Ukuhlonipha nokuqashelwa - yilokho abantu abaningi abafuna, mhlawumbe. Umphakathi, ngokungangabazeki, uthatha inqubo ekubunzeni ubuntu. Kubalulekile kithi ukuthi abantu baphathwa kanjani futhi baphathwa kanjani thina, abathintekayo empilweni yethu. Abaningi bakhathazekile ngombuzo wokuthi bangaba kanjani umuntu ohlonishwayo. Funda kabanzi ngalokhu.
Kungani bengangihloniphi?
Isimo sengqondo sabanye kumuntu siqu kulula ukuyiqonda. Ukunganaki nokunganaki, ukungabi nandaba nokuhlekisa okungajabulisi ekhelini labo - konke lokhu kufakazela ukungabi nenhlonipho. Akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani ojabulayo lapho abantu abamzungezile belalele, babonise ububele nesithakazelo. Isimo sengqondo esinjalo singathola kuphela ngokusebenza. Abantu njalo banake lokho okushoyo nokwenzayo, kubaningi, izinga lokuxhumana lamagama akho ezenzweni kubalulekile. Uma umuntu ekhuluma ngezinhloso zakhe, imigomo nempumelelo, kodwa empeleni akenzanga lutho olunjalo empilweni yakhe, kanti emehlweni alabo abakuzungezile, uba "isabha" evamile.
Uma ufuna ukuthola inhlonipho, kufanelekile. Qaphela izitatimende "ezinkulu" nomthwalo wemfanelo ezenzweni zabo.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba wonke umuntu abe "okuhle nokulungile". Thola inhlonipho ngalabo abathandekayo kakhulu kuwe. Yini okufanele uyenze ukuze uhloniphe umyeni? - Udinga ukuqala ngokwakho. Izinkinga zomkhaya nezinkathazo akufanele ziphendule zibe "ibala" elimhlophe, kufana nesicucu sangaphakathi endlini. Yiba mnandi, uhlanganyele kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi. Zibonise kukho konke - enduduzo yasekhaya, njengomfazi nomama. Yiba nesithakazelo kukho konke ongawazi okwamanje futhi uzobe nesithakazelo kuwe futhi ubonise inhlonipho ngakho konke okwenzayo.
Ungaqala kanjani ukuzihlonipha?
Ukuzihlonipha kudinga ukwethembeka okukhulu nokuthembeka. Ungakhohlisa noma ubani, kodwa hhayi wena. Uma
Udinga ukufunda ukuthethelela. Qaphela amaphutha akho kanye nokuhluleka, wamukele futhi uzinikezele isithembiso sokuthuthukisa nokuthuthukisa. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, noma yiliphi igama ozinikeza lona, udinga ukugcina nokufeza injongo. Khona-ke uzoqala ukuzihlonipha wena, ngoba uzoba nesizathu salokhu.