Zingaki imikhaya manje ehlukana. Abantu bahlukanisa, ngisho neminyaka ndawonye. Futhi konke ngenxa yokukhathazeka okufiphalayo, akusikho ububele nokuthandana, akukho ukuqonda okufanayo nokuthanda ukudlula. Akunzima ukuhlukana nobuhlobo nehlukaniso uma kuphakama izinkinga. Lapho kunzima khona ukusindisa umndeni, ukuxazulula lezi zinkinga bese uphinde uvule umlilo wothando nothando, okuqedwayo. Enye yezinto ezimnandi zomshado yisondelene naye. Umsebenzi womshado ngumsebenzi womndeni, okuwukubonakaliswa kothando phakathi kwabantu ababili. Ukungabi nobuhlobo bobulili phakathi kwabashade baholela ekude komunye nomunye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kuthinta ukuqonda okubili, okuholela ekuxabaneni, ezihlambalaza, futhi ekugcineni ukuhlukanisa . Yiqiniso, kwenzeka nokuthi amadoda aphuza omkawo ukuba aqaphele. Kodwa ngokuvamile lo mbhangqwana awunazo ocansini ngenxa yokuthi umfazi akafuni umyeni futhi angabonwa ngezibonakaliso ezinjengokukhathala, ukuzithethelela "ikhanda" noma "ufuna ukulala." Ngakho-ke, phakathi kwabantu abangatholi lokho abafunayo kumlingani wabo, umbuzo uhlala ukuthi kungani umfazi engafuni ukulala nomyeni wakhe.
Kungani umfazi engafuni ukusondelana nomyeni wakhe?
Izizathu zokuthi kungani umfazi engafuni umyeni kungaba kakhulu futhi bonke bodwa. Isidingo sowesifazane sokusondelana ngokomzimba singakhula ngenxa yokukhathala nokuntuleka kokulala. Uma efika ekhaya ngemuva komsebenzi wosuku olukhuni futhi esikhundleni sokuphumula sisesephesheni bese ugoba, ke ufuna ukulala ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze uphumule. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukucela umyeni ukuthi asize ngemisebenzi yasendlini ukuze bobabili abalingani banamandla futhi bafise isifiso sobudlelwano obuseduze.
Ngezinye izikhathi umfazi akafuni ukulala nomyeni wakhe, futhi ngenxa yokuthi wamcasula, wenza okuthile okungalungile noma akwenzi. Kungaba njengengxabano enkulu, kanye ne-banal - ayizange ithathe udoti noma ayizange ifinyelele esinye isicelo. Ngakho-ke, uqala ukuphindiselela kumlingani wakhe ekujezisweni, ukwenqaba ukuya ocansini. Kodwa ukuze kulondolozwe ukuthula emndenini, akudingekile ukudidliza ubudlelwano obuseduze nezinkinga ezithile zasekhaya. Njengoba ukungabi nobulili ngeke kuxazululwe, kodwa kukhulisa konke. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ngisho nangemva kokuxabana nokuhlambalaza, umbhangqwana oshadile kufanele ulale ndawonye. Ngakho-ke, ukulala emibhedeni ehlukile yinto yokuqala ukuthi ama-distances abalingani abavela komunye nomunye futhi aphulukise uthando lwabo.
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi umyeni nje akanelisi umlingani wakhe embhedeni. Ukuqhuba izivoti, ochwepheshe bathi abesifazane abaningi abafuna ukuya kwezinye izivivinyo ngocansi, abakhulumi ngezifiso zabo siqu kumlingani wabo. Ngokushesha bayamlahla ngokuphelele, bebonisa ukungathandi kwabo futhi bemanga ngasese ukuthi ngandlela-thile ahluleka ukuzinikela ngokwakhe. Noma kunjalo, izenzo ezinjalo ekugcineni aziholeli kunoma yini enhle.
Kubo bobabili abalingani ukujabulela ubuhlobo obuseduze, udinga nje ukukhuluma nokuhlanganyela
Abacansi bezocansi bakholelwa ukuthi uma kungekhozinkinga ezinkulu zempilo kanye nokuphikisana kwezokwelapha, umbhangqwana oshadile kufanele ungazitholi injabulo ebusweni obuseduze bomshado wabo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukwethula ukuhlukahluka kokuphila kobulili futhi ungesabi ukuzama. Phela, ukulala ngokobulili phakathi kwabashadile kuyisici esibalulekile sombuthano womndeni, okuveza ukufudumala, uthando nokuthandana komunye nomunye.