Ungasusa kanjani uthando?

"Kungani udinga ukuqeda uthando, ngoba lo mzwa ufunwa wonke umuntu" - ubuza? Kubukeka sengathi kuyiqiniso, kodwa akekho ofuna ukuhlupheka ngenxa yothando olungenakuqhathaniswa noma olungathandeki. Ngakho-ke kudingekile ukuzama ukuthola indlela yokukhipha lowo mzwa. Futhi kwenzeka nokuthi uthando luthandana, kepha ubuhlobo bume, wahlukana, futhi imizwa ayizange ihambe. Kulokhu, futhi, uthando luzolimaza kuphela.

Ungasusa kanjani umuzwa wothando?

Ake sibheke amaphuzu ukuthi singasusa kanjani uthando, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ekuqaleni kwakungenakuphikiswa noma kube njengomphumela wokuhlukanisa.

1. Into yokuqala okudingeka yenziwe ngempela ukufisa ukuqeda lo mzwelo okukuhlupha. Akunandaba ukuthi uyakwenza kanjani - thintana nodokotela, bhala esithangamini "Usizo lokususa uthando" noma, ukuvuka ekuseni, unqume "kodwa konke kuhambeni, ngiqala impilo entsha." Kubalulekile ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, ukuqaphela ukuthi lo mzwa awudingi, ukuthi kusuka kuwo udinga nje ukuwususa. Futhi uma usengabaza, cabanga ukuthi ungabiza yini ukuthi uzizwa uthandani? Cishe, imizwa yakho ifana nokulutha umlutha. Kungaba okuhlukile - nokuphathekayo, nokwabelana ngokobulili, nangokomzwelo, futhi akusiyo njalo imizwelo emihle. Ukwethuka okuqine kakhulu kukhiqizwa okuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile, futhi ngokumangalisayo, ukuxhomeka kungase kuvele kuzo. Kunoma yikuphi, lesi simo sibuhlungu, kodwa njenganoma yisiphi isifo, kufanele siphathwe.
2. Ngakho, wanquma ukuthi awudingi lokhu kuxhomekeke. Ungasusa kanjani lolo thando, loqobo, luthando lwezidakamizwa? Ukuze uqaphele ukuthi yikuphi ukuphazamiseka lo mzwelo okulethwe kuwe, bhala phansi ephepheni lokho okulahlekile ngenxa yothando lwakho: waqala ukuhlangana nabangani abangaphansi, waqala ukulala kakhulu, ukhohlwa ukuthi ungakujabulela kanjani ukuphila? Uyabona, yiyiphi inqwaba yezinkinga ekulethele lokhu, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiwe awutholanga lutho.
3. Njengoba uqaphele futhi uthathe isidingo sokuqeda le nkinga, uzobe usuvele wenze ingxenye yomsebenzi. Isigaba esilandelayo ukubuka zonke izinkinga ozibhale phansi ephepheni, nesisombululo sabo esihlala njalo - imihlangano nabangani, izinqubo zokuzilibazisa nokuzijabulisa. Ukufunda ukujabula futhi nsuku zonke ngeke kube lula, kodwa uzophumelela, into esemqoka ingukuthi ulahlekelwe, ngoba ufanelwe injabulo, futhi akusihlwa kusigcwalisa ukuhlupheka nokukhala.

Ungasusa kanjani uthando lwangempela?

I-intanethi isiza ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi, nakuba isigamu sazo yena ngokwakhe udala. Ngitshele, akusiyo omama bethu, futhi ngisho nangakhulu kangaka ugogo, abahluphekile uthando olubonakalayo? Akunjalo! Futhi esikhathini sethu, lesi senzakalo asiyona into engavamile. Into ethakazelisayo kakhulu ukuthi abantu bayaqaphela ukuthembela kwabo okunjalo, kodwa abakwazi ukukuqeda, ngoba nje akunakwenzeka ukukhipha ikhompyutha ne-Inthanethi kusuka empilweni yanamuhla. Ngakho-ke, yini okufanele uyenze, ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nothando olubonakalayo?

Indlela engcono kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nenjongo yokudumisa kwakho ezweni langempela. Ngokuvamile ngemva komhlangano onjalo, uthando olukhohlisayo luqhuma njengotshani ogwayi ovela emoyeni. Umuntu wangempela akakho konke lokho, okwakubonakala ngathi lapho sikhuluma ku-ICQ nase-skype. Abantu abanokwethenjelwa abavikelekile baba ngamadodana omama, izazi ezihlakaniphile namagama amabili abakwazi ukuxhuma (akekho okhona), futhi ama-hamovatye ama-eyes ayenamahloni ngempela amahloni. Awu, uma unenhlanhla, futhi into yothando lwakho kwakuyiyona ndlela oyihlolile ngayo, kulokhu, uthando lwangempela luzophulukiswa. Uzobe usuthanda naye kakade empilweni yangempela, okuthakazelisa kakhulu kunokuzijabulisa endaweni ye-intanethi.

Uma kungenakwenzeka ukuhlangabezana, kufanele senzeni? Kunendlela eyodwa kuphela - ukukhuluma nomthandi wakho, chaza isimo bese ususa bonke othintana nabo, ukuze kungabi nesilingo sokuqalisa ukuxhumana. Futhi yebo, phuma, ekugcineni, uye emgwaqweni.