Ngamunye uhumusha igama elithi "ubumbano" ngendlela yalo. Ngomunye umuntu uyisekelo, usizo, omunye ukholelwa ukuthi kuyakudingeka ukuqonda lokhu njengobudlelwane obakhelwe kahle. Abaningi banamahemuhemu athi "ubumbano besilisa." Futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kudabukisayo kangakanani, kodwa ubumbano, obuhlobene nobungqingili bobulili obuhle, sihlangana kaningi kangako, noma kungenjalo. Ake sizame ukuqonda ukuthi yimuphi ubumbano besifazane.
Ukubambisana kwabesifazane kuyisici esikhethekile esinamandla amakhulu lapho amantombazane ehlangana. Ngenxa yalokho, kunezikhalo noma ama-scandals. Kukholelwa ukuthi ubumbano besifazane buyingqayizivele kuphela ye-muzhenenavistnitsam. Ezinye izimo ziqinisekisa ukuthi ubuhlobo besifazane bukhona lapho abangane abasondelene kakhulu kudingeka bavikeleke komunye nomunye ngaphambi kwabayeni babo noma abalingani babo. Lokhu, cishe, kubhekwa njengecala elihlukile, uma ubungane besifazane engasongelwa ukubhujiswa. Kodwa lokhu kuqhubeka kuze kube isikhathi lapho abangane besifazane bengacingi ukufuna abalingani, ngakho-ke, uma behlulekile ukuhlukanisa lothando phakathi kwabo, baxabana. Kodwa kunzima ukubiza ukuhlangana.
Ukubambisana kwamakhosikazi nokubambisana kwamadoda, okunencazelo ehlukile kanye nezimpande. Lezi zindlela ezimbili akufanele ziqhathaniswe. Ngikhumbula ukuqhathaniswa okuhlekisayo ngokuphendula lokhu:
- Endabeni yokubambisana kwabesifazane: umfazi, ongazange ahlale ubusuku ekhaya, uzochaza lokhu ngokuthi uhlale ubusuku nomngane wakhe. Lapho umyeni eqala ukukhala izintombi zakhe, khona-ke lapho ephendula wonke umuntu uzozwa ukuthi akanakho.
- Ukubambisana kwamadoda kuzozibonakalisa ngale ndlela: emva kokuba umkakhe ebiza bonke abangane bomyeni wakhe, ekugcineni uzozwa lokho: wonke umuntu uqinisekise ukuthi ulele nabo futhi abathathu bazobika ukuthi usabavakashela.
Lesi yisibonelo esicacile salokho ukusizana okuhlangene phakathi kwabesifazane nabesilisa. Indoda isilungele ukunikeza "isandla sokusiza" futhi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa uzama ukuzakhela ukusizwa esikhathini esizayo kulabo bantu ababafihle ngesikhathi esifanele kubo.
Kanti, ukubambisana kwabesifazane kuzohlale kukhona,
Ukufingqa, ngingathanda ukusho ukuthi "ukubambisana" kuhambelana nemvelo yesilisa. Kuphela abangakwazi ukusizana ngokungenabugovu, njengabashayeli, ukusizana ezimweni ezifanayo. Futhi lokhu akuyona iphutha labesifazane, ukucabanga nje ngabesilisa nabesifazane kuhluke kancane, okubangela ukuqonda okuhlukile "kokubambisana".