Naphezu kokuba imibhangqwana eminingi yanamuhla ikhetha ukungenzi ubuhlobo bayo ngokusemthethweni futhi ihlala emishadweni yomphakathi iminyaka eminingi, owesifazane ngamunye ucabanga ngesigqoko somshado ngokushesha. Usuku lomshado lungenye yezinsuku ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwanoma yiliphi ubulili obuhle. Kulolu suku, uqinisekile ukuthi wakhethayo uzoba naye yonke impilo yakhe, futhi inyunyana yomndeni iyoba isikhathi eside futhi ihlala njalo. Noma kunjalo, iqiniso livame kakhulu futhi imishado ihlukana. Ngokwezibalo, le nhlekelele ilungele imibhangqwana engaphezu kuka-40%. Nakuba isehlukaniso kanye nenqubo ebuhlungu kakhulu, emva kwesikhashana abesifazane abaningi banamuhla banquma isinqumo somshado wesibili.
Futhi umshado wokuqala nowesibili ngowesifazane ngowokuphila kwakhe, okwenza kube nokuhlakanipha. Emshadweni wesibili, ubulili abaningi obuhle kakade abavumelani namaphutha afanayo futhi abahlaseli leli gama elifanayo. Kodwa-ke, umshado wesibili wendoda nowesifazane uyisinqumo esinomthwalo wemfanelo. Futhi ngaphambi kokuwamukela kusukela kulabo abashadile besikhathi esizayo kunemibuzo eminingi.
Umshado wesibili nomshado
Kwabesifazane abaningi abazimisele ukushada kabusha, inkinga enkulu ukuwugubha umshado. Ngokuvame kakhulu ukubonakala okugqamile kushiywe ngumshado wokuqala - ukugqoka, ukudweba, indawo yokudlela, izivakashi eziningi. Uma ushada okwesibili, owesifazane ufuna okuthile okukhethekile, kodwa akufanele uphinde uphinde uphinde uthole isipiliyoni sakho sangaphambilini. Ukulahlekelwa isimo esidlule, owesifazane uyingozi ukubuyela emuva, futhi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho akudingekile ngaphambi kosuku olubalulekile.
Cishe amaphesenti angama-30 emishado engena emshadweni okwesibili, ukuphatha umdwebo othobekile ehhovisi lokubhalisa kanye nomkhosi omncane womkhosi embuthanweni wabangane abaseduze nezihlobo. Uma le nketho ifaneleka bobabili abashade bekusasa, khona-ke kungabhekwa njengento engcono kakhulu.
Noma kunjalo, abesifazane abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukuyeka isilingo sokugqoka ingubo yomshado futhi bazizwe njengomakoti. Kulesi sifiso akukho lutho olungalungile, ikakhulukazi uma sicabangela isifiso sabantu besifazane ukuba sibukeke sihle njalo. Njengoba ebonise yonke ingqondo yakhe, ummeleli wezocansi omuhle angakhetha ukugqoka umshado omuhle kakhulu ngomshado wakhe wesibili. Ukugqoka imishado yomshado wesibili akukwazi ukuhluka nganoma iyiphi indlela kusuka ezingeni lomshado wokuqala. Kubalulekile ukuthi owesifazane azama ukuphinda abuyele ngosuku lwakhe lomshado futhi akazange alindele okuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo.
Umshado wesibili kanye nezingane
Ukukhishwa kwezingane akubalulekile nakakhulu kunenkinga yokwenza ubuhlobo nomyeni omusha. Abesifazane abaningi, abangena emshadweni wesibili, sebevele benabantwana futhi befuna ngobuqotho,
Ngomyeni wesibili, abesifazane abaningi banquma ngomntwana wesibili. Kulesi simo, umyeni wesibili kanye nomntwana wesibili akufanele bachithe izibulo, kungenjalo uzozizwa evinjelwe futhi enqatshiwe.
Uma umyeni wesibili efuna ingane, abesifazane abaningi lo mbuzo uba yinkinga, ikakhulukazi uma ingane eyodwa isivele ikhona. Esimweni esinjalo, izazi zengqondo zincoma ukungangabazi futhi zikhulelwe, njengoba izingane ezihlangene zenza abashadile bajabule, ngisho nasemishadweni yesibili. Uma umndeni unomqondo omuhle futhi wothando, izingane ezivela emshadweni wesibili zihambisana kahle nezingane ezisuka emshadweni wokuqala.
Ngokuqondene nohlangothi lwezomthetho, owesifazane kufanele azi ukuthi umshado wesibili awusona isizathu sokuqeda ukukhokhwa kwe-alimony kumyeni wakhe wokuqala. Futhi, umyeni wangaphambili uqhubeka nokukhokhela umlingani ngomshado wesibili nengane yakhe kusukela emshadweni wokuqala. Inani lingabuyekezwa kuphela uma lowo oshade naye esenomntwana emndenini wakhe omusha.