Uma abantu behlukana, njengombuso, bafuna isizathu sokuthi bavume igebe. Ngezinye izikhathi sicabanga ngalokhu ngaphambili, kodwa emva kokuhlukanisa, ikakhulukazi uma umsunguli engumuntu. Noma kunjalo, kuvame ukusizwisa ubuhlungu ukuvuma ukuthi izizathu zokuhlukaniswa kobudlelwane ziyi-banal futhi, ngokujwayelekile, zazibikezelwa. Phela, ekuqaleni kobuhlobo kubonakala sengathi zonke lezi zindaba ngokuphila kokuthatha, ukungafani kwemimoya, izinkinga zezezimali - akukhona ngawe. Uyazi kahle lezi zingibe futhi wawulungele zona. Futhi nokho ... bagijimela into ethile. Kungani abantu behlukana, kungani abathandi benza isinqumo sokukhohlwa omunye nomunye baphile impilo ngayinye ...
Uma ubuza umbhangqwana wokuqala ukuthi kungani uhlakazekile, kungenzeka ukuthi uzozwa izindaba ezehlukene njengezincazelo. Kodwa cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi enhliziyweni yokuhlukanisa amanga esinye sezizathu ezimbili:
- Ukungahambisani nokulindela. Ukuwa othandweni nomuntu okufanele sifunde kuphela, thina, njengomthetho, simnike ngokuzenzakalelayo izimfanelo ezithile. Ngendlela, akufanele neze abe nefa. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma ufunda umuntu, kunomqondo "wokukhohlisa" nokudumazeka, okunikeza ikhefu elikhulu ebuhlotsheni. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane abangafuni ukuzivumelanisa neqiniso lokuthi othandekayo unelungelo lokuba yena, futhi ezama ukushintsha ingxenye yesibili. Ukungalindeleki kokulindela kubangela izingxabano ngezizathu ezahlukene: ezezimali, ezocansi, ezifuywayo.
- Ukungakwazi ukulawula imizwelo. Imihawu, izikhalazo eziqoqiwe - ngokuhluleka ukunikeza indlela yokuphuma kwamandla amabi, konke lokhu kuqoqa futhi kuhlume ngesimo sokuqubukana okubuhlungu kwama-scandals kanye ne-nit-pickers. Kuleli phuzu, abantu bakuthola kunzima ukuqonda ngokwanele
isimo, i-negative ikhula njenge-snowball. Imizwelo engcolile - into ejwayelekile, futhi kwenzeka kuwo wonke umndeni, kodwa lapho uhhafu, ngokukhuluma ngokomfanekiso, uphuma ngendwangu, kuyilapho kwabanye kugcwalisa indlu ...
Ukudumazeka, ukuzwa imizwa, noma ukuhlambalaza okwedlulele ngisho nokuthanda, kuye kwaholela umbhangqwana wakho emigwaqweni emibili ehlukene, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ungabelana kanjani kahle nomuntu othandekayo kuwe. Udinga ukuzihlonipha ngesikhathi okwenzile lokhu kukhetha, okusho - nengxenye, okwenzeka ngokungazelelwe ukuthi akuyona eyakho. Zama ukuziqonda wena naye. Khothelela ukusika umthamo wezintambo kanye nokungabi nandaba. Ngikubonga ngesipiliyoni, futhi ngifisa sengathi nonke injabulo ...