Emphakathini wanamuhla, kukhona umkhuba omubi, lapho intsha ikhunjulwa kuphela uma kuziwa ezinecala, ubugebengu nokulutha kwezidakamizwa. Ngokujwayelekile, abezindaba nabafundisi bakhetha ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zokubhekana nabasha, ngokuvamile bengayinaki imininingwane ebalulekile njengokubunjwa kobuntu bentsha kanye nosizo ayidingayo ngalesi sikhathi. Ukuze kukhishwe lo mkhuba, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga izingane ezibhekana nazo futhi zibheke izindlela zokuzixazulula.
Izinkinga zentsha yanamuhla
Ekuphileni kwengane ngayinye kuza isikhathi lapho eqala ukuzibuza umbuzo: "Ngingubani mina? Yini engiyifunayo ekuphileni? Ngifuna ukuba yini? ". Imibuzo ikhula ekuthuthukeni kwejometri, futhi empilweni kufika isikhathi sokufuna izimpendulo. Isikhathi esincane - kusukela eminyakeni engu-11 ukuya kweyishumi nambili ingane yenza isinyathelo esikhulu ekuthuthukiseni futhi iba yintsha. Ngalesi sikhathi i-cardinally ishintshe ingqondo yezingane kuphela, kodwa futhi isimo sayo se-hormone nesimzimba. Intombazane iba yingozi futhi ingenakekelwa ngokwanele ayikwazi ukubhekana nokubunjwa kobuntu bakhe yedwa. Isikhathi sezingxabano zangaphakathi ngokwakho siqala, ama-satellites awo ashintshashintsha kakhulu kwemizwa, ukucinga abangane abasha nokuzilibazisa, nokubonakala kobudlova. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, izinkinga zabasha nabazali ziqala. Isizathu salokhu kungqubuzana kwangaphakathi kwengane:
- intombazane izibheka njengomuntu omdala, nakuba esengumntwana ngamandla akhe angempela. Ukungqubuzana okuyinhloko lapha ku-formula: "Ngimdala, ngakho angethembi abanye abantu abadala";
- ingane ivikela ilungelo layo indima yobuntu obuyingqayizivele neyingqayizivele, futhi ngokushesha izama 'ukufana nabanye bonke';
- Osemusha ufisa ukuba yingxenye yalokhu noma leloqembu lomphakathi futhi abe yilungu eligcwele. Kodwa-ke, amaqembu asakhulayo - okuvaliwe kakhulu kanye nabaqalekisi abakuthola cishe. Ngako-ke, isizungu somntwana siqala ukuthuthukisa begodu bunzima ekukhulumisaneni neontanga nokuzungeze komphakathi.
Kulezi ziphikisanayo, zonke izinkinga eziyinhloko zentsha zikhula: izinkinga zomndeni, zobulili, nokuziphatha. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho ukuba ibhekane nazo, cabangela izinkinga ezivame kakhulu.
Izinkinga zangempela zentsha
Abazali abaningi bavame ukuqagela ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga ezinganeni, ngoba izingane zabo zikhetha ukuthula ngokubamba ubunzima babo futhi zingathembi imicabango efihlekile ngisho nokuvala abantu. Ngakho-ke izinkinga ezinganeni ezisencane ziqala. Inzima yokukhulumisana ivame ukukhushulwa yiqiniso lokuthi abazali abaqondi ukuthi ingane ikhulile futhi ukukhulumisana naye akufanele kube sezingeni lapho esemncane. Izinkinga eziningi ziphakama ngokunembile ngenxa yobubanzi bominyaka. Abazali bakhohlwa ukuthi bebeyizingane ezifanayo, futhi izinkinga zokukhula kwazo izingane azibonakali zinzima kubo. Izingane ziyaphendula ngendlela ephikisayo, ziyeka ukuhlonipha abazali bazo, zikholelwa ukuthi ziyizikhathi ezihambayo futhi izinto eziyithandayo zidala. Ngenxa yalokho, inhlonipho nokuqonda okufanayo kulahlekile. Enye ikhanda labazali yizinkinga zokuziphatha kwentsha. Ngokuvamile, izingane zezolo zikhetha ukuziphatha okudingekayo ezimweni ezidingekayo. Bahlala entanyeni yabazali babo, noma bathathe ama-bayonethi yonke igama labantu abadala. Ngokuvamile engxenyeni yokuziphatha okunjalo kubonakala njengesibonakaliso sokubhikisha nenselele emphakathini. Ngokuba "ama-antics" anjalo osemusha ngokuvamile anezinhloso ezine:
1. Zama ukugwema ukwehluleka, njll. umcabango "Angikwazi." Kungase kube nezizathu ezimbili:
- elinde ingane ukuba ihlole izenzo zayo (ukuzama ukugwema lezo zimo lapho ezobukeka sengathi zihlulekile noma zithole isilinganiso esincane);
- ukusikisela kwabazali "sithanda kuphela lezo zingane ezifunde kahle (khona-ke ingane ingenza kuphela imisebenzi ezokwazi ukubhekana nayo ngokuqondile).
