Ucabanga ukuthi ungumuntu obalulekile, kubalulekile ukuthi akekho umuntu ongakwazi ukubhekana naye ngaphandle kosizo lwakho? Njengomthetho, yilokho abantu abaneCWs abakhulu kakhulu abacabanga ngakho. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzobonakala kungenangqondo kubo, kodwa ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyinkinga, ngakho-ke kubalulekile kulabo abalwela ukuphelela ukuqonda ukuthi yi-CSV.
I-CSW inqunywe kanjani?
Cishe, uye wahlangana njalo kwi-intanethi isifingqo esinjalo, esasiseduze nobuso bomuntu onganelisekile noma isidalwa. Lokho okushiwo yi-CSW ngumbuzo ozwakalayo kulabo abafuna ngempela ukwazi ukuthi kungani ngemuva kwalezi zincwadi ezintathu. Umqondo wokuziqhenya yilokho okuchazwa kwalesi sitfombe kubonakala sengathi. Abanye ochwepheshe bayalifaka ngegama elinjengobuqili.
Umuntu onama-CSV oweqile kakhulu uyamukela futhi asebenze ngokuvumelana nezenzo namazwi okugxeka avela kuye kwabanye. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukuzwa umuzwa wokungaphansi, ukwehlisa nokuzigxeka. Zibonakala ngokufutheka okusheshayo nokuhlukunyezwa. Futhi bonke ngoba bazibona behlukile ngokuqhathaniswa nabo bonke abanye.
Umqondo wokuzibaluleka - i-psychology
Abantu abaningi abathi, ngezinga elihlukahlukene, banesimo sengqondo esinjalo, abakwazi ukuhlola ngokwanele isimo sabo sengqondo. Baqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi indlela yabo yokuphila iyilungile kakhulu, ngakho-ke abalaleli iseluleko sabafokazi, kuhlanganise nezihlobo zabo. I-CSV ekhulayo ibonisa umuntu njengomuntu ozigoqelayo, ngaphambi kwayo yonke imingcele nemingcele okumelwe imbule.
I-CSV yabesifazane ibonakala kaningi kunesisindo esinamandla kakhulu. Futhi lokhu kuyincazelo eqondakalayo. Owesifazane ungunina nomkami, okwathi ngokweminingi, kufanele agcine konke okulawulwa nguye. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, iningi lamakhosikazi akholelwa ukuthi uma bengenzi lokhu noma umsebenzi wendlu, umhlaba wonke uzoyeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane abaningi bajwayele ukukholelwa ukuthi zonke izenzo zalabo abazungezile azilungile, ngakho bazimisele ukwenza ibhizinisi futhi ngaphandle kokufaka iseluleko sabo, okuvela ngaphandle kubheka ukubeka umbono womunye umuntu.
CSW - kuhle noma kubi?
Kuyini i-CSW, esivele sithole. Manje kufanele siqonde ukuthi yiyiphi indima yalesi simo semfanelo yokuphila komuntu. Abaningi bethu bayaqiniseka ukuthi umuzwa wokuzibaluleka uyisimangalo sokuzihlonipha . Kodwa-ke, lo mbono oyiphutha. Uma umuzwa wesithunzi uthinteka, kusho ukuthi umuntu ngokuzithandela ufuna ukuhlambalaza ukuze akhubeke. Nakuba esimweni se-CSV, sikhuluma ngokugxekwa, okubhekisisa kuphela ukuzithanda komuntu nokuziqhenya, okungakaze kubhekwe njengesici esihle somlingiswa .
Njengoba sesilahlekelwe umuzwa wokuziqhenya, siba yisimangaliso, ngoba akukho ukuphendula ngokomzwelo kumagama noma ngezenzo. Ukungabikho kwe-CSF kunika umuntu amandla okuzethemba, ngoba lapho siphelile izithombe ezifingqiwe, asinaso lutho lokulahlekelwa. Ukuqhubeka okushiwo ngaphambili, kuyacaca ukuthi i-CSV engaphezulu kakhulu ayiyona into enhle yobumnene.
I-CBC Syndrome
Kunzima kakhulu ukulandelela ukuthuthukiswa kwalesi simfanelo somlingiswa. Ochwepheshe abafanelekile babonisa ukuthi i-CSV ene-overestimated ekubonakalweni "kwe-syndrome" esebenza kahle kakhulu, okungukuthi, umuntu ojwayele ukucabanga kuphela ngombono wakhe futhi engekho omunye umuntu. Abantu abanjalo, njengombuso, banakho ukuziqhenya ngokweqile, i-hamovatostyu futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo inqola ethile, echazwe ngokucacile: ngenxa yokuntuleka komuntu ohlakaniphile eduze, abantu abanjalo bakhetha ukuthatha umhlalaphansi ngezikhathi ezithile futhi bajabulele i-egocentrism yabo nokuphakama kwabanye.
