Ukwedlula ubudlelwane kungavamile ukulandelana, ikakhulu amadoda, nabesifazane bazizwa ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka. Abaningi kule nkathi babona izwe ngembala eluhlaza, abajabuli ngalutho futhi abaxhumani nabanye abantu, bachitha usuku ngalunye ngokuningi futhi baye esimweni sokucindezeleka okujulile. Kulesi simo, ulwazi, ukuthi ungamkhohlwa kanjani umuntu omthandayo, kuyoba usizo futhi kuyathandeka. Izazi zengqondo ziye zaphakamisa izinyathelo eziningana zezinto eziphilayo ezizosiza ngokushesha ukukhohlwa mayelana nokudlula futhi ziqale ukuphila kusukela ekuqaleni.
Kungenzeka yini ukukhohlwa othandekayo?
Ukuhlukanisa kushiya ngemuva kwesilonda emphefumulweni, ongeke ukwelashwa nganoma imuphi umuthi. Kunzima kakhulu ukuzwa ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo yedwa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kuyinkathi yesikhashana futhi enzima okudingayo ukuba usinde.
Izinyathelo ezintathu ezilula, ukukhohlwa othandekayo:
- Sula yonke imizwelo . Ngifuna ukukhala - ngikhala, ngifuna ukukhamuluka - kumemeza. Yenza kuphela ngasese, ukuze ungabangela isihawu kwabanye. Ungayeki usizo lwabantu abaseduze, ngoba ukususwa kuyiphutha elikhulu elingayikuholela ekuxazululeni inkinga. Ngaphandle komunye umuntu kufanele ahlanganyele ekutsheleni futhi axoxele wonke umuntu ngokuhlupheka kwabo. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma kanye, ukuveza yonke imizwa yakho bese uyiqeda.
- Susa ekuphileni konke okukukhumbuza ngomthande wakho . Phonsa izithombe, izipho, izinto, njll. Lokhu kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyasebenza kakhulu.
- Gcwalisa impilo ngemimoya emihle . Sebenzisa isikhathi sakho samahhala nabangani, ujabule, uphumule, uhambo. Thola umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa noma umsebenzi, ngokujwayelekile, thatha imicabango yakho.
Lezi zinyathelo ezintathu ezilula zizosiza ukukhohlwa umuntu othandekayo, njengoba zizocacisa ukuthi ngaphandle kwezinyembezi nokuhlupheka empilweni kukhona izinto eziningi ezinhle futhi ezithakazelisayo, futhi ukuphila akuphelanga ekuhlukaneni, kodwa kwaphenduka kwenye indlela. Kubalulekile ukudweba iziphetho ezifanele, ufunde okuthile bese uqhubeka.
Amathiphu we-Psychology, ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu omthandayo:
- Akudingeki uzikhohlise ngezifiso zobuwula, ngoba lokhu ngeke kukuvumele ukuba uqale impilo kusukela ekuqaleni. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi awubukeli imihlangano, ungabizi noma ubhale, lokhu kuzobe kubi kakhulu isimo, ngoba ukusabela komuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili akuyazi.
- Yenza uhlu lwezinto ezinhlanu ofuna ukuzenza isikhathi eside, bese uqala ukuzisebenzisa.
- Zisebenze ngokwakho, noma kunalokho ngokuzethemba, okuyinto ezimweni eziningi ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa kwehla "ngaphansi kwebhodi lokugijima."
- Yenza uhlu lwezimfanelo zendoda ekahle bese udweba ukufana nomuntu wangaphambili. Kungenzeka ukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi zokungahambisani, futhi uzobona ukuthi kukhona ukulahlekelwa okuncane.
- Qaphela ukubukeka kwakho. Ngena ngemvume ku-gym, uye e-beauty salon bese uthengisa. Njengoba bethi, isithombe esisha impilo entsha.
- Uma kungekho iseluleko esiwusizo futhi isimo sibuhlungu kakhulu, kungcono ukuya ku-aphoyintimenti nomuntu wezokwelapha oyokusiza ukuthola isisombululo esifanele esimweni. Ungaya
ukuqeqeshwa nokufunda izincwadi ezifanele. - Ungabheka ukwesekwa kotshwala ikakhulukazi ezidakamizweni. I-turbidity yesikhashana ayivumeli ukubhekana nenkinga ekhona.
- Abaningi bayasiza ukuqeda ubuhlobo obusha odlule. Kungaba lula ukudlala ngothando ngaphandle kokungathí sina. Kodwa ukuncoma nokuthandana, kuzokukwenza uzizwe ulamukelekile futhi ukhangele.
Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi wenzeni ukukhohlwa othandekayo wakho futhi uphile ngokujabula, ke sinikela ngendlela eyodwa jikelele - uzithanda wena, uqonde ukuthi ufanelwe okuhle kuphela futhi ngokuqinisekile ulindele phambili.