Kunzima kakhulu ukuthanda umuntu ongenakuzwa okulungile. Kulokhu, abesifazane abaningi bangathanda ukwazi ukuthi bangaziphoqa kanjani ukuba bakhohlwe umuntu ukuba aphile ngokujabula. Lesi sidingo siphume lapho ubuhlobo buphela, futhi imizwa ihlala. Ngeshwa, kodwa akukho inkinobho emzimbeni womuntu ozovumela ukukhohlwa uthando . Isixazululo esilungile kuphela ukuthatha iseluleko isazi sengqondo.
Ungakhohlwa kanjani indoda?
Uma kungekho ukubuyisana, akusizi ngalutho ukulwa nobuhlobo, ngoba bazoletha ubuhlungu kuphela. Kungcono ukwethembeka nawe futhi uqaphele ukuthi udinga ukuqhubekela phambili, futhi imizwa engezona eyamukelekile yizibopho ozidingayo ukuze uzilahle.
Iseluleko sengqondo sokukhohlwa indoda:
- Gxila kuphela kuzici ezingalungile zokubukeka nomlingiswa. Wonke umuntu uneziphambeko nezinto ezingamukeleki futhi ngisho nokucasula abanye. Yilokho kudinga ukuthi ziqaphelwe ezintweni zokudumisa futhi zicabange ngakho kuphela kumzila onjalo.
- Ukukhuluma ngokuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu kuze kube phakade, kufanelekile ukunikeza iseluleko esiwusizo kakhulu - ngokuphindaphindiwe ushiye indawo yakho yokududuza, uxhumane nabangani futhi uhlangane nabantu abasha. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo kubalulekile ukuzwa ukuncoma futhi ubone ukunakekelwa kwesilisa.
- Lahla zonke izinto ukuthi ngandlela-thile zikhumbuze ngomuntu owayengumthandi. Kubalulekile ukulahlekelwa izinto kuphela, kodwa futhi ukususa izincwadi abantu abaningi abathanda ukuzifunda, behlushwa imizwa ephazamisekile. Lahla okwedlule ukuze wenze okuhlangenwe nakho okusha.
- Ngokuvamile, izazi zengqondo, zikhuluma ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu omthandayo, uyalulekwa ukuthi uzithole ibhizinisi lakho elizothatha isikhathi sakho sonke samahhala nemicabango. Ukuba yedwa, abesifazane bayagxila ezinkumbulo futhi bahlupheke kuwo. Siyabonga uNkulunkulu, kukhona inani elikhulu lokuqeqeshwa, kuya
Isibonelo, kungaba yinto yokuzilibazisa, ukubukela ama-movie, ukuhamba, ukufunda izilimi, njll. - Ukuthola ukuthi ungamkhohlwa kanjani umuntu owakujikijela, kufanele ukhulume ngesinye iseluleko sabangqondo bezengqondo - uphonsa imizwelo eqoqiwe. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma nokukhala, futhi ukwenze kanye. Masinyane emva kwalokhu, ungazizwa ukhululekile kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu oseduze ozodlala indima ye "waistcoat" uzokwazi ukusekela nokunikeza izeluleko eziphumelelayo.
Khumbula ukuthi esikhathini esizayo kuyoba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi okusha okuhle, imizwa nemizwelo, futhi esidlule kumele kushiywe emuva.