Ukwehlukaniswa komyeni kuwo wonke owesifazane kuyisifo sokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka, okubangelwa ukufutheka kokuqala kanye nobuhlungu, bese umzamo wokuqonda, ukusesha izimbangela kanye nezixazululo zenkinga. Ngokuvamile akunakwenzeka ukubhekana nokuhlangenwe nakho okudabukisayo nemicabango emibi ngokuzimela. Futhi uma owesifazane engakwazi ukubhekana neqiniso lokuthi umyeni wakhe usishintshile futhi angazi ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ukukhwabanisa, khona-ke udinga ukuphendukela kwisazi sengqondo.
Indlela yokusinda ukukhishwa komyeni - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Ukubhekana nokucindezeleka nokusiza ukusinda ukukhishwa komyeni kubesifazane abaningi kusiza ukuxhumana nabathandekayo, ngisho noma bengakwazi ukunikeza isixazululo kule nkinga, uzwela, induduzo nokuqonda kungcono ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo. Embuzweni wokuthi ungaphila kanjani ukukhwabanisa komyeni wakhe, iseluleko sabanokholo kwengqondo sincishiswe ezincomo ezinjalo:
- Njengoba ubhekene nokucindezeleka kokuqala, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwamadoda akuyona into yokukhetha omunye owesifazane, ngezinye izikhathi kungukuthi ubalekele izinkinga kanye nesimiso, ngokuvamile kuyiphutha elingenangqondo, lapho umuntu ngokuvamile engazi khona ukuphuma.
- Ngokweqiniso kokudlwengulwa kwamadoda, abangaphezu kwesigamu sabesifazane abangasinda futhi bathathe izifundo eziwusizo kulezi zimo ezibuhlungu ezibhekene nazo. Okokuqala, vuma ukuthi lesi simo asikude futhi singabodwa. Phela, ngisho nezintombi zalowo wesifazane okhubekile kumelwe ukuba zabhekana nokuhlukunyezwa.
- Ungaziqoqi ngokushesha lezi zikhwama, kufanele uqale uzikhethele wena - uma umyeni esabathandwa futhi ethanda, mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukuphenya ngezizathu nezimo zokukhaphela kwakhe. Ukuxhumana okungahleliwe okungahleliwe kanye nohlangothi oluhlala njalo lomshado yizimo ezimbili ezihluke ngokuphelele.
- Izizathu zokungathembeki zingafihlwa ebuhlotsheni bomndeni kanye nobulili, okudingeka zicatshangelwe futhi zihlaziywe, futhi ngenxa yalokhu kudingeke ukuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano nomlingani idingeke. Engxoxweni nomyeni wakhe, ungawa emacansini, owesifazane ozolile, olinganiselayo nokuziqhenya angabonisa okuningi kumuntu. Uma ebona ukuthi angayilahlekelwa, kukhona ithuba langempela lokubuyisela ubudlelwane.
- Uma ukubuyisana kungenakwenzeka, noma umyeni akahlangani, kubalulekile ukumbonisa ukuzethemba kwakhe, amandla akhe, ukuzineliseka nokuzimela. Njengomthetho, amadoda, ukujwayela ukuxhomekeka komfazi, avumele ukuba baziphathe ngokungalungile. Ungayithola kangaki inkulumo ethi: "Ngeke ihambe noma kuphi!" Kodwa kubalulekile kuphela ukukhombisa ukuzimela namandla okulingana, njengoba zonke izibhamu zihamba njengothuli.
Iseluleko sangempela futhi esicacile ukuthi kulula kanjani ukusinda ukukhishwa komyeni kufanele sisekelwe esimweni esithile, izici eziqondene nomuntu ngamunye womshado, uhlobo lobuhlobo emshadweni oshadile. Kunoma yikuphi, nakuzo zonke izikhundla, isikhathi sokusiza sisiza.
Uma kunethuba lokuya endaweni ethile noma ukuhamba okwesikhashana efulethini elivamile, ngenkathi ungaphuli zonke izibopho nokubeka iphuzu lokugcina, ngokuvamile kusiza bobabili bomshado ukuqoqa imicabango yabo, ngokucabangela bacabange futhi bahlaziye yonke imibuzo ephathelene nokuphila okudlule nokuzayo.
Esikhundleni sokukhala izinyembezi nokufuna amaphutha kuwe, kungcono ukuchitha lesi sikhathi ukuguqula ngokwakho othandekayo. Ikhanda elisha, ukuguqulwa kwesithombe, isitayela esisha sokugqoka njalo kusiza owesifazane ukuba azizwe eqiniseka. Umyeni olahlekile, ebona umfazi ovuselelwe, ophumule futhi oqabulekile, kungenzeka ngempela ukuqala futhi ukuwina.
Ungaphila kanjani ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe nesehlukaniso?
Uma ukubuyisana kungasebenzi futhi ukuhlukanisa kungenakugwemeka, kubalulekile ukuthi wonke owesifazane aqonde futhi amukele amaqiniso amaningana:
- isehlukaniso - lokhu akusona ukuphela kokuphila, kodwa kuphela ukuphela kobudlelwano nomuntu;
- isehlukaniso yithuba lokushintsha ngokuphelele isithombe sakho nendlela yokuphila;
- abesifazane abaningi, isahlukaniso sekuyisikhuthazo nokugqugquzela ukufezekisa impumelelo emisha emsebenzini, ukuzithuthukisa;
- ukunqoba ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo yesehlukaniso kuzosiza ezokuzilibazisa ezintsha nokuxhumana nabantu abasha - ungenza imidlalo, ubhalise eqenjini, umjikelezo wezingodo noma ufunde olunye ulimi.
Into eyinhloko okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi unamathuba amaningi okufakazela oshade naye oyiphutha ukuthi ulahlekile kangakanani, elahlekelwe ngumfazi onjalo omuhle.