Uma emphakathini wesilisa ukukhuluma nge-self-lady, iningi le-grin, elikhumbuza izwi mayelana ne-monkey nge-grenade, lichaza "u" njengo "umbulali", kanti abanye bayaqiniseka ukuthi akulungile ukufunda ukushayela imoto kusukela ekuqaleni ukuya ocansini olufanele imvelo. Kodwa-ke, u-Elishka Yunkova, uPatricia Moss, u-Utah Klanshmidt namanye ama-racers adumile abambelele indebe yokunqoba ngezandla zabo, aphule zonke lezi zicatshangelwayo kanye nezinkolelo ezithinta izinyosi! Ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa, iningi lamadoda likholelwa ukuthi ukushayela kungumthetho wabo. Ngeshwa, amanye amantombazane anikezela kulo mbono, futhi ngisho nokuzama ukugqoka "ihhashi" elinamasondo amane angenzi. Kulesi sihloko, sizozama ukukukholisa ngokufakazela ukuthi intombazane ifunda ukushayela imoto kalula njengendoda.
Ama-stereotypes - ngaphandle!
Ngaphambi kokufunda ukushayela imoto, owesifazane kufanele azihlukanise nombono womphakathi. Ziqede umcabango wokuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nemoto emgwaqweni ogcwele ngokweqile, ungene engozini noma uzitshele ngokwentukuthelo yabashayeli bezimoto ezingomakhelwane. Yiqiniso, akunakwenzeka ukuqinisekisa amaphutha, kodwa isizathu sabo asikona ubulili obuhle, kodwa lapho kungekho khona amakhono nolwazi. Ukuqonda izinto eziyisisekelo zokushayela amadoda kwenza amaphutha afanayo! Ngokuqondene nokwesaba izingozi, ezingozini zomgwaqo eziningi, abenzi bokuqala abasibo abahamba phambili behamba kancane futhi beqaphele, kodwa abashayeli abanethemba lokuthi baphakeme kakhulu emigwaqweni. Umshuwalense osemthethweni uzowengeza ekwethembekeni kwakho.
Ungesabi ukulahlekelwa enhlathini yamatshe (lokhu kuzovikelwa ngamamephu kanye nabahamba ngezinyawo), amaphoyisa omgwaqo (lawa angamadoda nje), ama-breakages endleleni (ingabe intombazane enhle iyasiza ngempela?).
Izici eziwusizo
Enye intombazane ikhetha ukufundela kubangane abanamakhono amasha okushayela amakhono amaningi, abanye baphendukela ezikoleni zokushayela abafundisi, beya kuzo zonke izigaba ezisebenzayo. Ukuzikhethela kungokwakho! Yiqiniso, ngeke uthole amalungelo ajwayelekile, kodwa uma uzizwa ukhululekile esimweni esinjalo, kungani ungahambi? Uma unquma ukuzinikela ngokuphelele ochwepheshe besikole sokushayela, zama ukuthola lapho kukhona khona abafundisi-abesifazane. Njenganoma yiliphi elinye ibhizinisi, ukuqeqeshwa kwamakhono okushayela kuqala ngokutadisha imithetho yemfundiso. Mhlawumbe usuvele wazi ukuthi abantu ngemuva kwesondo abangazange bazi kahle noma bangalandeli imithetho yomgwaqo babizwa ngokuthi "abashayeli" kepha "abagibeli" noma "bagibele". Ngaphezu kwalokho, ulwazi lombono luyinye iminikelo ebhokisini lwemali yezokuzethemba .
Ngesikhathi sokusebenza, ungadangali uma ukunyakaza kwezandla nezinyawo akusizibushelelezi ngendlela ongathanda ngayo. Imoto kufanele "izwe", futhi lokhu kuyindaba yesikhathi. Izinyanga ezimbalwa zizodlula futhi imoto izokulalela! Uma kukhona iphutha, thatha njengesivivinyo, futhi ungacabangi esikhathini esizayo. Khohlwa ngejubane elikhulu eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala. Ngisho nabashayeli abanolwazi oluningi kakhulu bayazi ukuthi akusilo ukuthi ama-fouls anjalo awaphumela.
Kunombono wokuthi amakhono okushayela aqondwa ngokushesha ngabesifazane abanesitoreji somuntu wesilisa, kodwa kuyiphutha. Ingabe kunzima ukufunda indlela yokushayela intombazane enomoya ophansi, omnene, ohloniphekile? Akunzima nakakhulu kunenkosikazi yensimbi, ejwayele ukugcina amadoda ngaphansi kwesithende. Ngendlela, mayelana nezithende. Uma uqala, izicathulo kufanele zibe zikhululekile ngangokunokwenzeka. Amantombazane asezithende esiteshini - engavamile, kodwa kukhona inkohliso encane: ehlezi emotweni, lo wesifazane-mzizi-mlilo uziphendulela ngokungazicathuli izicathulo ukuze akhululeke, futhi emotweni futhi bembethe "iziqu" ezizithandayo.