"Ukukhulumisana" - ukuthi sibona kaningi kangakanani, noma sisebenzisa leli gama, isibonelo, ngesifinyeto lapho kuchaza izimfanelo zethu ezinhle. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukukhulumisana nokuzibandakanya kukhona imibono emibili phakathi kokuthi ubani ongabeka uphawu olulinganayo. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akunjalo: ukukhulumisana akuyona nje inhlalakahle - kungukuthi umuntu angakwazi ukwakha oxhumana nabo kanye nokuxhumana nabantu abahlukene, ikhono lokuqhuba inkhulumomphendvulwano eyakhayo kunoma yisiphi isimo, kokubili ngomlomo nangokubhala. Ekufezeni lokhu, masize nje amakhono okuxhumana.
Izinhlobo zamakhono okuxhumana
Ngokuvamile amakhono namakhono okuxhumana ahlukaniswe:
- ebhaliwe - yikhono lokukhulumisana, ukuxhumana ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuxhumana, lapho kukhulunywa khona inkulumo yomlomo. Amakhono okuxhumana abhaliwe abonakala ngendlela ecacile futhi ehleliwe, idokhumenti idalwe, imibono ihlale ikhona kulo, futhi nangakho kungabikho amaphutha amakhulu okupelisa kanye namaphutha;
- ngomlomo - lokhu kuyikhono elibonakala ngokuxhumana ngokuqondile, noma ukuxhumana ocingweni. Amakhono okuxhumana omlomo afaka ikhono lokuveza imicabango yabo ngokucacile nangokwanele, ikhono lokuthola i-interlocutor emaminithini okuqala wengxoxo, kanye nokukwazi ukulalela umphikisi wakho.
Ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana
Ukwakhiwa kwamakhono okuxhumana kwenzeka kubantu cishe kusukela ekuzalweni (amakhono okukhulumisana ngomlomo). Kule nqubo, imvelo esemncane yengane idlala indima eqondile - kuqala umndeni, bese kuba namaqembu ezinkulisa noma abangane ebaleni lokudlala, kamuva esikoleni nabalingani nabo. Uma ekuqaleni ingane ingatholi ukukhulumisana okwanele, ngakho-ke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi (esikoleni, ekukhuleni), unenkinga ekusungulweni kobudlelwane bomphakathi.
Okunye okubalulekile izici ezingenasici zomuntu - ukufutheka, uhlobo lomuntu (ukufakazela, noma ukudlulisa), ukutholakala noma ukungabikho kwezinkinga zokukhuluma. Vumelanisa, ingane encane enomzimba we-sanguine noma umuntu we-choleric, kulula kakhulu ukuzivumelanisa kunoma yikuphi ukuhlangana kwezingane kunokuthi, isibonelo, i-introver melancholic, ngakho-ke, futhi lapho esekhulile, uyobe ejabulisa kakhulu.
Yilokhu okukhathazayo ukukhulumisana ngomlomo, amakhono ayisisekelo okuxhumana abhalwe phansi asetshenziswa esikoleni, lapho ingane ifunda ulimi olulotshiwe. Akukwenzi futhi ngaphandle kwemishayo, isibonelo, njenge-dyslexia ne-dysgraphia-ibonakala ekuhlulekeni ukufunda nokubhala, noma ukubhala nje (ukuhlaziya), ngokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo evamile. Lezi ziphulwa zikwazi ukulungiswa, kepha umuntu oye wabhekana nezinkinga ezifanayo ebuntwaneni, futhi lapho esekhulile unenkinga yokudluliswa kolwazi olubhaliwe.
Ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana
Amakhono okuxhumana okukhulumisana ahlale edlala indima enkulu ekuphileni komuntu. Ngempela, labo bantu abanabo ekupheleleni, bavame ukuphumelela kakhulu, kokubili emsebenzini nasemkhakheni wabo siqu. Ngakho-ke, uma unenhlanhla ngokwanele ukuba uzalwe ngamakhono ahlukile asemthethweni, kufanelekile ukucabanga ukuthi ungathuthukisa kanjani amakhono akho okuxhumana. Ngenxa yalokhu, kunezinketho eziningi zokuqeqeshwa kwengqondo, kaningi iqembu. Ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, ukuxhumana nabantu abavela emkhakheni wezenhlalo ezahlukene kuzosiza ekuthuthukiseni amakhono okuxhumana. Yenza njengesiqalisi sokuxhumana,
Futhi ekuphethweni: Yiqiniso, amakhono okuxhumana abaluleke kakhulu, ikakhulukazi emisebenzini ehlose ukusebenza nabantu, akukho lutho ngaphandle kokuxhumana. Kodwa-ke, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuze kwenzeke emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe, udinga ukuba uchwepheshe wangempela oqonda okushiwo ukukhiqizwa (ngamanye amazwi, akunandaba ukuthi ukukhulumisana nompheki uma engazi ukupheka). Futhi empilweni yomuntu siqu kubalulekile ukuba kungabi nje ukukhulumisana kuphela, kodwa futhi nje umuntu omuhle.