Ukungabi nalutho - ukwehluleka kwendoda noma owesifazane oneminyaka yokubeletha ukukhulelwa ingane - ingavela ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kuthinteka yizinkinga zomzimba. Kodwa ngokuvamile kunesici sengqondo sokungabikho.
Lesi simo senzeke lapho umuntu engafuni ukuzalwa kwengane, futhi abhekana nokukhathazeka okuhlukahlukene okuhlobene nokuzalwa kwezingane. Ezingqondweni, ngenxa yalokhu, kukhona umqondo othi "block": ingqondo yomuntu iyakwazi ukuvimbela ukuthi kungenzeka ukukhulelwa, kube nomthelela omubi ngokuqondile emsebenzini wokuzala. Lesi sizathu ukuthi umbhangqwana, onempilo ngokuphelele ngokomzimba, awukwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana.
Izimbangela zengqondo zokungazalwa
Izinkinga ezingokwengqondo zokungazalwa kwabesilisa nabesifazane ngokuvamile zihlukile. Nazi ezinye izinto ezingathonya ukuhluleka komuntu ukukhulelwa:
- ukwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo;
- "Inkinga yemali", okungukuthi, ukwesaba ukwehluleka ukunikeza umndeni ngemali;
- ukukhathazeka ngokuthi umyalelo wengane uzoguqula kanjani umndeni emndenini;
- ukwesaba ekubeni "ubaba omubi".
Ukungabikho kwengqondo kwabesifazane kungenziwa ngenxa yezizathu ezilandelayo:
- ukwesaba ubuhlungu obungokomzimba ngesikhathi sokubeletha (ikakhulu uma owesifazane eyazi ukuthi unesihlungu esiphansi);
- imizwa yokuthi akakwazi ukubhekana nendima entsha njengomama;
- ukwesaba ukugxila ngokuphelele ekubelethweni ngokubambisana nomsebenzi kanye nesimo emphakathini;
- ubudlelwane obuyinkimbinkimbi nobaba ozayo wengane;
- "Ukuqaphela" enkingeni yokungasebenzi.
Indlela yokunqoba ukungabi nalutho kwengqondo?
Ukuxazulula inkinga yokwelapha kwengqondo kuhilela ukwelashwa. Okokuqala, lokhu kuyisizo esingokwengqondo, okusho ukuthi, lapho ukubeletha kufanele kuhlinzekwe kubo bobabili abalingani. Uma kusukela ekubukeni kwemithi unakho konke, kufanele uthintane nochwepheshe. Kukhona izazi ze-psychologist ezisebenza ngokuqondile ngalolu daba. Udokotela onjalo uzokusiza ukuthi ufunde indlela yokuqeda ukungasebenzi kwengqondo.
Ungazisiza ekuxazululeni le nkinga. Nawa amanye amathiphu emibhangqwana efuna ukukhulelwa ingane:
- Yiba nobulili kuphela ngenhloso yokukhulelwa. Hlaziya futhi uyeke ukubala izinsuku nemijikelezo, nje ukhohlwe ngakho okwesikhashana. Vumela ubuhlobo bakho obuseduze bukhululeke ngokwengeziwe.
- Letha uthando oluncane emkhayeni wakho womndeni. Zama ukukhokhelana ngokucophelela kancane, isisa. Khumbula ukuthi izingane zizalwa ngothando!
- Ungakugwema izingxoxo ezingenangqondo ngalesi sihloko. Thembelana. Umuntu oseduze kuphela onganikeza ukusekelwa okungcono kwengqondo. Zizwa ukhululekile ukuxoxa ngokukhathazeka kwakho kanye nokukhathazeka komunye nomunye.
Ukungasebenzi kwengqondo yinkinga elula ukuyixazulula ukwedlula ukungabi nabantwana okuhlobene nanoma yiziphi izifo, izici zomzimba, njll. Kumele nje wenze umzamo omncane, futhi imizamo yakho iyoyikhokhela kahle.