Vumelana ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ukuzithoba, ukuza ngezinombolo ezinkulu kumuntu othize, njalo kuthinta impilo yakho kanye nobuhlobo bakho nalo muntu. Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi wena, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, uphendule umphefumulo ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, uzizwe ucindezelekile ngemva kwalokho, ngoba umxhumanisi we-interlocutor akazange amukele ukusabela okulindelekile.
Ake sizame ukubona ukuthi uhlobo luni lwezingcingo lufihla ukuthi ungumuntu oqotho, iqiniso, ukukholelwa ukuthi kukhona okufanelekile njalo ukuba umuntu oqotho.
Izinzuzo nokuziqhenya kokunganaki
Ukukhuluma ngobuqotho, ukwethembeka ukuzimisela komuntu ukuzambulela kumuntu, ukutshela ulwazi olufihlwe iningi. Ngezindlela eziningi, ukungathembeki kungaba buhlungu, ngoba kungokwemvelo ukuthi umuntu afihle izinkumbulo ezinzima, ezibuhlungu, izikhathi zokuphila, njll, ukuze kube emaceleni omphefumulo.
Ezimweni eziningi, lapho umuntu ephikisa okuthile okuthandayo, uhlangothi lwakhe oluyimfihlo, kwabanye, angeke aluzwisise. Uzizwa edabukisayo. Umuntu onjalo uyingozi ukuhlekwa usulu, wenqatshelwe, okuzoqhubeka nokudambisa ubuhlobo obukhona ne-interlocutor. Lo wesithathu, ongakwazi ukungena endaweni yakho, ukuqonda okukubuhlungu kuwe, ngamazwi athi "Ngiyabonga ngokunganaki", ngokuhamba phambili kuzodlula futhi kuhambe, ngokubi kakhulu - ukuveza ukungathandi kwakho ngqo emehlweni akho.
Kumele uqaphele ukuthi, ngaphambi kokuzama ukutshela into ethile kwabanye, izikhathi eziningi ucabangela isinqumo sakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanelekile, ngoba umuntu ngamunye unendawo yakhe yokuphila, izimiso zakhe kanye nezinto eziza kuqala, futhi lapho umxhumanisi ekude kakhulu nemibono yakhe empilweni, kunzima kakhulu kuye ukuthi amukele ukukhuluma kwakho ngokukhululekile.
Kukhona umphakathi ongenhla we-psychotherapists, onesihloko esithi "Mayelana ne-psychotherapy ne-candor esiphezulu". Lapha, ochwepheshe batjela ngesifiso somuntu sokuthembeka, njll Ngakho-ke, kuphawulwe ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ukuzithoba kungasetshenziswa ngumuntu ngezinjongo zobugovu, njengokungaphathwa kabi.
Izindaba zeFrank zisiza ekusebenziseni abantu abangenalwazi abangakholelwa kalula ku-epithets ezifakwe ngezindaba. Umgomo oyinhloko walezi zinsizakalo ezithandayo ezithandayo ukuvusa izenzo ezidingekayo engxenyeni "yesisulu". Ngokuvamile, umuntu ongakholwayo uqala ukwenza lokho okushiwo yi-interlocutor.
Futhi, ukwethembeka ekuboniseni ubuhlobo kumuntu othize noma kwezinye izinto kungaba yindlela yokuphatha. Ngokuvamile, ukusabela "kwesisulu" ukuthi kuthinta ngokomzwelo ukuthembeka, futhi umlingani wakho, naye, unethuba elihle kakhulu lokunciphisa imizwelo yakho.
Ukukhuluma ngobuqotho kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukhipha i-interlocutor yomuntu engxoxweni edingekayo. Isibonelo, usho ngobuqotho ngothando olungathandeki. Futhi wena, ngokuphendula, ngezinye izikhathi ngaphandle kokukuqaphela, wabelana ngokungahambi kahle futhi emva kwalokho uzofunda kusukela ku-interlocutor izindaba ongakaze uzizwe ngaphambilini futhi iqhawe lakho eliyinhloko wena ngokwakho.
Ngosizo lokuvuleka, abanye abantu bavame ukufihla uhlangothi lwabo olubi, bebonisa amathalenta abo, "I" yabo kusukela ohlangothini olungcono kakhulu.
Kusuka endaweni yokubuka kwengqondo, umuntu okhuluma okuthile ngobuqotho, uzama ukulawula ubuhlobo naye
Abantu abahlanganyela nawe kakhulu kakhulu ngaphandle kwemigomo yobugovu, ngokusho kuka-E. Hagen, kuthiwa yizici ezintsha. Ukungathembeki nokubekezela kwabo kubonisa isimo sengqondo sokuvuma kwabanye, isifiso sabo sokusungula nokuqala.
Ngakho-ke, ukungagweba kungaba kokubili okuhle nokuhle. Konke kuxhomeke ukuthi ubani ozama ukukubonisa.