Ezikhathini zasendulo, isibusiso sabazali nesibusiso kwakuyisibopho, ngaphandle kwakhe akekho owayengashada. Namuhla, lo mkhosi ulahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwawo, kodwa namanje abaningi abasanda kushada bazimisele ukuthola isibusiso sabazali babo emshadweni.
Isibusiso sabazali emshadweni
Umkhuba wesibusiso sabazali unamazinga amabili: ngaphambi komshado (umbhali noma umshado) nangaphambi komkhosi.
- Ngaphambi komshado, umakoti nomkhwenyana bathola isibusiso sabazali bomakoti. Kwenzeka njalo emva kwesihlengo, lapho umkhwenyana esenqobile yonke imisebenzi eyinkimbinkimbi futhi engena kumakoti, kodwa ngaphambi kokushiya indlu yakhe. Ukuhambisana nesimo sokugcina kuyimpoqo - impilo entsha izoqala ngaphesheya komngcele, ngakho-ke isibusiso sokuqala salowo mbhangqwana kufanele sitholakale ngaphambi kokushiya ekhaya lomzali. Abazali bomakoti bathi amazwi okuhlukanisa kanye nezifiso kumbhangqwana osemusha. Lokhu kubhekwa njengesibonakaliso sokuvunywa kwendodakazi yakhe ekhethiwe, hhayi nje isifiso sokuphila okujabulisayo. Isibusiso sokuqala singasithola ngosuku lomdlalo wokudlala. Kodwa namuhla le masiko ayigcinwa njalo, ngakho-ke ngokuvamile intsha iyathola izibusiso ngosuku lomshado.
- Isibusiso sesibili emshadweni osanda kushada bamukela kubazali bomyeni. Lokhu kwenzeka ngemuva kokubuya ku-REGISTRY (isonto) phambi komnyango wehholo ledili noma indlu yomkhwenyana. Abazali bomyeni basho amazwi afudumele nezifiso zokuphila okujabulisayo kumndeni omusha. Abazali bangabonisa isibusiso sabo ngokuhalalisela ngesikhathi sedili. Kungaba ukuhalalisela noma indaba ngezimfanelo ezinhle zendodakazi (indodana) ekugcineni lapho abazali bethi izingane zabo zizoqiniseka ukuthi zizojabula emshadweni. Ngokwesiko, ubaba womakoti kufanele aqale ukukhuluma, kodwa akubona bonke abantu abakhuluma ngakho, ngakho-ke kuvunyelwe ukuthi indima yomlandisi ithathwe ngumama.
Isibusiso sabazali emkhosini wama-Orthodox
Esimweni sobu-Orthodox, umkhosi wesibusiso uyenzeka futhi ngezigaba ezimbili - ukuvunywa kokuqala kubazali bomlobokazi, bese befisa injabulo evela kubazali bomyeni.
- Ukuze ulungiselele umkhosi ngokwesiko lama-Orthodox, kuyadingeka kuqala ukuthola ukuthi ngabe wonke umuntu ufisa isifiso esinjalo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi abantu abakholwayo kuphela abahlanganyele emcimbini we-Orthodox. Uma bengabhapathiziwe, kumele babhapathizwe ngaphambi komshado. Ukuze uthole isibusiso kuzodingeka uthole izithombe (ngoba umakoti - isithonjana sikaMama kaNkulunkulu, umkhwenyana - isithonjana sikaKristu uMsindisi). Emikhayeni ehlonipha amasiko we-Orthodoxy izithombe ezinjalo zizuzwa njengefa. Umakoti nomkhwenyana kufanele bakhothamele ithawula, futhi abazali bomakoti basho amazwi okubusisa futhi benze izikhathi ezintathu isiphambano sesithonjana ngaphambi kombhangqwana. Emva komkhwenyana nomakoti kiss bese beya ehhovisi lokubhalisa kanye nethempeli lomkhosi womshado.
- Ngemuva kokubhaliswa komshado, labo abasanda kushada babusiswa ngabazali bomyeni. Ngaphambi kokungena ehholo ledili, umshini "wethebhulethi yenhlalakahle" ugijima.
Ngaphambi komgwaqo umama umkhwenyana uvuka ngesinkwa nosawoti ezandleni zakhe futhi uyise womkhwenyana unesithonjana ezandleni zakhe. Intsha imile emgqeni, futhi uyise womkhwenyana ubabusisa ngesithonjana futhi athi amagama ahlukanisayo. Okushoyo, abazali banquma, into eyinhloko ukuthi amagama athi "ukubonga, ukuhalalisela, ukufisa" babekhona enkulumweni. Lesi senzo abazali bomkhwenyana babonisa ukwamukelwa kwabo emshadweni futhi babonise ithemba ngenjabulo yabo bobabili emindenini yabo emndenini.
Imifanekiso abasha abasibusiswa ngayo ifakwa etafuleni isikhathi sokugubha. Emva kwalokhu izithombe ziya kulabo abasanda kushada futhi ziba yimikhaya yomndeni. Ngokulandelayo, lezi zithombe zizuzwa njengezingane.