Ubani ngempela, intsha? Lezi zikhulela izingane. Noma kunalokho - ukukhula. Futhi lapho usakhula, izinkinga eziyinhloko zokukhula zixhunyiwe. Ukukhula komzimba, kwengqondo, ukuziphatha, ukukhula komphakathi, ngeshwa, akugcini ukuhamba, futhi lokhu kuthuthukiswa okungalingani kuholela ekuphikisaneni kwengqondo, okufana nezingane ezineminyaka engu-11-17.
Kwenzekani ekusebenzeni? Ingane ekhulayo izwa futhi ikwazi ukuvuthwa kwayo ngokomzimba kanye nesidingo sakhe esengeziwe kanye nekhono lokubona ulwazi. Uzwa ukuthi kulezi zibonakaliso uye waya kubantu abadala, futhi ufuna ukuvumelanisa nabo ngokushesha. Kodwa ngenxa yokungahlolisi kokuziphatha nokuziphatha komuntu, intombazane ayikwazi ngezinye izikhathi ukuqonda ukuthi, ngaphandle kwamalungelo, naye unemithwalo yemfanelo.
Ukusebenzisa isifiso esinamandla sabantwana ukuvikela amalungelo abo yonke indawo nakuyo yonke indawo, ochwepheshe bezinkampani ezifanele (abameli, izazi zengqondo, njll) bakha izinhlangano zonke: zonke izinhlobo zezikhungo zokwesekwa komthetho kwabantwana. Futhi lokhu akukubi nakancane, uma nje ochwepheshe bangempela besebenza lapho abafuna ukusiza ngempela. Uma kungenjalo, ngezinye izikhathi kuza ezinkambisweni ezingenangqondo, njengokuthi, isinqumo ngokumelene nabafundisi besikole "okwenza" abafundi bahlanza ekilasini.
Indlela yokuchaza imithwalo yemfanelo yomntwana?
Uma uqaphela ukuthi ingane yakho ekhulayo iyazi kahle amalungelo, kuyilapho ingayinaki imisebenzi, sekuyisikhathi sokumchazela ubuhlobo phakathi kwamalungelo nemithwalo yemfanelo yengane. Uma bendabuko, "umkhulu" kusho imifanekiso nemisho ("uthando ukugibela - uthando nokulala okumele uthwale") ungasizi, zama ukukhuluma ngalolu buhlobo ngesibonelo sesistimu kahulumeni. Intsha efana namaqiniso nanoma yiluphi ulwazi "oluhlakaniphile". Tshela "isiphambano" sakho ngesimiso sobunye (ukuxhumana) kwamalungelo nemisebenzi esebenza ngokusemthethweni kuzo zonke izinkulumo zenkululeko - ungafunda ngakho kunoma iyiphi incwadi encwadini yomthethosisekelo. Chaza ukuthi wonke umuntu - hhayi nje osemusha, kodwa omdala - uye, kanye namalungelo, nemithwalo yemfanelo. Futhi endleleni, abantu abadala banemithwalo yemfanelo eminingi kunezingane.
Ukuqala ingxoxo enjalo, gwema izinkulumo zamagama. Ngitshele ukuthi wena ngokwakho ufuna ukuqonda, futhi yimaphi amalungelo kanye nemisebenzi isakhamuzi manje sineminyaka yakhe entsha. Hlola ndawonye lezo zincwadi zomthetho, isibonelo, njengeSimemezelo kanye ne-UN Convention on Amalungelo Ingane (ngokulandelana, ngo-1959 no-1989). Ngendlela, umbhalo wokuqala uthi noma yimuphi umuntu ongakafiki eminyakeni engu-18 engumntwana. Ngakho, njengoba kubonakala, umhlaba wonke ukholelwa ukuthi intombazane isengumntwana. Ukufunda uhlu lwamalungelo, ungabi ovilapha kakhulu ukuze ubukhali kuwo wonke umuntu, cela umntwana ukuthi ucabangani, leli lungelo lihlonishwa kuye noma cha. Mhlawumbe, kakade kulesi sigaba uzozifundela okuningi.
Manje, manje ungaqhubeka nombuzo walokho okusemandleni omusha. Lapha, empeleni, umsebenzi wakho winkimbinkimbi ngokuthi iqiniso alikho idokhumende elihlukile elisemthethweni elimemezela imithwalo yemfanelo yabantwana kanye nentsha. Noma kunjalo, le misebenzi ibhalwe ngemithetho ehlukene, engatholakala kalula kwi-intanethi. Nazi ezinye zazo:
- Isibopho sokuthola imfundo ejwayelekile eyisisekelo, isb. qedela amakilasi angu-9 esikoleni samabanga aphansi (okulotshwe eMthethweni "On Education");
- umsebenzi wokuba isakhamuzi esiphethe umthetho; ungenzi ubugebengu, amacala, ezinye izenzo ezingalimaza abanye abantu, ukungasebenzisi noma ukuphatha izikhali, kufaka phakathi ama-knuckwheels, ama-boomerang, ukubopha imimese nge-ejecting blade (echazwe ku-Code Administrative and Criminal, uMthetho Wezikhali);
- umsebenzi wokuhlonipha amalungelo abanye, njll. ukusebenzisa amalungelo abo ngaphandle kokubandlulula izithakazelo zabanye (okushiwo eMthethwenisisekelo).
Imisebenzi yentsha emndenini
Ithiyori nemibhalo yezomthetho kuhle, kodwa sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubekela phambili emisebenzini ewusizo futhi ukhulume ngemithwalo yemfanelo yomntwana osemusha ekhaya. Ngeke sinikeze lapha izinhlu zemisebenzi ethile ekhethekile - lokhu akudingekile. Kuzokwanela ukuhlonza imithetho eyisisekelo lapho imithwalo yemfanelo yengane ihlala khona, futhi azikho eziningi zazo:
- ukuhlonipha amasiko omndeni, isimo sengqondo sokuhlonipha izihlobo;
- hlambulula emva kwakho;
- ukuvikela impahla yomndeni;
- usizo lapho ebuzwa ukuthi asikho isizathu esizwakalayo sokwenqaba.
Ikhaya, umndeni - lena yindawo yokuqala lapho ingane ifunda ukuxhumana nokuxhumana nabanye abantu. Ukuthi ubuhlobo obuphakathi komntwana kanye nezihlobo zakhe buzokwakhiwa kanjani, indlela azozizwa ezungezwe ngabantu iyoxhomeke kakhulu ekuphileni kwakhe kwabantu abadala. Uma lo mndeni uhloniphana, ukufeza ngokucophelela imisebenzi yabo, uma isimo sokubambisana ngokuzithandela kanye nokusizana kokubusa kubusa, khona-ke ingane ekhula kulo mndeni, njengoba ithi, "ngeke ishabalale" empilweni.