Iningi lwakamuva, lona wesifazane wazizwa eseceleni kwempilo entsha ejabulisayo, futhi manje kubonakala sengathi kunezincithakalo kuphela. Futhi konke ngoba umyeni akamnakekeli. Futhi nguyena umuntu okwamnika yona isiphetho sakhe. Kungani kunezimo lapho umyeni engayinaki umkakhe, nokuthi angaphuma kanjani kubo, sizoqonda kule ngxenye.
Kungani umyeni wami ayeka ukulalela?
Ngezansi sizocubungula izinketho ezingenzeka futhi esimweni ngasinye sixoxisane nendlela yokulungisa isimo futhi sibheke umyeni wakhe.
Ngakho-ke, isimo sisokuqala - umyeni ugxile ngokuphelele kokunye
Lo wesifazane angenza izinto eziyishumi ngesikhathi esifanayo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ugcine ingane yakhe ibone. Amadoda adalwa ngokuhlukile. Futhi uma kufika ithuba elimethembayo, uzogxila kuyo yonke imithombo yakhe yesikhashana neyomgomo. Kodwa umkakhe ngalesi sikhathi akanayo ukunakekelwa ngokwanele kumyeni wakhe, futhi ushaya i-alamu.
Ungaba kanjani? Bonisa ukuthi ungaba umlingani othembekile. Ungabheka izindlela zokuheha ukunakwa komyeni wakho. Dala izimo ezihle zokufeza izinhlelo zakhe. Futhi-ke ukunakekelwa komyeni kuzobuya ngokuqinisekile, ukubonga okuyishumi ngokuqonda nokubekezela.
Isimo sesibili: umyeni wayeka ukunaka esiteshini esiseduze
Kungase kube nezizathu ezimbili:
- unenkinga ngempilo yamadoda;
- umfazi uye kude kakhulu nomfanekiso wakhe wangaphambili.
Okokuqala kungenzeke kuwo wonke umuntu, kungenangqondo ukusola umuntu. Ngokuqondene nokubukeka - ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane ukhulula imikhuba yakhe engafanelekile ngaphandle kwenkululeko. Isibonelo, ukuhaha noma ukungahloniphi. Kulezi zimo, wonke umuntu uyaqonda ukuthi kungani umyeni wakhe engakunaki.
Ungaba kanjani? Kuzo zombili izimo, ukubekezela kwakho nokuzikhandla kwakho kuphela kuzokuphendula umbuzo wokuthi ungamnaka kanjani umyeni. Amadoda athola kunzima ukunquma ngesiphenyo kubachwepheshe - kumsize ngalokhu, vala. Futhi ngokuphambene - ungangabazi ukucela umyeni wakho usizo ukuze usebenze ngokwakho. Ukubuyiswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni kanye nesabelomali kungakhulula isikhathi nemali ukushintsha indlela yokuphila komfazi. Kulesi sigaba kubalulekile ukulondoloza ubudlelwane obunobungane, obuthembayo - basengaba yisisekelo sezintshisekelo ezintsha zomshado.
Isimo sesithathu: umfazi akasayithandi umyeni wakhe njengomuntu
Ngezinye izikhathi umbhangqwana usuka kude kakhulu. Isibonelo, umyeni waqhubeka nokuphila komphakathi, futhi umfazi wazinikela kuphela ezinganeni nasekuphileni. Ngesinye isikhathi umyeni ubona ngaphambi kwakhe owesifazane ongenandaba, okuthandayo kanye nendlela yokuphila akude naye. Umfazi ukhononda ngokuthi umyeni wakhe akakhohlisi kancane. Ukuthi wayezama ukuba ngumfazi "olungile" nenkosikazi yakhe, alishintshi lutho.
Ungaba kanjani? Ngokwezinga elithile, izindaba zezinganekwane zeCinderella, ezazikulindele zonke izibusiso ezivela enkosini, zisola. Kodwa akukaze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu ukucabanga ngokuqaphela kwakho. Ibhizinisi lakho, amapulani, ngisho nempumelelo encane - leyo impendulo, indlela yokuheha umyeni wakhe. Ayikho imilingo, ingqondo eyodwa: lo wesifazane ohlakaniphile kukho konke ukugcwala kokuphila kuhle, umphakathi wakhe ufuna ukujabulela yonke iminithi!
Isimo sesine: umyeni wami unenkosikazi
Ngezinye izikhathi kungenxa yokuthi umyeni wayeka ukulalela. Ngisho nomyeni onothando ngokuphelele angakha isimo esinzima kangaka emndenini. Ubuthakathaka obuncane, ithonya lokuphuza utshwala, ukungaqondi kahle kungaholela ekubukeni komunye umuntu wesifazane. Lokhu akukhulumi ngenhloso evuthiwe.
Ungaba kanjani? Ungabonisi ngomkhuhlane bese unquma isu elilandelayo: ukubuyisela umyeni, ukumshiya noma ukugxila empilweni yakhe? Ngisho nakule nkinga, kunezindlela zokubuyisela ukunakwa komyeni. Isibonelo, ungasebenzisa isikhathi sakho ngenkathi ugxile ebuhlotsheni obusha. Buyisela i- "I" yakho ephukile "We". Ukuqinisa ubuthakathaka babo - ezemidlalo, ezengqondo, ukuphumula, ukuqaphela amakhono azo kuzosiza, njll. Umphumela uzoba ukunambitheka okusha kokuphila. Ngolunye usuku, ukuqonda komyeni wakhe kuqinisekisiwe. Mhlawumbe, ukunakekelwa kwakhe kuyokwanda, kodwa hhayi ukuthi kuyobe kuyadingeka.