Ukuphinga, ngeshwa, into ejwayelekile kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, inkinga yokuthi ungaphila kanjani ukuthengiswa komyeni futhi ugcine umshado, ngoba abesifazane abaningi bawusizo kakhulu.
Ososayensi bathi abesilisa babe isithembu emvelo, okunjalo i-genetic code yabo futhi akukho lutho olungenziwa ngakho. Kodwa izintatheli ezinjalo ziyisikhuthazo ebuthakathaka kubafazi abahlukunyezwa ukungathembeki kwabathembekile babo. Kunzima nakakhulu ekuqaleni, lapho imizwa yentukuthelo kanye nesizungu isacacile kakhulu, futhi yonke imicabango ididekile futhi iyingxabano. Ukuze uvimbele iphutha elibulalayo, "ukushaywa ihlombe kusukela ehlombe," wonke amalunga ashadile kufanele azi ukuthi angaphila kanjani ubuhlungu bokungathembeki umyeni wakhe futhi angalahlekelwa othandekayo. Phela, izizathu zokuphinga kumlingani zingase zihluke.
Indlela yokusinda ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe futhi ulondoloze umshado?
Izincomo zokuthi ungaphila kanjani ukuthengiswa komyeni wakhe futhi ulondoloze umndeni, ungathola eziningi kakhulu. Kodwa akuzona zonke eziphumelelayo. Ake siphendule iseluleko ukuthi izazi zengqondo zengqondo zinikeza.
- Hlala phansi, cabanga, ucabange ngesimo, kodwa hhayi ekhaya, kodwa endaweni engathathi hlangothi: abangane, mama, e-dacha. Izinsuku eziyisikhombisa kufanele kube ngokwanele ukuletha imicabango yakho ngokuhlelekile.
- Zama ukumemeza, ukukhulula imizwelo emibi eyokuduza. Kungcono ukukwenza yedwa, ukuzihawukela akufanele kuboniswe ngisho nezihlobo.
- Ukuphazamisa, uhambo lokuthenga, uhambo, uhambo lwebhizinisi noma ngisho nakwezinye idolobha usuku olulodwa.
- Ngemuva kokuthi "ukupholisa phansi" ukhulume nomyeni wakhe ngokukhululekile, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokungahambi kahle. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini oxhumekile kulo muntu. Futhi ingabe udinga ngempela ukusindisa umshado uma ungahambi komunye nomunye?
Isayensi ye-psychology mayelana nokuthi ungaphila kanjani ukukhishwa komyeni akunikezi izindlela zokupheka ezenziwe ngomumo. Kodwa iseluleko sabachwepheshe namanje kufanele silalele, futhi uma kwenzeka uvakashele ukubonisana okugcwele.