Ngamunye wethu kwadingeka ahlangane empilweni ngokuziphatha okungaphili kahle. Ngezinye izikhathi siyakubheka kusukela ohlangothini, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sibhekana nobudlova ngokuqondene nathi. Lokhu akujabulisi futhi ngingathanda ukwakha ubudlelwane ngokuhlonipha, ngoba siphila emphakathini ophucukile. Kodwa, naphezu kwalokhu, kunabantu abambalwa abalambile kungekho sizathu sokubonisa ukuhlukunyezwa nokuphoqa isimo sengqondo somuntu. Okungcono, uma ungakwazi nje ukuyeka ukukhuluma nabantu abanjalo, kodwa akukhona njalo ithuba elinjalo. Isibonelo, uma ubuqili bubonakala emsebenzini, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ungasabela kanjani ngokufanele.
Indlela yokusabela ngayo ngokunyanyisa kozakwethu?
Ukuze ukwazi ukuphumelela ukulwa nokuhlukunyezwa ekhelini lakho, kubalulekile, okokuqala, ukwandisa ukuzihlonipha komuntu futhi wengeze ukuzethemba. Ubuntu obunamandla obungalahlekelwa ukuzithiba esimweni esinjalo kunzima ukukhetha. Phela, umsebenzi oyinhloko we-boor ukuphuma ngokuthula kwengqondo. Uma ebona ukuthi amazwi akhe akanayo umphumela kuwe, uzolahlekelwa yisimo phezu kwalesi simo khona-ke kuyoba lula ukumdumaza ngesenzo noma ibinzana elingalindelekile.
Indlela yokusabela ngayo ukukhwabanisa komphathi?
Kunzima kakhulu ukusabela ngokunyanyisa kwabakhulumi, ngoba noma yikuphi impendulo egcwele imiphumela. Uma bekufanelekile, kufanelekile ukulalela ngokuthula, ungathathi konke, bese uqhubekela phambili engxoxweni eyakhayo. Uma ukuziphatha kwama-boorish kwenzeka njalo futhi kusukela ekuqaleni, umuntu kufanele acele ngokucophelela inhloko yesizathu saleso simo sengqondo.
Ungasabela kanjani ngokunyanyisa emsebenzini womuntu ongaphansi?
Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi phakathi kwalabo abangaphansi kwabo kungenzeka kube nomuntu ohlukumezekile ohlukumezeka phambi kwenhlangano yonke. Isimo sengqondo esinjalo kuwe kungenjalo asikwazi ukuvunyelwa ukuqhuba inkambo yayo, ngaphandle kwalokho kuyoholela ekutheni abanye abaphansi bazoyeka ukubalwa nabo. Awudingi ukumphendula ngendlela efanayo, ngoba izobonisa ukungakwazi kwakho. Kumele uthole ukuhluleka kwakhe emsebenzini, ucele ehhovisini lakhe, ubatshele, ngenkathi ebona ukuthi maduzane, kungase kube nokunciphisa, okuzowela kuyo kuqala.