Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi izingane ziqhubeka nabazali bazo. Yingakho inkulumo ethi "konke kumama / ubaba" izwa njalo. Kodwa lokhu, cishe, kubhekisela esimweni noma yiziphi izimfanelo, izici, kodwa hhayi izifundo. Ngakho-ke, uma abazali ngesikhathi esifanayo bebafundi abahle futhi beyisibonelo kubangane babo, lokhu akusho ukuthi ingane yabo izoba efanayo.
Indlela yokufunda?
Namuhla, abazali bayaqhubeka bebuza umbuzo: "Indlela yokufunda ingane?". Ngesikhathi esifanayo baya ezindleleni ezihlukahlukene: bathembisa into yokufunda okuhle, bakhokhe imali yamamaki aphezulu, njll. Kodwa lokhu akusiniki ngaso sonke isikhathi umphumela omuhle. Ngokuvamile isithakazelo ngokushesha sinyamalalala ngokuthola okufunayo.
Yingakho udinga ukulandela amathiphu alandelayo azosiza ingane ukuthi ifunde kahle:
- Hlaziya ikhono lomntanakho. Ngamunye wethu ungumuntu ngamunye futhi cishe akaphindaphindi. Futhi, njengoba wazi, izinto eziza kuqala kanye namathalenta akhiwa ebuntwaneni, iminyaka yobudala besenkulisa. Ngakho-ke, kuwumsebenzi oqondile wabo bonke abazali ukuba babone kahle futhi bahlakulele ngendlela efanele. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukuhlolwa kuzoba kuhle ekunqumeni amakhono ngabanye. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ikusasa lomdlali weHockey kunzima ukuphoqa ukubhala izinkondlo, nomculi ukudlala, isibonelo, ebhola. Yingakho, kuye ngokuthi abazali bangaqaphela amakhono ayingqayizivele yengane yabo, impumelelo yayo kwinkqubo yokufunda iyoxhomeka.
- Ukulawula kufanele kube okulinganayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali bazama kangakanani, ngeke bakwazi ukulawula ngokuphelele isimo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akudingekile ukuvumela konke ukuhamba ngokuphelele futhi kunikeze inkululeko ingane. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukunikeza ingane ithuba, ukuhlola naye izabelo njalo kusihlwa. Lokhu kuzomkhombisa nje ukuthi uyamnakekela futhi uyayithanda, emva kwalokho yena ngokwakhe uzoba nesithakazelo ekufundeni kangcono.
- Yenza isithakazelo somntwana ukwazi konke okuzungezile. Kusukela ngesikhatsi umntwana eqala ukukhuluma, abazali baye bazwa okungamakhulu ayisishiyagalolunye kakhulu kunazo zonke, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bahlekisa, imibuzo yezingane. Kusukela kulesi sikhathi futhi uqala ukwakha isithakazelo ekufundeni into entsha, ukufunda. Abazali abaningi bakhumbula indlela abaphoqa ngayo ingane ukuba bafunde ukufunda, ngenkathi ethi uzoba ozimele ngokwengeziwe futhi ngeke kusaba nesidingo sokucela abadala ngalokhu.
- Inqubo yokufunda ithembela esibonelweni sakho. Abazali kufanele bahlale beqaphela zonke izenzakalo, ukufunda izincwadi, omagazini. Uma ubaba echitha njalo kusihlwa ekhompyutheni, futhi umama ubukela i-TV ngesikhathi esifanayo, isithakazelo emsebenzini wesikole somntanakho siyoshabalala ngokushesha, ngoba uzoyibona njengolunye uhlobo lwesijeziso.
Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyadingeka yini ukuphoqa?
Ngokuvamile, abazali bangawuzwa umbuzo: "Ingabe kudingekile ukuba ucindezele ingane ukuba ifunde nhlobo?". Ayikho impendulo engavamile kulokhu.
Ezinye izazi zengqondo zithi ama- hyperopic , ukulawula ngokweqile nokucindezela okuqhubekayo kwengane kuzophazamisa kuphela ukwakheka komuntu ngamunye. Ingane ngeke ikwazi ukwenza isinqumo ngokuzimela futhi ilinde imiyalo evela kubazali.
Enye indlela yokuphendula umbuzo wokuthi ucindezele ingane ukuthi itadishe, iyoba ngu "Yebo". Ngenxa ye-psyche yabo engapheli, izingane azikwazi ukubeka izinto eziza kuqala ekuphileni kwazo futhi zithole ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani kubo nokuthi yini engekho. Yingakho badinga ukuqapha njalo.
Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane ifunde noma cha, ngokuvamile abazali bazinqumela ngokwabo. Abaningi babo bavuma kuphela amaphutha abo lapho beqala ukungena enyuvesi futhi bezisola ngokuthi abazange banikeze izingane isikhathi esiningi.