... Futhi washiya - wahlala!
Futhi wathembisa ukuthi angeke ashiye.
Wayesesifisa,
akakwazi ukukhohlwa ...
Isimo esivamile? Ukuzisola okukhulu, umbuzo wokuthi ungabuyisela kanjani umfana othandekayo awunqamuli omunye wabesifazane abasha. Kodwa-ke, uvame ukukhathazeka futhi akhule ngokwanele, abesifazane abazethembayo nabanelisekile. Futhi konke ngoba, njengoba i-classic ephawula kahle, bonke ubudala bayathobela uthando. Ake sizame ukuqonda isinyathelo ngesinyathelo umbuzo: "Yini engingayenza ukuze ngibuyele othandekayo wami?"
Kungenzeka yini ukubuyisela othandekayo?
Kungenzeka ukuyibuyisela, kodwa kuyadingeka? Kungani kufanele uyibuyisele? Ingabe lo muntu uthanda futhi ufanelwe uthando lwakho? Ingabe uyakuthanda? (Uma ungathandi, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buzophela ngendlela oyifunayo ngayo.) Uma uthola izimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo futhi, ezimweni eziningi, zilungile, sekuyisikhathi sokuhlehlisa ibhizinisi futhi ubheke izindlela zokubuya.
Njengoba bethi: "Gcwalisa ama-wedge nge-wedge". Mhlawumbe, nje ngokuhlaziya isizathu sokuhlukanisa kwakho, uzoqonda ukuthi ungabuyela kanjani othandekayo wakho. Uma usolwa ngokungahlali ndawonye, zama nje ukucela intethelelo. Ukuxolisa akulula, kepha ngothando, zonke izindlela zilungile. Futhi khumbula: ayikho into ehlazekayo yokuthi isinyathelo sokuqala senziwa intombazane, kungumlando "kagogo"! Konke kusezandleni zakho. Kodwa ungabi nxanxathela kakhulu, akudingeki ubize "okwangaphambili" njalo ngemizuzu engu-10, ubukele emnyango bese ugcwalisa ngezinyembezi. Ngikholelwa, lokhu kuzoholela emphumela wokuphambene ngokuphelele. Futhi ngeke nje kuphela abuyele, kodwa uzokuzama ukukugwema ngendlela engu-10!
Indlela yokubuyisela othandekayo - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Okungcono kakhulu, ngokombono wami, iseluleko esiwusizo, khumbula ukuthi uthandana nomfana. Khumbula ukuthi wawukuphi lapho uhlangana kuqala, futhi waqala ukukuncenga. Wakunike kanjani izimbali futhi akakwazanga ukukhathala bonke kusihlwa ukukutshela ukuthi uyamncoma. Yilokho futhi bakhumbule ngokucacile. Wayekuthandi ngawe? Yiziphi izici zakho zokubukeka nomlingisi owawuhlabelela? Usuke washintsha kusukela ngaleso sikhathi? Kudingekile ukuba abe okufanayo futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe uthandane naye! Kungenzeka, udinga nje ukuzama!
Futhi kuthiwani uma ungenzi lutho? Okusho ukuthi, ukwenza, kodwa, ukudala ukukholelwa ukuthi isinyathelo esivela kuye? Awuqondi? Bheka. Amadoda ayenabazingeli, futhi kudingeka afune owesifazane, futhi akuyona into ethakazelisayo uma ewela ezandleni zakhe. Uzofana, njengoba izazi zengqondo ziluleka, futhi uzoveza impilo ejabulisayo nomuntu oziqinisekisayo. Yilokho okufanele akubone lapho uhlangana "ngengozi" emgwaqweni.
Omunye wabangane bami, ukuze abuyele othandekayo, wanquma ukuphindiselela futhi abonise ukuthi ubani olahlekile, nokuthi amanye amadoda amnakekela kanjani. Wammemela emhlanganweni onobungane e-cafe, futhi wafika lapho nomunye umfana. Futhi ucabangani? Wavumela othandekayo wakhe ukuba aziphendulele kulowo omunye, futhi ngemva konyaka bashada! Kunokuba ungekho iseluleko, ungabuyela kanjani othandekayo wakho? Kodwa kudingeka uqaphele, mhlawumbe "owakho", ngemuva kokuphenduka kwezehlakalo, kuzolahleka kuze kube phakade.
Ngesinye isikhathi asikho ithuba lokuthi othandekayo wakho uzobuya - uma ethandana nomunye owesifazane ngobuqotho. Khona-ke, ukuze ungenzi futhi ungasungula, amathuba akho athathaniswa no-zero. Kodwa unamandla, ungayima! Futhi, mhlawumbe, uyozisola kakhulu ngelinye ilanga ukuthi akaseduze nawe!