Izimpawu ze-CSW
Ukunquma ukuthi umuntu unomuzwa wokuzibaluleka noma cha, akulula kakhulu. Ososayensi bathola inkolelo yabo, ngokweziphi abantu abane-CSV abaziphatha ngokuvumelana nalokhu okulandelayo:
- Ukuqondisa i-syndrome . Yilokho lapho umuntu ezama ukubeka umbono wakhe kanye nombono womhlaba kuwo wonke umuntu.
- Izingxabano . Ukuphikisana njalo nabalingani kanye nabangani nje, lapho umuntu one-CSW eneqile, ezama ukufakazela umbono wakhe, ngenkathi ehola zonke izinhlobo, ngezinye izikhathi ezingenabulungisa, ubufakazi.
- Ukulungiswa . Ukukhulisa ukuzethemba ngokuziveza ngezinga elihle kakhulu, mhlawumbe elingelona iqiniso.
- Ukuheha abanye . Enye indlela yokuzethemba, isifiso sokuba phakathi kwezehlakalo. Futhi kungazelelwe into eyokwenzeka ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela kwayo - lokhu kuyoba ukuwa kwezwe lonke.
- Umqondo ocacile wokuziphindiselela . Kulokhu, umuntu uqala ukuphindiselela ukugxekwa okuvezwe esiqondisweni sakhe. Futhi noma ngabe ukhonjiswe kuleso cala, sonke isijeziso esifanayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sisho ngomlomo noma ngokomzimba, asikwazi ukugwema.
- Ukuthandana ngokushiyeka kwabanye abantu . Lokhu mhlawumbe isibonelo esihle kakhulu sokubonakaliswa kwe-CSW. Ngokuphathelene nesiphambeko samanye abantu amaphutha, abantu abanjalo bazama ukukhuphuka isinyathelo esiphezulu sezinyawo futhi babonise ukuthi bangenakuhluleka kakhulu.
Umqondo wokuzibaluleka - indlela yokukhipha?
Izincazelo zalokho okuyi-CSV akwanele ukuqeda lokhu akuyona ikhwalithi enhle yomlingisi. Udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nale nkinga. Uma i-QSW iphuma esikalini, kufanele kuthathwe izinyathelo zokuyikhipha. Yebo, uma ukwazi ukubona lesi siphutha kuwe. Kubi nakakhulu uma uqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi ulungile. Kulesi simo, kungcono ukulalela izeluleko zabantu abasondelene nabo. Ngokuqinisekile ngeke bacebise okubi. Ngakho, ngokudweba ukufana phakathi kokuziphatha kwakho kanye nezici ezingenhla, ungakwazi kalula ukucacisa ukuthi usuqedile yini i-CSW noma cha.
Indlela yokunciphisa i-CBC?
Ukuqeda le mfanelo kuyisinyathelo esiyinhloko ekuphileni okugcwele, lapho kungekho ubugovu nokugxeka. Izinga le-CSV linganciphisa kalula:
- bhala ngaphandle kokwedlulisa izici ezinhle nezimbi zomlingiswa wakho;
- cabanga, kodwa ngokuvumelana nonembeza wakho, uhola impilo;
- bhala phansi amagama alabo abahlukumezekile futhi bahlambalazwa ngegama elibi;
- zama ukuthola i-worldview entsha;
- yakha isimo sengqondo esisha kuwe nakwabanye;
- ukubheja wena ngokwakho ukuthi ushintsho esikhathini esizayo esiseduze (lo mkhuba uyasebenza kakhulu).
Indlela yokukhulisa i-CBC?
Ngokuvamile kungenzeka ukuhlangana nabantu abangenalo umuzwa wokubaluleka kwabo. Kubonakala sengathi lokhu kufanele kujabule, ngoba akukho ukuziqhenya, akukho lutho, akukho-egocentrism. Nokho, akuzona zonke izinto ezilula. Ukucatshangelwa kwe-CSV kungaletha izinkinga zomuntu ezingaphansi kwe-overabundance yalesi sici somlingiswa, ngakho-ke udinga ukwazi amasu asiza ukuphakamisa umqondo wakho wokuzibaluleka.
Indlela yokwandisa i-CSV:
- zama ukuthola isikhundla esiphambili ekuphikisaneni (uma uqiniseka ngokugcwele ekunene kwakho);
- ziphathise ngokwengeziwe ukuzethemba;
- Ungesabi ukuveza ukungajabuli kwakho nabanye abantu abathi, ngokombono wakho, bangalungile kulokhu noma leso simo;
- buyisa ubufakazi bakho ngezinombolo, amagama abantu abadumile - lokhu kuzokuveza eceleni kwesigaba esingcono;
- dumisa udumo lobuholi.