Ubudlova ngokumelene nezingane kubonakaliswa ukubusa ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba noma ngokobulili ngokuphathelene nabantwana. Kuze kube manje, lesi simo siyinkinga yomhlaba wonke. Ukwaziswa kwansuku zonke ngezigameko ezinjalo kubonakala emaphephandabeni. Ulwazi mayelana nokudlwengulwa nokushaya kwezingane lukhukhula kwi-intanethi. Namuhla sizoxoxa mayelana nokuvimbela ukuthi kwenzeke kanjani isimo esinjalo, sivikele ingane yakho kunoma iyiphi impembelelo ngaphandle futhi ungalimazi ingane ngokwakho.
Ukuxhashazwa ngokocansi kwezingane
Ukuxhashazwa ngokocansi kwezingane kuhilela ukubandakanyeka okungemthetho kwengane emisebenzini eqondile noma engaqondile kwezocansi ngenhloso yokuthola izinzuzo noma ukwaneliseka. Ubudlova ngokobulili bubonisa ingane nezithombe namavidiyo angcolile. Ukuvezwa kwengane yakho enganeni, ukubandakanya ingane encane ekukhiqizeni izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kanye nokuphoqeleka kwengane ukukhombisa izitho eziseduze nokuhlola ingane ngesikhathi senqubo yakhe yokuhlanzeka.
Ngokuvamile, ukucindezela ingane ukwenza imisebenzi yocansi kwenzeka emndenini. Ukuhlukumeza ubudlelwane phakathi kwemindeni kwenzeka njalo lapho ilungu elisha livela emndenini. Isibonelo, umama uphinde washada futhi ingane inomama wesithathu. Indoda ijabulela ukuthembela kowesifazane omthandayo futhi abonise uthando lwakhe kumntanakhe ngazo zonke izindlela-unikeza izipho, uthatha izandla, unakekele umntwana. Kodwa-ke, ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kufika isikhathi lapho umama wesilisa ehlala eyedwa nengane futhi evumela ngokwakhe into engekho ozoyikholelwa. Izikhalazo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingumntwana omncane noma umfana osemusha kumapapa omusha, zizwa ngokungajwayelekile, ngoba zonke izimvo zilotshelwe ukunganeliseki, umhawu, isifiso sokubona ubaba wangempela noma ukungathandeki komuntu siqu.
Izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili kungaba:
- imivimbo kanye nokuhlukunyezwa endaweni yengane yomntwana;
- Ukuthola izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi ezinganeni;
- ukutheleleka kwamagciwane;
- ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo nokukhathazeka;
- izifo ze-psychosomatic;
- izikhalazo nokuvuma kwengane;
- intshisekelo yengane ngokuzumayo ezintweni ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile;
- ukuziphendulela okuqinile;
- ukuhlukunyezwa.
Imiphumela yengozi ehlangene nayo ngokuqinisekile ngeke ithinte ukuphila komntwana okuqhubekayo. Umbono walokho okuhlangenwe nakho kuzosithinta ukwakheka kobuntu bakhe, ukubukwa kwezwe, inhlamvu yomlingiswa, impilo yomzimba nengqondo. Izinga lokulimala lixhomeke nokuthi ubani owenzile ubugebengu ngokumelene nengane nokuthi ingane ingakanani ngaleso sikhathi. Okudabukisayo kakhulu ukulimala okubangelwa izihlobo nezihlobo.
Yingakho ukuvikelwa kwezingane ekuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili, okokuqala, kudinga ukunakekelwa kubazali nabantu abaseduze kwengane. Ungaphenduli masinyane izikhalazo zengane yakho, uma ikhona, vimbela ingane ukuba ikhulume futhi imlalele ngamanga. Ngaso sonke isikhathi thatha isikhathi sokukhuluma nengane yakho, sungula ubudlelwane obethembayo bese uzama ukungalahlekelwa le ngethemba kusuka kwengane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, funda ukuqaphela izingozi, uxhumane nabantu abangabazi futhi njalo, njalo ukhulume ngezinkinga nanoma yiziphi izimo ezingavamile kuwe!
Ukuhlukumeza ngokomzimba izingane
Kubuye kuvame kakhulu, kuthinta izigidi zezingane emhlabeni jikelele. Ukuphathwa kabi kwengane kwenzeka kaningi ezihlotsheni, ikakhulukazi abazali. Kungabangelwa ukusebenza kabi komntwana esikoleni, ukungathandi ukulandela imiyalelo yabazali. Endabeni yabantwana abancane - ukukhwabanisa kwabo, ukudumaza, ukukhala nokungalaleli. Ngenxa yokuthi iningi labomama nabazali abazi imithetho yokukhulisa izingane, basebenzisa amaqhinga anonya anethonya. Izingane eziye zahlushwa ubudlova zivame ukucindezeleka, zikwazi ukuzihlonipha, futhi zivame ukulimala ezinhlotsheni zabo ezifana nokusikeka, ukulimaza, ukulimaza, ukukhwabanisa nezinye ukulimala.
Izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba kungaba:
- izibhamu, ukusikeka kanye namanxeba emzimbeni nasebusweni bomntwana;
- ukwesaba kwengane yokuxhumana nabantu abadala. Isibonelo, ingane isaba ukwesaba ngisho nokuthinta okuncane kuye, umzamo wokuthatha isandla ungaqeda kuma-hysteric;
- ukuziphatha okungahambi kahle kwengane esikoleni. Uqala ngokungazelelwe alahlekelwe ngemuva kolwazi, akahlanganyeli emisebenzini yesikole, wenqaba ukuxhumana nabanye.
