Ukuhlupheka ngokuziphatha okuvame ukuthwala kithi ngaphezu kokuphazamiseka ngokomzimba. Isibonelo, umqondo oqhubekayo wecala - usishushisa, kubangela ukuhlupheka. Kodwa kuyakusiza ukuhlukanisa phakathi kombuso lapho sitshela ngempela isimo, nomqondo ongenangqondo wecala. Indlela yokuqeda imizwa yecala endaweni yesibili futhi sizoyiqonda.
Izimbangela zecala
Umzwelo onecala, ngisho noma kungabangelwa izenzo zekhonkrit, njalo kunezimbangela. Nazi ezinye zazo:
- Ngokuvamile kukhona umuzwa wecala phambi kwabazali, okuvame ukuqala ebuntwaneni. Abazali basitshela ukuthi singcono kakhulu futhi ngenxa yalokho sesaba ukuthi singaphili ngokuvumelana nezilindelo zethu. Futhi, uma okuthile kungasebenzi, siqala ukuzibulala, sizizwe sinecala phambi kwabazali bethu, abenze okuningi kangangokuthi sonke sinakho konke, futhi silahlekile ngalezi zinto. Kukhona okunye okweqile, okuyinto abazali abawela ngayo lapho bekhulela - ingane ihlale isethwe njengesibonelo somuntu onenhlanhla. Ukukhula, umuntu onjalo uyaqhubeka ethola kubazali bakhe imiyalo nezibonelo zabanye abantu abaphumelele kakhulu, abazali abafihli ukudumala ngenxa yokuthi abakwazi ukukhula nomsebenzi webhizinisi ophumelelayo, isibonakaliso sesayensi, njll. Futhi umuzwa wecala, ohlakulwa abazali abakhathalelayo kusukela ebuntwaneni, awunqamuki noma kuphi, ushushisa umuntu konke ukuphila kwakhe.
- Kunzima futhi ukubhekana nomuzwa wecala ngomuntu oshonile. Eqinisweni, umuntu angeke abe necala lokufa komuntu othandekayo, kodwa usazizwa enecala. Ngokuvamile lo mzwa ubonakala unemibono enengqondo, isibonelo, "uma bengingaceli ukuba ngiye esitolo kusihlwa, wayengeke akhubeke esitebhisini esimnyama futhi engafanga afe."
- Ekubukeni kwalo mzwelo, izinkolelo nezindlela zokuziphatha ezibekwe kithi zingabuye zibekwe icala. Ukwenza okuphambene nemithetho yokuziphatha (asikhulumi ngobugebengu njengamanje, Yebo), siqala ukuzizwa sinecala, senze amahloni ngalokho okwenziwe. Nakuba kungenzeka, ngokuvamile, i-prank engenacala. Kulokhu, umuntu unesimo sokukhathazeka nokuziphendulela. Konke okushiwoyo, uthatha ngezindleko zakhe, yonke imibono yokugxila, zonke izibonakaliso zibhekwa njengezingxube zezinhlekelele.
- Into eyinkimbinkimbi ukukhipha imizwa yecala esithweswe abanye abantu! Kukhona uhlobo lwabantu abangakwazi ukuvuma amaphutha abo, bahlale bebeka abanye icala. Futhi lokhu kuyakholisa ukuthi umuntu uqala ngempela ukukholelwa ukuthi kuzo zonke ukwehluleka kanye nokuhlukunyezwa kwabanye kuphela unecala.
Ungasusa kanjani umuzwa wecala njalo
Ukuphila ngomuzwa wecala kunzima kakhulu, ngakho-ke zama ukukhipha. Nazi ezinye amathiphu okuzokusiza ukwenza lokhu:
- Ukuhlaziywa okuzolile kwesimo samanje kuzosiza ukuqeda imizwa yecala. Kudingeka ucabange ngokucophelela, ukulandelela ukuthi yisiphi isigaba sokuzizwa unecala kubonakala futhi uhlola ngokucophelela ukuthi ungabekwa yini okwenzekile noma lokhu kuhlangene kwezimo. Uma ungenjalo, khona-ke umuzwa wecala kufanele ube yize. Uma, esimweni samanje, iphutha lakho likhona, ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukuzithembisa ukuthi esikhathini esizayo uzobe uqaphele ngokubala izenzo zakho. Zethembisa ukuthi lokhu ngeke kwenzeke futhi, kodwa vumela inkinga ihambe.
- Ekubuntwaneni safundiswa ukuthi singabhekana kanjani nemizwa yecala, lapho umuntu esekhulile le ndlela isebenza futhi. Kumele sibuze ngobuqotho ukuthi intethelelo evela kumuntu obhekene naye ocabanga ukuthi unecala. Uma kungekho indlela yokumtshela lokhu ngokwayo, khona-ke cabanga nje ngomfanekiso walowo muntu noma ubonise konke ukuzisola kwesithombe sakhe. Abantu bezenkolo bavame ukusizwa ngokuvakashela isonto, ukuvuma, ukuthandazela umuntu okhubazekile.
- Ubani abangathandi abantu abaseduze abasisiza ukuba sibhekane nezinkinga? Uma kunomqondo wecala, usizo lwabo ngeke lube lukhulu nakakhulu. Xoxa nomuntu omethembayo, isimo esiye savela, sisho ngokuphelele. Ngezinye izikhathi asidingi ukuthethelelwa okukhulu, kodwa nje nje ithuba lokuhlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu nomuntu.
- Indlela enhle yokukhipha imizwa yecala ukuchaza konke okukuphazamisayo, ephepheni. Emva kokubhalwa kufanele kufundwe kabusha, bese ushisa leli qabunga noma uliqhekeze libe yizicucu ezincane bese ulilahla.
- Uma uzame zonke izindlela, kodwa icala alicabangi ukubuyela emuva, khona-ke kufanele ucele usizo oluvela kumchwepheshe. Isazi sengqondo sizokusiza ukuxazulula le nkinga.