeziwe.
Lokhu kuziphatha komntwana kuyimvelo ngenxa yokungapheleli kwesimiso somzwelo. Uma abazali benqabela okuthile, benqabe okuthile, ingane ingakwazi nje ukuveza ukungajabuli ngokugcwele. Ukuze kunciphise ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kwengane, kuyadingeka ukumnika ukunakwa akudingayo. Kulesi simo, esikhathini esizayo, ngeke kube khona isizathu sezingcweti.
Kodwa-ke, ngokuvamile ukuphela kombhikisho kanye nesifiso sokungalaleli abazali kuyinkinga emntwaneni . Ngesikhathi seminyaka engama-2 isimo sengqondo sesanda, sesivele siqala ukuhamba nabazali ngenkuthalo, sifunda izwe elizungezile. Futhi ngokuvamile ihlangana endleleni yokutadisha imikhawulo yabazali, eyenzelwe ukuqiniseka ukuphepha kwengane ekhaya nasemgwaqweni.
Umntwana oneminyaka emibili angase aqale ukungabi nasimweni esimweni lapho ekhathele, efuna ukudla noma ukulala. Mhlawumbe isibalo esikhulu sokubona okusha kwakungadingekile ukusebenza ngokweqile ingane, futhi wajabula kakhulu. Ezimweni ezinjengaleyo, ingane iyaqhubeka iminyaka emibili ibonakalisa isimo sakhe somzimba, enikeza abazali isibonakaliso sokuthi kudingeka adalulwe futhi asize ukuzola. Khona-ke, ukuze uqiniseke ingane evuthayo, udinga ukuyikhawulela ngokomzimba emkhakheni: thatha kuwo, bese uyibeka ethangeni lakho. Umama angabamba ingane, i-pat ekhanda, anikeze okuthile okumnandi ukuphazamisa umntwana esimweni lapho eqala ukubonisa khona ukuqonda.
Mhlawumbe ukuba khona kwezimo ezicindezelayo njengokuya enkulisa, ukuhlukanisa abazali noma ukuvela komntwana wesibili emndenini nakho nakho kungabangela ukuhlambalaza. Njengoba lezi zikhathi zingamjabulisi ingane, angathukuthelela abazali bakhe, yena ngokwakhe, ngesaba sekusasa. Futhi ukuze aqede isimo sakhe futhi aqede ukucindezeleka, uqala ukuziphatha kabi: ukushaya izinyawo zakhe phansi, ukuphonsa amathoyizi, ukumemeza kakhulu, njll. Into eyinhloko kubazali ukuthola imbangela yalokhu kuziphatha kwengane bese uzama ukuyilungisa.
Uma ingane igula noma isesiteji sokuphulukisa, ingase ibhekane nezinkinga zezingane. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukuba ingane iphazamise isikhathi esithile into engaphandle futhi ungavumeli abahlaziyi behlakulele.
Uma abazali beqine kakhulu nengane, bavame ukumjezisa, khona-ke ingane yezinkohlakalo iyindlela yokuphikisa le ndlela yokukhulisa kanye nesifiso sokuvikela ukuzimela kwabo.
Abanamahloni ngaphambi kokulala eminyakeni emibili ubudala
Izingane ezinzima eminyakeni emibili ngaphambi kokulala zivame ukubonakaliswa ngokweqile ngokweqile kwengane. Mhlawumbe, maduzane ngaphambi komkhuba wokulala, ingane idlala ngentshiseko nopapa, noma ibukele i-TV isikhathi eside, okungase kubangele ingane ibe yinkinga enkulu.
Futhi zikhona izimo lapho ingane ifuna ukulala, kepha ayikwazi ukulala futhi iqala ukubonisa ngokweqile umsebenzi.
Yini okumelwe uyenze ukuze ugweme u-hysteria?
Kubalulekile ukunamathela emithethweni elandelayo:
- Kulula ukuvimbela ukudla kunokulwa nalo. Ngakho-ke, ngezingqikithi ezimbalwa zokuqala kwayo, kufanele uphazamise ingane ngokushesha into ethile engaphandle: ithoyizi, imoto edlula, njll.
- Chaza ingane ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo akumukeleki futhi akusabela nhlobo. Lapho nje ingane iqala ukugubha phansi, masinyane umise konke ukuxhumana naye futhi ungaphenduli nhlobo. Ingane isesimweni esinjalo sokuthi akukho ukukhohlisa kuyomthinta, ngoba ngeke nje azizwe. Uma umntwana usukhulile, ungaqala ukusebenza.
- Ungakwazi ukuhlukanisa ingane okwesikhashana, isibonelo, ufake ekhoneni lapho kungekho khona amathoyizi, ithelevishini, umphakathi. Lokhu kuzovumela ingane ukuba ithule.
- Kubalulekile ukuba uhambisane nokuziphatha kwakho. Uma ingane iqhuma ekhaya futhi inganakwa, ukuziphatha okufanayo kufanele kube esimweni lapho umntwana eqala ukumemeza endaweni yomphakathi. Nakuba ngokuvamile abazali banesifiso sokuvala umlomo ngokushesha noma ukuwayeka.
- Kubalulekile ukunikeza ingane enye indlela yokuveza imizwelo yakhe: isibonelo, ukusho ukuthi uma ethukuthele, angakwazi ukunqamula unyawo lwakhe noma ukuzwakala imizwa yakhe "Ngithukuthele," "Ngilimale."
Ukulwa nabahlaziyili akuthathi nje amandla amaningi kubazali, kodwa futhi kudinga ukuvimbela okuthile, ukuzola kanye nokuvumelana kwezenzo zabo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lapho abazali bezolile, khona-ke umntwana ngokwakhe uzolile.