Into evelele kunazo zonke: ubudlova obungokomzimba ngokumelene namafomu wengane kuye ukuqonda ukuthi, ngenxa yamandla angokwenyama, ungakwazi ukufeza konke. Futhi lokhu kuholela ekutheni ingane ehlukunyezwe ngaphambilini ikhula ibe yindunankulu engenangqondo futhi futhi, ngesibonelo sabazali bayo, iqala ukufeza konke ngamandla. Noma iyiphi inkinga evele endleleni yayo, ukungaqondi kahle kancane ekukhulumisaneni nomuntu kuzophela ekulwa. Kuzoba nzima ngaye ukwakha umndeni, ukwenza abangane nokuzivumelanisa nomphakathi.
Uma isikhathi sokungenelela esimweni bese uyeka ukuphathwa kabi kwengane, imiphumela ngemuva kokulimala kuyoba yincane. Ukusizwa kwengqondo ngesikhathi esifanele ezinganeni ezithinteka ngodlame lwabantu abadala kuzobasiza ukuba bakhohlwe esikhathini esidlule futhi babuke umhlaba ngendlela ehlukile.
Ukuhlukunyezwa Kwengqondo Kwabantwana
Akumangalisi, kodwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kwengane okuyinto esabekayo kakhulu futhi enonya. Lolu hlobo lobugebengu luvame ukunakwa, alukhulunywanga ngaso sonke isikhathi njengezinye izinhlobo zokuphathwa kabi kwezingane.
Amafomu okuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo:
- Ukugxila kwengane. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka lapho ingane emndenini ingathandeki. I-kid iboniswa nganoma iyiphi indlela engayidingi muntu, akaboniswa uthando, ukunakekelwa okufanele, ukwethembeka, ukunakekelwa. Uzama ukungazizwa futhi azenze angaqapheli.
- Ukungazinaki ingane. Uma izidingo ezingokomzwelo zabantu abadala zinganelisekile, zithatha ukunganaki izidingo zomzwelo zengane. Ukunciphisa intshisekelo yengane, futhi ngezinye izikhathi nokungabikho kwayo okuphelele, ukunganakwa nokuntuleka kwesinyathelo kuholela ingane ekuhluphekeni, isizungu kanye nesimo esicindezelekile.
- Ukuhlukanisa ingane. Ukuphoqelela ingane ukuba ingene ekamelweni lakhe njalo emva kokungalaleli, icala, nezinye izenzo ezingamukeleki kubazali kubangela ukuhlaselwa komuntu. Uma, ngemva kokuphulwa kancane kwemithetho ebekwe abazali, ingane kufanele ivalwe, futhi kuvunyelwe ukuhamba nabangane, kancane kancane ihlaziye, ilahlekelwe ikhono lokuxhumana.
- Ukuxhashazwa kwengane. Izingane eziye zahlushwa ubudlova ngokusebenzisa ukuxhashazwa ziyancipha ebuntwaneni babo, ukuzijabulisa nokujabula kwabo. Baba abantu abadala ekuqaleni. Ukuxhashazwa kwengane kuhilela ukusetshenziswa kwamandla ebantwaneni ekusebenzeni kwemisebenzi yabantu abadala, isibonelo, ukugcinwa kwezindlu, imfundo yabafowethu nodade abasebasha, kanye nokusebenza okunzima okwenzela inzuzo.
- Ukuxhashazwa ingane. Izinsongo eziqhubekayo ezivela kubantu abadala zenza umntwana abe namahloni futhi anganaki. Njengomthetho, ingane iphethe yonke imizwelo yakhe nemizwa yakhe ngokujulile futhi iyesaba ukutshela noma ngubani ngalokho asongelwa khona. Izinsongo zingaba yinto ehluke kakhulu - isongo sokubulala, ukulimala, ukuthumela ku-izintandane, esibhedlela sengqondo. Uma umuntu ongaphandle ebeka usongo, ngezinye izikhathi kwanele ukutshela ingane ukuthi lokhu noma lokho kukhwaba kwaziwa kubazali bakhe, uma engagcwalisi, yini edingekayo kuye.
Indlela yokuvikela ingane kulolu hlobo lobudlova? Abazali kuqala kudingeka bafunde ukulalela nokuqonda ingane yabo. Ukujeziswa ngosizo lokwehlukaniswa kwengane nokushaya ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle. Kuzoba nezinkinga ezingaphezulu, kokubili ebuhlotsheni kanye nokuphila komntwana. Khumbula ukuthi zonke izinyathelo zakho ezingalungile, wonke amagama aphonswe ngokungahleliwe azohlala kuze kube phakade enhliziyweni yengane futhi ngokuqinisekile uyozizwakala uma kungenjalo ngokushesha, eminyakeni eminingi, eminingi. Uthando, ukwethemba, ukunakekelwa, ukuqonda, ububele, ukunakekelwa kwabazali - lokhu ukuvikela izingane ezibudlova. Khumbula ukuthi ingane yakho ithembela kuwe, ngakho ungaphumeleli ukwethembela kwakhe, ungazami ukuyiphula, kungcono uthole ukhiye enhliziyweni yakhe.