Ukutholakala kwezindlela zokukholisa empikiswaneni kungenye yezingxenye ezibalulekile ze-oratory. Kodwa, uzovuma, ngezinye izikhathi isifiso esinamandla sokufakazela into esivimbela ukuzwa nokuzwa i-interlocutor, obuye abe nombono wakhe kanye nokuzethemba kwakhe ngokufanele. Mayelana nokuthi yiziphi izinyathelo zobugebengu ezingangena ezenzweni zokukholisa, nokuthi ungaphikisa kanjani, uzofunda kulesi sihloko.
Izindlela eziwusizo zokukholelwa empikiswaneni:
- "Izimpendulo ezihle". Le ndlela ingenye yezinkolelo ezivame kakhulu ezingqondweni. Ukwakha ingxoxo isihluthulelo semvume yokuqala. Qala ukukholelwa kwakho ngemibuzo enjalo kanye nezitatimende ezizokwenza impendulo eqinisekisiwe evela ku-interlocutor. Umuntu ozimisele ukwamukela imibono yakho, kulula ukuvumelana nezimpikiswano ezalandela.
- Kukhona inqubo efanayo - "salami". Ekuqaleni, udinga ukuthola imvume kwimibono ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngemva kwalokho, ungaqhubeka nemininingwane ukuze uzuze ngokuvumelana.
- Enye yezindlela zakudala ezinengqondo zokukholelwa "yi-rhetoric". Iqala ngemvume yezitatimende zomlingani, kodwa-ke i-interlocutor iveza ngokucacile ikhadi lempondo elikhulu - impikiswano ephikisayo yokuphikisana.
- "Ukungqubuzana kwamabili". Le nqubo iphelele ekukholiseni umlingani ohlakaniphile. Ukuze uzuze ukwethenjwa komxhumanisi, awukhombisi nje kuphela oqinile, kodwa futhi namaphuzu abuthakathaka okucabanga kwakhe. Ngamandla, ngokwemvelo, kufanele abuse.
- "Ukudikibala." Udinga ukuhlukanisa inkulumo ka-interlocutor yokuphikisana okuphazamisayo ukufakazela ukungahambisani kwesimo sakhe sonke.
- Enye yezindlela ezingokwengqondo zokukholisa ekuphikisana yizwi lokuziphendulela ngezimpikiswano ezibuthakathaka ukuthi i
ungumlingani wakho. Ngokugxila kubo, kulula ukuba uphendule umqondo wakhe jikelele. - Iziphetho ezihlukile zomlingani zingagcwaliswa kancane kancane, uma ulandela inqubo yokuxazulula inkinga nayo. Ngakho, wena uhlobo lokukhetha indlela yesisombululo ndawonye.
Umthetho oyinhloko wenkolelo: ungamhleki umlingani wakho futhi ukhombise ukuphakama kwakho, ngaphandle kwalokho umuntu angasoze aye emhlanganweni wakho. Futhi khumbula amazwi ka-Epicurus: "ezimpikiswaneni zefilosofi ukunqoba kunqoba, ngoba kuzuza ukuhlakanipha okusha."