Umndeni ungabantu abasondelene kakhulu, ngakho-ke inkinga yobudlova basekhaya, enye yezinto ezivame kakhulu emphakathini wanamuhla, isabeka kakhulu. Izibalo ziyadumaza, ngobudlova emndenini babhekene nabesifazane abangaphezu kwama-50%. Amacala uma isisulu singumuntu engavamile - ama-5% wezinombolo zeziqephu. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka emibhangqwaneni lapho umyeni omdala kunomkakhe. Okubi nakakhulu kunabo bonke abantu ababa yisisulu sokuhlukumeza ekhaya akukwazi ukuthi benzeni ngakho, baqhubeke bebekezelela ukuxhashazwa.
Izinhlobo zobudlova basekhaya
Kukhona izinhlobo ezilandelayo zobudlova emndenini: ngokomzimba, ngokobulili, kwezomnotho nangokwengqondo.
- Udlame lomzimba luvame ukuxoxwa ngaso, iqiniso layo lilula ukulibona nokufakazela. Kodwa kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi lesi sigaba asihlanganisi nje ukushaywa ngesihluku, kodwa siphinde sishaye, siphume futhi sishaye. Ngokujwayelekile konke akupheli emva kokushaywa okokuqala, ukushaywa kuyaqhubeka, kuba yinto enonya njalo njalo, futhi uma kungenjalo ukuthatha izinyathelo ezinkulu, konke lokhu kungaholela ekufeni kwesisulu.
- Udlame ngocansi. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi amadoda aphoqa omkawo ukuba abe nesondlo ngemva kokushaywa. Ngesinye isikhathi lokhu kwenzeka ngokuphendula ukwenqaba ukuba nengane.
- Udlame lwezomnotho luboniswa ngenqatshelwe ukusebenza, ukuchitha imali. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane nabasesikoleni esiphakeme bavezwa ngalokhu. Umyeni uyenqabela ukuya emsebenzini, uzimisele ukusekela umndeni wedwa, futhi lapho owesifazane eba nethembele ngokuphelele kuye, uqala ukuhleka usulu bese efaka leli qiniso kumlandu wakhe.
- Ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo (ngokomzwelo) emndenini kuyinxushunxushu, ukusola njalo, ukwesatshiswa, ukuhlazeka, ukuphoqelelwa kunoma yiziphi izenzo, ukuvinjelwa kokuxhumana nezihlobo noma abajwayele, njll. Udlame lwengqondo emndenini luvame kakhulu, kodwa kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuluqaphela. Kodwa nokho kuhlanganisa nemiphumela emibi kakhulu. Ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, owesifazane okungenani uqonda ukuthi kuyadingeka ukubaleka, futhi izisulu zobudlova ngokomzwelo emndenini ziqala ukukholelwa ekunciphiseni kwabo. Abesifazane bayaqiniseka ukuthi abangakufaneleki kahle, izingane ezikhulela emindenini enjalo, zithole ubuningi bezinkinga ezingase ziholele emzamweni wobudlova obhekene noontanga noma umndeni wesikhathi esizayo.
Izimbangela Zobudlova Basekhaya
Ukugxila ebudloveni kuyindlalifa, kodwa kanengi kutholakala ngokuhlangenwe nakho okungahambi kahle komzimba, isibonelo, imfundo emndenini lapho uyise eshaya khona noma ehleka usulu umama noma ingane . Ngakho-ke, ukuvimbela kakhulu ubudlova basekhaya kuyindlela yokwenza lezi zihlukumezi ezilandelayo. Futhi, ukuhlukumezeka okuhlukahlukene kufaka isandla ekusakazeni ubudlova, isibonelo, "igama lomyeni ngumthetho womfazi". Amadoda amaningi akhetha ukuphoqa lo mthetho ngodlame. Ngokuvamile abantu abakwazi ukukhuluma futhi bathole ubuhlobo, bakhetha ukuxazulula izinkinga ngezibhamu zabo.
Udlame emndenini, yini okufanele uyenze?
Abesifazane abaningi bayanqikaza ukucela ukuvikelwa ekuhlukunyezweni kwasekhaya nabanye abantu, bavame ukusola ngokwabo ngalokho okwenzekayo. Ngakho-ke, abaphendukele emaphoyiseni futhi abafaki ihlukaniso, bakhetha ukuqhubeka bebekezelela ukuxhashazwa nokuhlazeka. Kodwa ukuyeka ukuphathwa okunjalo kuyadingeka, ngaphandle kwalokho kungaqeda kakhulu ukudabuka. Uma isimo singakwazi ukuphathwa ngokuzimela, ungaxhumana nezinhlangano ezikhethekile ezikuzo zonke idolobha elikhulu. Kweminye imizi, kunezikhungo ezikhethekile lapho izisulu zobudlova basekhaya zizothola usizo lwezingqondo nezomthetho, futhi zinikeze indawo yokukhosela yesikhashana.