Amahloni yilokho okuphawulekayo komuntu ongakwazi kokubili uhlamvu oluhle nolungalungile. Abanye abazi lo mzwa, kodwa abanye udlula kuphela ubudala. Kodwa, umuntu angayeka kanjani ukuba namahloni futhi abe nokuzethemba? Ungabona ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho uzizwa ungakhululekile ngisho nalapho usukhulile, uma udinga ukuya kumuntu ongaziwa futhi unokuthile okumele ufunde kuye.
Yiqiniso, umuzwa onjalo ungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yomuntu siqu ngisho nasemsebenzini . Ngenxa yokwesaba, umuntu angakwazi nje ukuqaphela lokho ayekuhlelile futhi wonke amathuba okuphumelela empilweni ayokwehliswa abe yizero.
Ungaba kanjani omuhle futhi uziqiniseke futhi ulahle amahloni?
Ukungavikeleki kuhlanganisa amahloni. Njengomthetho, abantu abanjalo bahlushwa ukuzethemba okuphansi futhi bahlale behlangenwe nakho, ukuthi bangabheka kanjani wonke umuntu obazungezile. Ngezinye izikhathi ikhula ibe yinkimbinkimbi futhi ivaliwe.
Inkinga enjalo ibhekene nalabo bantu abathi, njengengane, bawela phansi ekuhlekwa usulu kweontanga ngisho nabantu abadala. Ngenxa yalokho okubonakalayo, umuntu angakwazi ukuzicwilisa ngokuphelele, ehlale ezwa umuzwa wokuhlazeka nokuhlazeka.
Kungenzeka yini ukuqeda ukuhlazeka?
Indlela yokuba nesibindi nokuzethemba, ungatshela inqwaba yezazi-psychologists ezincoma ukuthi zisebenze njalo, zithuthukisa ukuzethemba, zigxile ekufinyeleleni umgomo wazo.
- Into yokuqala edingekile ukubona lokho okubangela ukuba namahloni futhi ukhumbule lezo zikhathi lapho le mfanelo ivimbela okufunayo. Uma ixhunyiwe, isibonelo, ngesisindo esiningi, ukulahlekelwa isisindo kungaba yisisusa esihle kakhulu sokuqeda amahloni.
- Ukuze ugweme ukwesaba nokuhlazeka kokukhulumisana nabantu, kungenzeka, njalo ngangokunokwenzeka, ukukhuluma nabantu abangabazi emgwaqweni: cela isikhathi ukuthi ungene esibhedlela, njll. Ukuthi ukusebenza kahle "ngendlela emisiwe" kusasebenza.
- Kuhle kakhulu kusiza ukushintsha imvelo. Okunye phakathi kwalabo oxhumana nabo abanokuqiniseka, kungcono. Isibonelo esihle singcono kunezingcebiso eziyinkulungwane.
- Zama ukwandisa ukuzethemba futhi uvuselele kahle. Bambalwa abantu abathandekayo, abathandwa ngabantu, futhi uma kunjalo, ungabi namahloni ngawe, ikakhulukazi ngokumelene nesizinda sabathengi abaqinile nabanamandla.