Ukulingana kwamadoda nabesifazane kungenye yezinkinga ezibaluleke kakhulu zekhulu lama-21. Namuhla, ukuziphatha, imibono, isimo sengqondo ngemindeni, kanye nezindinganiso zokuphila ngokuvamile, kokubili emadodeni nakwabesifazane, zihluke kakhulu kulabokhokho bethu.
Ukulingana emndenini kuyisihloko esiphakade sezingxabano phakathi kwabameleli besilisa nabesilisa. Abesifazane bafuna ukulingana kuzo zonke izindawo zomsebenzi, kokubili empilweni yomndeni nasekukhuleni komsebenzi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, zonke izingxabano ezivela ngenxa yokuxabana ngokuvamile zihlotshaniswa nokuntula ukuqonda umbono wokulingana nokulingana.
Ukulingana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, ngokusho kwabaningi, kuwukukhohlisa nje. Lokhu kugcizelelwa yinkomba yokulingana, eyashicilela isithangami sezomnotho sezwe ngonyaka esibala amathuba amadoda nabesifazane ezombusazwe, imisebenzi, ukunakekelwa kwempilo kanye nemfundo.
Amalungelo afanayo wezocansi
Namuhla, iningi lehlukaniso libangelwa izingxabano ngesisekelo sokungalingani kanye nokuphulwa kwamalungelo omuntu. Abesifazane bancintisana namadoda ngenxa yobuholi, okubangela ukunganeliseki phakathi kwamadoda, kuyilapho lo wesifazane elahlekelwa ngokuphelele izici zakhe namasiko akhe, abe owesifazane oyisibi sebhizinisi . Kukhona omunye othi: "Indlela yowesifazane - kusuka kuhhavini kuya emngceleni." Futhi lesi saga njengento yokuziqhenya sezinzile ebuchosheni bobulili bobabili ngendlela efanayo "amadoda angakhali." Futhi ekugcineni lezi zinkolelo ziye zaholela ekutheni akunangqondo ukuthi owesifazane akhuphuke izinga lezemisebenzi, futhi indoda kufanele idonsele umthwalo owodwa wemfanelo ngaphansi kokungabaza okuqhubekayo emandleni akhe wesilisa. Ukulingana ebuhlotsheni ngeke kuguquke, yize izinkulungwane zemithetho namakhodi avunyelwe, futhi izihloko eziningi ezifundwayo ngokobulili, abaningi bayaqiniseka, kuze kube yilapho singayiqondi ukuthi sonke singabantu, futhi imiqondo enjengomsebenzi omuhle, amandla, ukugeza izitsha akuxhomekile nhlobo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyindoda noma owesifazane.
Akufanele kunqatshelwe ukuthi ukubandlululwa kobulili obuthakathaka kusekhona futhi ukulingana kwabesifazane kusho, okokuqala, ukulingana kwamathuba. Isibonelo esivuthayo: endaweni eyodwa eqinile isikhundla esiphakeme kwakukhona ukukhetha phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, ukhetho lwanikezwa yindoda ngenxa yowakhe kuphela wesilisa wesilisa, nakuba le ntombazane yayinolwazi oluningi futhi ifanelekile kakhulu kule ndawo. Uphi logiji?
Ngokwemvelo, esinye isenzakalo sabonakala singenakugwemeka, okungukuthi, umzabalazo wokulingana kwabesifazane, okubandakanyeka nezinye izinkinga eziningi kanye nezimo ezibhekene nokubhekene nobulili, kuhlanganise nokunyakaza kwabantu besifazane ngokulingana. Yiqiniso, kusobala ukuthi lokhu kuyinselele yokulingana emkhakheni wokuqashwa, ngoba kule ndawo owesifazane abhekana nokuphulwa ngokweqile nokwenqaba. Ngoba isizathu sangempela sokwenqaba bonke abaqashi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa isisebenzi ngokushesha ngemuva kokuwuthola, ngoba akekho umphathi ozofuna ukulinda u-economist iminyaka engama-2-3 aze ashiye ikhefu lokubeletha, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kungathandeki ukugcina indawo yomama osemncane.
Abantu abaningi bacabanga, kodwa lokhu kulingana ngokobulili kujwayelekile? Kunemibono emibili ye-polar kulo mbuzo, echazwe ngenhla. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi "for" noma "ngokumelene". Ingxenye yesithathu ayinikezwa. Kodwa kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi bobabili bobabili bathola okuthile
Njengoba kancane kancane kuvumelana nokuthi indawo yowesifazane akuyona esitofu kuphela, abantu baqhubeka befuna kuye ukuba bahambisane nemisebenzi emibili: umama obhekene nokukhuliswa kwezingane, umyeni wakhe kanye nomsebenzi wezemisebenzi, okuzikhulisa kakhulu emsebenzini wakhe. Futhi, amadoda akudingeki ukuba abe ongoti abahle kuphela, kepha futhi "amadoda anamandla alo mhlaba" futhi abhekane nezinkinga eziwela kokubili abameleli bobabili. Futhi wonke lo mzabalazo okhona akasoze ayeke kuze kube yilapho siqonde ukuthi sonke singabantu, futhi akekho okhokhelwa lutho kunoma ubani.