2. Ukuzama ukuphindisela. Lona uhlobo lokuziphatha oluyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Ukuphindiselelwa kwentsha akusho ukuthi inesifiso esinamandla, kodwa isifiso sokuphindiselela cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi impendulo ebuhlungu obubangelwa kanye. Kulesi simo, ingane ingaphendula njengeminithi ngemva kokudabuka, futhi eminyakeni eminingi emva kwayo. Kuphindiselelwa ngendlela yokuhlaselwa kwengqondo nangokwenyama: ingane ngayiphi indlela ihlukumeza abazali noma abanye abahlukumezayo, inganaki noma yiyiphi yemizamo yabo yokubuyisana.
3. Ukubonakaliswa kwamandla omuntu. Kubonakala ekuthunjweni komlomo kwengane ephenduka ingxabano, noma ekulaleleni okuthula. Ingane ithembisa ukwenza lokho ayekuceliwe, futhi uyaqhubeka nokwenza ibhizinisi lakhe. Lokhu kuziphatha kungabangela abazali ukuba bahambisane nokufutheka, futhi ingane ithululela amafutha emlilweni ngemisho: "Awukwazi ukwenza lutho kimi," noma ubalekela ekhaya. Isizathu esiyinhloko lapha yisifiso somntwana osemusha wokulinganisa amalungelo akhe nabantu abadala.
4. Ukuziqhenya ngokwakho. Ngokuvamile kubonakala emzamweni wengane ukuphazamisa abazali ezindabeni zabo, nokucasula ukuhlukunyezwa nokujeziswa. Isizathu sibangelwa ukuthi intombazane iqonda kahle ukuthi ukunakwa okwengeziwe kubhalwa izingane "ezimbi", futhi ngenxa yale nkinga ubeka konke okungathí sina.
Izinkinga zocansi ezinganeni
Esigabeni esisodwa kukhona izinkinga zobulili ezisencane. Inkathi yokukhula yesikhathi isikhathi esingezona nje kwengqondo, kodwa futhi nokuvuthwa kwe-hormonal. Intsha iyabona ukuthi ubulili buhlobo oluthile lokuzama, kaningi lufuna ukwazi. Abantu abasha bavuthwa ukuhlolisana kakhulu kunamantombazane, okukhulunywe ngawo okwesikhashana isithakazelo sobulili isikhathi eside. Kodwa-ke, abameli bobulili bobabili banesithakazelo esifanayo ebuhlotsheni, kuhlanganise nabalingani bobulili. Futhi lapha umsebenzi oyinhloko wabazali ukuzwa umzila omuhle phakathi kwesifiso somntwana sokuthanda nokufuna ukwazi okubangelwa ukukhangwa ngokocansi.
Izinkinga ekuphileni komuntu osemusha zingenakugwemeka. Futhi kuphela emandleni akho, abazali abathandekayo, ukwenza lula ukucinga kwengane futhi ukusiza ukunqoba lezi zinkinga. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane iziphatha kanjani, ngaphambi kokuba ijezise, yima endaweni yayo bese uzama ukuqonda ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ngaye kule nkathi. Ungavumeli ngokushesha, kodwa ingane izokwazisa ukusekelwa kwakho futhi iyokubonga ngokuphila kwakho konke.